AIBU to be annoyed by DH laughing in bed every night?

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Almost every night when we’re in bed and dropping off to sleep - DH will suddenly burst out laughing. He’ll rarely tell me what he’s laughing at so now I just tell him to pack it in and go to sleep … this usually results in about 20 minutes of the bed shaking while he’s stifling laughter. Sometimes he’s absolutely creased up.

Last night he did it just as I was nodding off abs it scared the shit out of me so I shouted at him to pack it in. This morning morning I told him it’s getting seriously fucking annoying and he either tells me what he’s laughing at or he sleeps in the spare room. He says he’s at work stressed all day so when he gets in bed and starts to unwind random thoughts pop into his head and makes him laugh. He reckons he genuinely tries not to laugh but the more he tries the worse it gets.

Is this bullshit or what?? Does his explanation make any sense to anyone here? Thing is it’s not a fake laugh, he’s genuinely creased up

Well op has updated to say she is the one doing the laughing.

Op, you need to take yourself off to the spare room for the time being to let your dh get some proper sleep and maybe revisit GP since this is having a negative impact on you and you can't explain a cause

Its op doing this to her husband...she has updated the thread to say its a reverse

Sounds like a mental breakdown.

That's so good. I would love that.
I honestly would love hearing happy laughter.

Yes it can be a form of a euphoria aura, others can be impending doom etc

He needs to see someone about it. It's a strange habit to develop. If he was open about what was making him laugh, fair enough - unless it was something that most people would find hurtful or offensive. Seems weird that he will not explain

I've done it before. I laugh in my sleep too. I also find it harder not to laugh if I try and suppress it

I don't want to worry you but inappropriate laughing, such as at funerals for example, quite often happens with people that have MS or other brain injuries

Look up Gelastic seizures. They are rare but it's important to get some medical advice xx

Not directly relevant but when I'm doing lengths in the pool a funny thought will come into my head and I find myself unable to resist laughing; the problem is it's impossible, I find, to swim and laugh at the same time . . .

Go sleep somewhere else, laughter is the most harmless way to let out stress from the day. Shouting at him to pact it in is incredibly insensitive. Go sleep in another bed.

He sounds very childish and tbh that nonsense would make my you know what clamp tight shut!

I get sleepy giggles, where I'm much more likely to get into fits of laughter if I'm overtired. Like a toddler I guess 🤣 I also tend to remember funny things as my brain is winding down at night and find it hard to stop laughing. It's definitely not every night though. Often enough that it's a known thing that I do but nowhere near often enough to be described as regular.

I think it's quite funny. Sorry.

you can press “see all” on an OPs post so you can see their posts beyond the original one. Such as the update that it’s her laughing.

hes probably listening to somethin he know you would disapprove of

Fuck GPs they are clueless. Jack of all trades masters of none. You have a neurological glitch, nothing major, I would recommend private counselling (CBT) as well as hypnosis. These therapies will help you get to the bottom of it and work on a solution. It’s clearly a psychological issue and you need to speak to experts.

Your condition is called Hypnogely and is linked to Parasomnia. If it’s stress related CBT should be effective. Hypnosis will treat it from a different perspective but should be insightful. Good luck OP!

Laughing is good therapy but not in bed and not at that time. If you have a spare room tell him to go there

Ah man this sounds like me. I like to think I wouldn't keep someone awake with it though! Yeah, just ask him to sleep in another room, that's fair.

So what insult should the husband say to OP since she’s said ages ago that it’s a reverse and she’s the one doing the laughing?

Except it’s a reverse and it’s OP doing the laughing and waking

He definitely isn't doing this. It's a reverse, and it's the OP who is laughing.

Is she "probably listening to something that she knows he would disapprove of"?

No, thought not.

English comprehension not your strong suit?

it is NOT the OP doing the laughing it's her husband

Ah forgot I’d posted about this before! Ok I reversed - it’s me doing it and I don’t know what to do - it’s getting worse and nobody is taking me seriously, I tried speaking to the Gp but basically told me to make sure I was more tired before going to bed. It’s driving me mad. I had a laughing fit earlier and I literally couldn’t stop and it was such a stupid thing I was laughing at I couldn’t even tell DH as I knew he wouldn’t find it funny at all. Nobody I know has ever experienced it but it really is getting worse - especially since I stopped work

@BoyMumNurse so I imagined this post from OP then? My comprehension is fine thanks.

Have you ever tried actually reading all of an OPs posts rather than just the first one? Maybe try that, and then you’d see that OP came along and admitted that it was her laughing not her husband