AIBU to be annoyed by DH laughing in bed every night?

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Almost every night when we’re in bed and dropping off to sleep - DH will suddenly burst out laughing. He’ll rarely tell me what he’s laughing at so now I just tell him to pack it in and go to sleep … this usually results in about 20 minutes of the bed shaking while he’s stifling laughter. Sometimes he’s absolutely creased up.

Last night he did it just as I was nodding off abs it scared the shit out of me so I shouted at him to pack it in. This morning morning I told him it’s getting seriously fucking annoying and he either tells me what he’s laughing at or he sleeps in the spare room. He says he’s at work stressed all day so when he gets in bed and starts to unwind random thoughts pop into his head and makes him laugh. He reckons he genuinely tries not to laugh but the more he tries the worse it gets.

Is this bullshit or what?? Does his explanation make any sense to anyone here? Thing is it’s not a fake laugh, he’s genuinely creased up

only three options

1. he’s got a mental health issue and he can’t help it - that needs sorting
2. he has some kind of physical issue such as epilepsy or a sleep disorder - that needs sorting
3. he’s doing it on purpose to keep you awake (a form of abuse) - you need to leave

there’s literally no other reasons. And he clearly doesn’t care how it affects you so I’d go with the leaving in all 3 instances

fuck. I didn’t read the latest posts. Wish I hadn’t bothered. Get some help op

Actually I think I’ve read about this it’s a disorder! It was a child and people just thought they were happy but it was having a really negative affect on their schooling

It's much better than him snoring, farting, talking in his sleep, directing imaginary traffic or grinding his teeth.

So he is just laughing aloud, in the dark, at his thoughts? I thought he was on tiktok or something 😄

Ltb he sounds mad

Oh just seen this.

YABU 🙄🙄

My poor husband has to experience this too. I will often watch reels on SM and laugh out loud. Good thing he is a sound sleeper.

I don’t think it’s the slightest bit weird but then I’m probably a lot older than most posters here. If he has a stressful job it’s just his way of unwinding. Would you rather he suppress it and end up with a MH problem ?

I do this too! I don't have a partner only a cat but I laugh all the more when I see my Cat's reaction. I think in my case it's due to being autistic plus stress. The laughing is a release of tension which is why it seems so manic and out of control. I don't do it too often though. If you're doing it every night it might be worth speaking to someone about any stress that could be causing it..

If you are in serious need of help, why are lying and blaming your husband? That's awful. Own up to your behaviours. Seek help, as it could be a neurological disorder, head injury, or underlying trauma. Hopefully you will be honest with your doctor at least.

Very annoying. Tell him to grow up.

Maybe it’s your body trying to tell you your Reform/Restore Britain views are ridiculous.

Is this thread just for shits and giggles?😀

With the caveat that I’m not a medic - this is actually a thing called Pseudobulbar Affect - which comes with some neurological conditions eg MS, MND and brain injury/tumours, it can also be a type of seizure.

Your GP should have taken this much more seriously and referred you to a neurologist. You need to go back to the GP and ask for referral asap.

Have you looked into Tourettic OCD? There is a massive crossover of ND conditions, and OCD/Tourette's and ADHD are common together. Tourettes can also often cause someone to do the opposite of what is appropriate in a circumstance. So the more you try to suppress something like laughing the worse it gets.

This

Surely it’s a stress response?

Regardless of OP’s revelations your post concerns me. Do you not think there are any ‘options’ outside of your own reasoning ? For instance that he has a stressful job and this is his way of unwinding. Think about your own potential partner. Would you rather they keep everything in and risk a breakdown ?

I'm guessing OP is embarrassed and wanted opinions/information without 'admitting' that it's her that's laughing at odd times. Maybe she thought she'd get different advice this way.

I've found myself laughing or giggling when I'm just drifting off to sleep or when something funny happens in a dream, but it's only happened a few times that I can remember, and I can't recall if I was feeling particularly stressed at those times. It must be frustrating and worrying if it's happening frequently beyond your control. I hope you find something that helps, OP.

Just sleep in the spare room.

Op this to me sounds like a stress response that your brain/ body are struggling to process. Is it worse during or straight after periods of significant stress? I think it sounds like your brain is maybe a bit lacking in dopamine in general, then when you do get a bit in a comfortable calm environment your brain is almost over doing it because it feels good, it gives you an emotional release and that can take on a life of its own at times.

Do you feel emotionally contained/ numb/ burnt out otherwise at all?

What avenues in life do you have that release stress/ anxiety in positive ways? And how often do you get to have fun?

Does it happen spontaneously? Is there a possible undetected medical reason behind it?

I’m not sure of the point of this if you know you’ve ocd and you have intrusive thoughts that cause this, why pretend it’s your husband and stress? Was this thread an impulsive thought?

A caring person would do that away from people who is trying to sleep.

This can be a stress response, are you having any counselling?

Sounds like Tourettes maybe?

I used to do this when I was stressed after my labs at uni. Literally it was every week, a few hours after labs ended. Plus a few other times usually when I was relaxing, but after a stressful day. I would laugh absolutely uncontrollably at the tiniest thing, it was quite scary. Difference was I would more often than not burst into tears next. I read somewhere that the parts of the brain for stress and laughter are right next to eachother which results in this sometimes.

Also related, sometimes in children they will laugh when being told off. It's infuriating but actually kind of a stress response.

I have no idea why it stopped for me just over many years it gradually got less frequent. Sometimes I still maybe 20 years later get tiny versions of it.

I don't know what you should do about it, sorry but just wanted to post to say you're not the only one!