AIBU to be annoyed by DH laughing in bed every night?

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Almost every night when we’re in bed and dropping off to sleep - DH will suddenly burst out laughing. He’ll rarely tell me what he’s laughing at so now I just tell him to pack it in and go to sleep … this usually results in about 20 minutes of the bed shaking while he’s stifling laughter. Sometimes he’s absolutely creased up.

Last night he did it just as I was nodding off abs it scared the shit out of me so I shouted at him to pack it in. This morning morning I told him it’s getting seriously fucking annoying and he either tells me what he’s laughing at or he sleeps in the spare room. He says he’s at work stressed all day so when he gets in bed and starts to unwind random thoughts pop into his head and makes him laugh. He reckons he genuinely tries not to laugh but the more he tries the worse it gets.

Is this bullshit or what?? Does his explanation make any sense to anyone here? Thing is it’s not a fake laugh, he’s genuinely creased up

This is a reverse then?

Could kind of understand if he was on his phone, but randomly laughing so often is just weird.

Ah forgot I’d posted about this before! Ok I reversed - it’s me doing it and I don’t know what to do - it’s getting worse and nobody is taking me seriously, I tried speaking to the Gp but basically told me to make sure I was more tired before going to bed. It’s driving me mad. I had a laughing fit earlier and I literally couldn’t stop and it was such a stupid thing I was laughing at I couldn’t even tell DH as I knew he wouldn’t find it funny at all. Nobody I know has ever experienced it but it really is getting worse - especially since I stopped work

Don’t believe you for a second OP

This is a neurological disorder and can be a precursor to serious ill health. Ask your GP for a referral.

Even stranger

I did on a couple of occasion yes, I stopped work around 2 years ago due to stress

🍿 batshit thread?!

the reverse on this doesn’t even work. It can’t be a reverse

Your OP says your “husband” gave the excuse that he is stressed at work all day so this is a side effect of that. But now you’re saying it’s about you, and you don’t work. So… which is it? Are you stressed at work all day or you don’t work but you’re still behaving in this ridiculous infantile way?

When Dd was a toddler, as she got tired she would start to giggle hysterically, at the same time she would cry because she couldn't stop giggling, this only happened when she was really tired, she grew out of it but I'm wondering if it's a recognised 'thing' 🤔

I suggest he speaks to his GP. Stress does odd things with your health.

This is what I was thinking. My DD has epilepsy she sometimes does this. She has autism ADHD and OCD as well. It’s usually when I’m trying to talk to her about something she’s obsessing over.

I've got epilepsy, one of the things I do is laugh when waking up/falling asleep.

It is a thing, and you should push the doctors for investigation.

I have done this. I felt bad about it. I was going through a stretch of really bad illness and my life was completely devoid of joy, nights were awful not being able to sleep from pain and for whatever reason I’d reread old Mumsnet posts that had made me laugh before to cheer myself up. Poo crumbs and Sistine chapel specifically, and another one about a lady who had an untrainable pug and her husband had (I think) a prize winning Alsatian (her situation wasn’t funny but she wrote really well). I was trying really hard to muffle it but woke DH up a few times shaking the bed & literally crying with laughter.

however this isn’t a regular thing that went on for years, and if I were waking up DH regularly I’d change my reading habits to something more serious.

can he be banished to the sofa as soon as it starts, until he gets the message?

Can you go to the spare room if you are disturbing your DH?

Then press your GP to check your health, start with stress.

I do this all of the time.

Funny things just pop into my head and the more I try and stop it, the louder it comes out.

He genuinely can’t help it.

However, if it’s disturbing your sleep then it’s only fair he sleeps in the spare room.

My son has epilepsy and one of his seizures are called gelastic. They’re laughter seizures.

Particularly common when tired or stressed.

google it.

I've had it now and then, OP, but only on intermittent occasions. I think it's pretty harmless, but maybe your anxiety about it is somehow contributing. Perhaps try separate rooms for a bit so that you're not going to bed nervous?

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23786736/

There's also this...

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/325359#dreams

I mean if you Google "hypnogely" you can disappear down a few rabbitholes about it!

Why on earth did you do a reverse? What a weird thing to do

I thought this too, he sounds like he’s really struggling and it’s a weird outburst