Should they describe this menu item better

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Went to a cafe for the first time it’s not for profit and does stuff for the community. I had been wanting to try it out for a while and finally went to day with my toddler I checked the menu to see if he would eat anything and saw baked beans. I ordered him baked beans on toast with a sausage turns out the beans where homemade and spiced Aibu to think they should state this on the menu as there is a big difference between tinned and home made. I said to the girl behind the counter it was my first time coming she could have said did I know the beans were spiced when ordering for my son. Obviously he refused to eat them.

not linked to my Aibu but my full English came with toast and I got toast for him too. The wait for food was long so they gave me my son’s toast early which I hadn’t asked for. I then didn’t revive my toast with my meal and he then had no toast for his beans. I would have said something but my son was screaming as he was hungry and pushing his pot of beans and spitting them out so I just inhaled mine and left. The person that also works there had gone upstairs and I didn’t want to wait.

I didn't miss the point. Introducing new foods at that age tends to mean the child gets used to different foods.

I am with you OP. A little while ago I ordered macaroni cheese for my grandson. When it arrived the sauce was strongly flavoured with mustard and the top liberally spinkled with paprika. 4 year old grandson who will try most things was not impressed. Sent it back and ordered something else.
To be clear this was from the children's menu and I had ordered the smaller portion for younger children. No mention of mustard or paprika!

Where allergies are concerned, the onus is on you to check before you order though. And I say that as someone with a long list of life threatening allergies. I get that it is a pain when something sounds simple, but you should always check.

Another batshit crazy thread. Everyone knows what to expect when 'baked beans' appear on a menu. Something out of a tin, maybe Heinz but in all probability a cheaper version from a big tin. Everyone knows that if they were hand-crafted, spiced, the chef's special recipe baked beans it would say so on the menu. Everyone apart from a surprising number of MNetters anyway.😂

No. I’ve never been served canned beans outside of home. Ever. My mum purchased tinned beans from the supermarket for emergency meals, and when I went to uni I would buy tinned beans at times and eat straight from the can, so I know what they taste like, but as an adult, or child I have never had them served to me otherwise.

Then you've never eaten a full English in a caff or a Wetherspoon's or ordered beans on toast for a child at a soft play centre?

My congratulations.

It is not an angle.
Leaen to recognise propaganda.

Yeah, that lie destroys my trust that is anything but a Wetherspoons promo or summat

Lol
I suppose your precious toddler would've just got on with it eh

Where is the pure saltless boiled food of yesteryear?

Oh god, homemade baked beans. Have they nothing better to do? YANBU.

If you’re such a fussy eater that homemade baked beans need a trigger warning, why even bother eating out?

Yes I'd have assumed baked beans meant normal heinz style tinned beans but he still had toast and sausage so I don't see what massive difference having the beans would have made?

I also haven't eaten tinned beans outside of my house as I have a full breakfast with no beans and if I have a jacket potatoe my go to is cheese and coleslaw, we do eat baked beans but my aspergers partner will only eat Branston and can't guarantee brand outside of home , but the sort of cafes and restaurants we go to wouldn't do home made spicy baked beans any way

I would assume baked beans meant normal baked beans from a tin.

My child with autism would be unlikely to eat fancy baked beans and would have been very disappointed.

I think, unless you're in a restaurant where you would expect chef fresh made food, that most people would be thinking it's from a tin of Heinz or similar. The menu or staff should have given enough information for you to know what you were going to get.

Not all baked beans are Heinz. If your son is not fussed in other types of baked beans, the onus is on you to make the enquiry not on the cafe to put in brackets ( not Heinz) next to the item in the menu.

If I had a child who I knew would reject some foods, I would ask the staff to describe the baked beans before ordering them

With BAKED BEANS? No you wouldn't don't lie.

It's totally normal to expect baked beans when the menu says baked beans, and yes, I would expect a menu to say if they are not normal tinned baked beans.

I hate people dicking about with the food on kids’ menus. Yes yes this is Mumsnet and every kids here eats everything but most children I have known want bland, predictable stuff when they eat out. Which means: no bread with random seeds in, no mustard in ham sandwiches, skin-on fries are a gamble, no pre-ketchupped burgers, no rocket on pizza, no blue cheese, no cheese with any flavour at all actually, no olives, JUST THE FOOD ON THE MENU AND NOTHING ELSE. if the adventurous children want other things they can choose from the adult menu but please just serve kids white bread and plain stuff they will actually eat while starving, distracted, overstimulated and all the rest of it. My kids would eat anything at home but when they went out they wanted a white bread ham sandwich and they wanted the ham to be flat and plain and with no breading or anything fancy.

In my experience as someone who makes her own baked beans and has had a mix of homemade and tinned beans served in cafes, homemade beans look significantly different to tinned beans. I’d be very surprised if a baby or toddler took them for the same dish on looks.

Says a lot about society that no one imagines baked beans could be anything but tinned.

I love homemade baked beans.

You need to look out for your own dietary quirks when you are out and about OP.

Is that because you've never ordered beans outside the house? Any on a breakfast or a jacket potato or beans on toast will have been tinned in 99% of cafés and hotels.

Mine does as well (he's actually not quite 1 yet) but OP's clearly doesn't, she says he doesn't like spicy food. That doesn't make him in some way inferior to your children. He's allowed to not want to eat the spicy beans if he doesn't like spicy food, he's 1 FFS 😂

Dietary quirks 😂 we're talking about a 1 year old!

You're aware that it was the OP's 1 year old who rejected the beans, not her?

It wouldn't even occur to me to describe a 1 year old as a "fussy eater", they're still learning what they like at that point!

Yes, but I'm not suggesting HE should have said anything. But if it's her child, it falls to her to look out for him and know what he eats and doesn't eat.