To find lazy adults really grating?

[myothersockis]

I am well aware that I may sound like a massive bitch here.

I have a friend who is very lazy. She would rather be up until 2/3am on social media and sleep in until 10am everyday. We are late 20s. All she does is go to work (she’s a nursery assistant, fair play that’s hard work but still), and then come home and sit in bed. She ridicules me for going to the gym, running, having hobbies. She thinks it’s all a waste of time. She purposefully chooses 11-5 shifts so that she can lay in bed all morning.

It grates on me so much. I’m very much a morning person and while I understand not everyone is, I think it’s a pillar of being an adult that you’re out of bed by a reasonable time, even on the weekends. She’ll often text and say that she’s still in bed at 3pm. No mental health issues, just laziness.

AIBU to find this really grating?

Same, nothing wrong with living a slower pace of life in your free time. Not everyone wants to be exercising, meeting up volunteering and generally rushing around. It’s nice to just sit and relax. I’ve never set foot in a gym, don’t play sports, don’t go running but I’m slim and healthy.

I think both you are wrong to judge the other. When I clicked the post I thought it was going to be about adults not taking care of their children or themselves well. Sleeping in when you can and not doing hobbies wouldn't bother me if their actions aren't affecting anyone else.

@myothersockis is being massively unreasonable by generalising about adults based on her friend, whose behaviour is none of her fecking business.

If you were my friend, I'd laugh at you too.

There is nothing to be proud of for getting up at 5.30., it's not as if you can help it.

Hang on...that username.

She's supporting herself so not your business what she does with her spare time.

As far as I’m aware, (and I’ve 20 years on you), the pillars of being an adult are attempting to pay bills on time, being perplexed by the constant rise in the cost of both cheese and petrol and trying not to eat biscuits for tea every night.

I am unaware of any requirement to be a productive morning person to thrive.

Being an adult means you can eat whatever you want!!!

Going out on a limb that 8:20 is peak commuting time and it’s more than reasonable a majority of people are sat on a bus, at a station or on a train.

You sound like an insufferable, sanctimonious bitch.

Hobbies: gymming and running 😆. Read a book once in a while ffs, visit a museum, go to a ballet. Your 'hobbies' are duller than tiktok scrolling!

Getting up at 5:30, woppee, have a 🏅.

Are you good friends, do you think?

Her hobby then is social media engagement and ridiculing you, your hobbies are sewing and ridiculing her.

Not seeing why hobby sewing is morally better than social media as a hobby. Both can lead. to jobs but rarely earn a great deal.

You do you. I recommend a book for you it’s called Let Them

Wow, I’m sure someone will be along with a medal soon!

I see my MIL’s strange morality about getting up early isn’t confined to her. You aren’t better than anyone else because you get up at half 5

You obviously hate her so drop this pretense of a friendship. Do you think you're better than everyone or just this one person?

Not all of us find the gym fascinating. It's boring, OP, I'd much rather stay home and read a book. Your friend works hard and I doubt she chooses her shift - shifts tend to be allocated. Her sleep pattern is different from yours so she gets up later. I don't think you two are friends, tbh.

You are her friend why?

Wow, you're leaving for work that late? Some of us started our commute hours ago!

If you don't care what people do why are you on a forum where people share experiences?

I'm a night owl (although that's changed a bit since I had DS.) Used to do the late shift at work because I liked going to bed late. It was nice to be up at night when everything was quiet, and I could indulge in my hobbies.

You ridicule her, she ridicules you, why exactly are you friends with someone when you don't seem to like each other very much?

Not because they are lazy, but because their circadian rhythm is offset.
When toddlers wake up at 5am everyday for the same reason, no-one is claiming they are especially virtuous for doing so!

I’ve been on the train to London for work since 7.15am! Just coming in to the station.

I'm not a morning person at all, I have inattentive adhd and would prefer to stay up late and sleep in. This is allows me to function well. If I were to get up early like you I would be a woolly headed groggy grouch all day.

You know what though? I am far from lazy, I work, look after my nd kids needs and care for my elderly mum who has advanced dementia.

Your friend doesn't sound lazy either, she is simply different to you, can you understand that everyone is different?

You sound very judgemental, that's not a nice trait to either.

Why are you friends with a person you don’t like? Makes you seem a bit two faced. Leave her be for gods sake. What does it matter what she’s doing? Maybe you need another hobby to fill your days?

Who cares? Just let her be. I find judgemental people far more grating. She works, she's not lying in bed all day. Nothing people do is a waste of time if it's what they want to be doing.

I'm a sanctimonious morning person too, so completely understand where you are coming from on this.

Friend you say, You are friends with someone you don't like how did that come about ?