AIBU to be annoyed by DH laughing in bed every night?

[Greyblankie]

Almost every night when we’re in bed and dropping off to sleep - DH will suddenly burst out laughing. He’ll rarely tell me what he’s laughing at so now I just tell him to pack it in and go to sleep … this usually results in about 20 minutes of the bed shaking while he’s stifling laughter. Sometimes he’s absolutely creased up.

Last night he did it just as I was nodding off abs it scared the shit out of me so I shouted at him to pack it in. This morning morning I told him it’s getting seriously fucking annoying and he either tells me what he’s laughing at or he sleeps in the spare room. He says he’s at work stressed all day so when he gets in bed and starts to unwind random thoughts pop into his head and makes him laugh. He reckons he genuinely tries not to laugh but the more he tries the worse it gets.

Is this bullshit or what?? Does his explanation make any sense to anyone here? Thing is it’s not a fake laugh, he’s genuinely creased up

Edited as I didn’t see update. Sounds like something underlying, I’d go back to the GP and insist on a referral to neurologist or something. It doesn’t sound like a nice thing to experience

It sounds like Tourette’s syndrome to me

So it’s actually you bursting into laughter

go and see gp again

In all honesty, if my DH told me what he was laughing at, I don’t think it would bother me (although it’s hard to imagine as he’s always asleep before me, so irl if he was waking me up laughing all the time it might annoy me!) but it’s definitely worse when you’re trying not to laugh so that’s probably not helping that it’s annoying him so you’re trying not to laugh.

Has he actually said you need to sleep in the spare room? Maybe that’s not such a bad idea for a while?

I think like others have said you should try to figure out what’s causing it. It is a bit troubling that you left work over it. It’s sounds like nerves/neurological.

My son used to do this at any time during the day, sometimes for no apparent reason, his laughter didn't stop and caused him distress.

We used a sensory grounding method (The 5-4-3-2-1 Method)
This method shifts your focus outward by engaging all five senses. Slowly identify and name:
5 things you can see (e.g., a pen, a cloud, a plant).
4 things you can physically feel (e.g., your jumper, a smooth table).
3 things you can hear (e.g., traffic, a clock ticking).
2 things you can smell (e.g., coffee, rain).
1 thing you can taste.

I don't know if it'll work for you, but it would be worth a try.

I’ve never seen a reverse where I’ve thought that. It just wastes everybody’s time while they’re trying to make guesses or advise on a situation that isn’t actually the case.

See different GP get him to refer you

@Catpuss66 just a quick reminder that GPs are very often female these days.

Go back to the GP, request a referral to neurology. If they refuse again, ask them to make sure they clearly document their reason for refusal on your records. It's amazing how quickly GPs will agree to refer when there's a chance that any blow back from not referring will land on them X

I know worked in the nhs for over 30yrs, usually the GP’s who are dismissive are men. Thanks for your input though.x

Why did you reverse it though. Why not just say it was you?

This was a bizarre way to go about seeking help.

I went through a phase of this- having fits of uncontrollable giggles which would leave me unable to breathe- over nothing or something really minor. Looking back, I think I was having some sort of breakdown. I was struggling to cope with undiagnosed AuDHD and a very stressful life.

I think you need emergency MH support- this thread is further evidence that you're not dealing with things in a rational way.

It could be Pseudobulbar Affect (PBA)?

Does any of this resonate @Greyblankie

Apologies in advance if someone else has posted this.

sudden burst of laughter right as you drift off is usually hypnagogic laughter. It’s a harmless, involuntary reaction caused by a funny thought, a bizarre dream, or the brain rapidly releasing daytime tension as you transition into sleep. 1, 3, 4]

@Greyblankie Have you researched Pseudobulbar Affect (PBA) and/ or gelastic seizures?

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Well in this case it's been flushed out fast and I think it is good the op posted - reverse or otherwise - as I do think it sounds as though she should see someone about this.

It might be fine, but it also might not.

Op won’t be back as her lie got caught

Me and my partner do this....most of the time it sets the other one off and we both end up laughing. He wont tell you because he knows you wont find it funny...but I can tell you why it keeps happening its because he knows youre mad and hes not supposed to laugh and that will make him worse..
E.g....I went to a yoga retreat once and everyone there was so serious...as soon as we all sat down in a circle and started "ommming' i started to laugh....and it was uncontrollable. Im not defending it though. Send him to sleep on the sofa

This is not neurological...he doesnt need a GP!! At least hes not sobbing every night and crying himself to sleep....hes laughing becsuse he knows he shouldnt because its annoying you

I agree! Sounds deliberate to waken op up and disturb her sleep .

I'd sleep in another bed (or house) before I let you dampen my joy.

It isn't good because the first few replies called the husband abusive and even deranged. Even now, those who haven't read her reverse update are saying he is deliberately disturbing her. If OP needed genuine help, she should have been honest, not manipulated her post.

Yes, this.

Tell him he has a small dick.

He wont ever laugh again.

Sounds like he is close to a mental breakdown. I would be worried.