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Should they describe this menu item better

263 replies

holidaybubble · Yesterday 13:06

Went to a cafe for the first time it’s not for profit and does stuff for the community. I had been wanting to try it out for a while and finally went to day with my toddler I checked the menu to see if he would eat anything and saw baked beans. I ordered him baked beans on toast with a sausage turns out the beans where homemade and spiced Aibu to think they should state this on the menu as there is a big difference between tinned and home made. I said to the girl behind the counter it was my first time coming she could have said did I know the beans were spiced when ordering for my son. Obviously he refused to eat them.

not linked to my Aibu but my full English came with toast and I got toast for him too. The wait for food was long so they gave me my son’s toast early which I hadn’t asked for. I then didn’t revive my toast with my meal and he then had no toast for his beans. I would have said something but my son was screaming as he was hungry and pushing his pot of beans and spitting them out so I just inhaled mine and left. The person that also works there had gone upstairs and I didn’t want to wait.

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Peachylove802 · Yesterday 15:58

Calliopespa · Yesterday 15:58

Yes, but I'm not suggesting HE should have said anything. But if it's her child, it falls to her to look out for him and know what he eats and doesn't eat.

Oh come on, she ordered beans assuming heinz. Get a grip.

Calliopespa · Yesterday 15:59

Peachylove802 · Yesterday 15:58

Oh come on, she ordered beans assuming heinz. Get a grip.

I know she did. That's what is a bit depressing. That was my whole point. Do you always eat beans out of a tin?

SapphireOpal · Yesterday 15:59

Calliopespa · Yesterday 15:58

Yes, but I'm not suggesting HE should have said anything. But if it's her child, it falls to her to look out for him and know what he eats and doesn't eat.

Yes he doesn't eat spicy food and eggs. So she ordered him baked beans on toast.

I wouldn't expect that to be spicy either!

SapphireOpal · Yesterday 16:00

Calliopespa · Yesterday 15:59

I know she did. That's what is a bit depressing. That was my whole point. Do you always eat beans out of a tin?

I cook and bake most things from scratch but I don't make my own homemade baked beans, no...

Peachylove802 · Yesterday 16:02

Calliopespa · Yesterday 15:59

I know she did. That's what is a bit depressing. That was my whole point. Do you always eat beans out of a tin?

FFS are you dense? You think you are morally superior to anyone who assumed the beans would be heniz style beans?

Error404FucksNotFound · Yesterday 16:02

Yes, the description should have been clear because in the real world there is an expectation / assumption re what "baked beans" are.

steff13 · Yesterday 16:10

Honeyhonay · Yesterday 13:18

It’s weird to assume it would be tinned in a restaurant without checking, baked beans do not exclusively come from a tin.

I would expect baked beans to be made from scratch at a restaurant.

BillieWiper · Yesterday 16:15

Just don't use it again. I mean if I was running it I'd state the beans were home made and spiced, just because it would justify the inflated cost.
But I think you're just disappointed overall which is fine, use TripAdvisor and your feet.

I don't really think it's anything that important to worry about though. It's true that most cafes/ restaurants aren't necessarily geared up specifically for the tastes of toddlers. Not should they be.

DappledThings · Yesterday 16:16

steff13 · Yesterday 16:10

I would expect baked beans to be made from scratch at a restaurant.

I would only expect beans to be available in an actual restaurant as opposed to a café on breakfast. And unless actually stated otherwise I would very much assume they were tinned. They really aren't an item most people are making from scratch.

DeftGoldHedgehog · Yesterday 16:18

Love how the OP berates the café for misdescribing their spicy baked beans then calls baked egg with spinach "A Full English."

Calliopespa · Yesterday 16:23

Peachylove802 · Yesterday 16:02

FFS are you dense? You think you are morally superior to anyone who assumed the beans would be heniz style beans?

I am neither dense nor morally superior, but I do think it is a bit depressing when as a nation people seem to think baked beans must come from a tin - and yes I do make my own. Not morally superior, I just don't assume beans need to come ready made in a tin. The Heinz recipe isn't that nice to be honest versus homemade ones. I do use beans in water from a tin to make them as it is quicker, but a decent sauce is much better made from scratch and then you bake them in the oven.

I am relieved to see some others assume at a restaurant beans might be made from scratch: it is one of the easiest things in the world to make.

Calliopespa · Yesterday 16:23

steff13 · Yesterday 16:10

I would expect baked beans to be made from scratch at a restaurant.

So would I.

Tryagain26 · Yesterday 16:28

I can't understand why he was starving. Hadn't he already eaten the toast and he also had a sausage. And wasn't there anything in your full English that he would eat? Couldn't you ask for more toast?
How spiced were the beans? I think in a community cafe I would have asked about the beans and not assumed they were tinned

Monty36 · Yesterday 16:29

A community kitchen are likely to use spices and to cook beans from scratch.
They will not be aware that your child doesn’t like spices. Many children will eat spicy food.
Didn’t understand the toast situation. Or why you had to leave. And why he was screaming. He could eat his sausage he had been given ? They came out with some toast early for him?

Tryagain26 · Yesterday 16:31

fashionqueen0123 · Yesterday 14:07

I would have sent them back. I’d have expected normal baked beans.

Why assume that a restaurant/cafe would serve tinned beans and not make their own?

Faveway · Yesterday 16:33

Calliopespa · Yesterday 16:23

I am neither dense nor morally superior, but I do think it is a bit depressing when as a nation people seem to think baked beans must come from a tin - and yes I do make my own. Not morally superior, I just don't assume beans need to come ready made in a tin. The Heinz recipe isn't that nice to be honest versus homemade ones. I do use beans in water from a tin to make them as it is quicker, but a decent sauce is much better made from scratch and then you bake them in the oven.

I am relieved to see some others assume at a restaurant beans might be made from scratch: it is one of the easiest things in the world to make.

That's not really what is being said. People are saying that if you see baked beans on a menu, unless it says otherwise, they will be standard tinned backed beans. They are not saying that 'baked beans must come from a tin'.

GeorgeMichaelsCat · Yesterday 16:36

Amazed so many people think most restaurants make homemade baked beans. They are bought in. Go to The Devonshire, yes they will be homemade. 99% of other places, they are bought in.

Calliopespa · Yesterday 16:37

Faveway · Yesterday 16:33

That's not really what is being said. People are saying that if you see baked beans on a menu, unless it says otherwise, they will be standard tinned backed beans. They are not saying that 'baked beans must come from a tin'.

Well I guess I wouldn't assume that because I don't use the tinned ones except for an emergency. I don't like the taste or the vomity-pale orange red of the sauce.

So I wouldn't assume it - and that's how discussion forums work: everyone gives their perspective. And mine is I think it is a bit of a sad statement if as a country we assume baked beans are tinned. Beans are a fabulously nutritious, economical and easy to make meal, and I don't understand the need to have mediocre beans from a tin.

OriginalUsername2 · Yesterday 16:37

All this arguing about beans 😅

Here’s my bean experience: I grew up in a family restaurant, worked in 3 other restaurants as an adult and have been a paying customer in restaurants. I can honestly say I’ve never seen homemade baked beans in my life.

Gardenisablooming · Yesterday 16:40

I feel your frustration op. Once took toddler ds for a pub lunch with adult ds. A real novelty! Ordered a veggie hotdog in a bun for ds..
What arrived was a spicy falafel in a bun.. Not a chance in hell ds was eating that. 6 quid down the drain.

wishingonastar101 · Yesterday 16:44

Totaldramallama · Yesterday 13:54

He needed toast because he was hungry and the main component of his meal was not edible for him

He had eaten the toast before the beans came - so why would he need extra toast to eat with the beans when he wasn't eating the beans!

toastandegg · Yesterday 16:46

I definitely think they should have mentioned- I have an allergy to chilli which includes paprika and would have been quite ill

fashionqueen0123 · Yesterday 16:46

Tryagain26 · Yesterday 16:31

Why assume that a restaurant/cafe would serve tinned beans and not make their own?

Because I've ordered them a zillion times and they've always been out of a tin.

Calliopespa · Yesterday 16:46

Monty36 · Yesterday 16:29

A community kitchen are likely to use spices and to cook beans from scratch.
They will not be aware that your child doesn’t like spices. Many children will eat spicy food.
Didn’t understand the toast situation. Or why you had to leave. And why he was screaming. He could eat his sausage he had been given ? They came out with some toast early for him?

All of this ^

JanBlues2026 · Yesterday 16:47

AtomicBlondeRose · Yesterday 15:48

I hate people dicking about with the food on kids’ menus. Yes yes this is Mumsnet and every kids here eats everything but most children I have known want bland, predictable stuff when they eat out. Which means: no bread with random seeds in, no mustard in ham sandwiches, skin-on fries are a gamble, no pre-ketchupped burgers, no rocket on pizza, no blue cheese, no cheese with any flavour at all actually, no olives, JUST THE FOOD ON THE MENU AND NOTHING ELSE. if the adventurous children want other things they can choose from the adult menu but please just serve kids white bread and plain stuff they will actually eat while starving, distracted, overstimulated and all the rest of it. My kids would eat anything at home but when they went out they wanted a white bread ham sandwich and they wanted the ham to be flat and plain and with no breading or anything fancy.

This - in fact even things not as described on adults’ menu - mayo on sandwiches, burger sauce, unexpected dressings on salad. If there is any type of sauce or condiment on it, put it on the menu! DH always has to ask as he has an aversion to sauce and has learned the hard way everything comes with something on it nowadays.

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