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To not want to drive someone else’s car all week?

52 replies

BlueberryMummy · Yesterday 20:30

A friend borrowed my car on Friday because she needed to go and pick up something that wouldn’t fit in her car (it would fit in her car, the only reason it wouldn’t is because her car is full of stuff) and then I had to go out before she got back and her car keys were at mine so she told me to take her keys and her car and then since then our paths haven’t crossed to swap the cars back and I’ve messaged her and called her a few times to ask if we can swap the cars back and she just keeps saying she is busy at that moment but will find time soon to swap the cars back. She’s now asking if she can keep my car until Friday as she needs to go somewhere on Friday and what she is taking won’t fit in her car again because her car is full of stuff and in return I keep her car until Friday. But I just want my car back now. My car is a 2016 Volkswagen Tiguan and her car is a 2024 Range Rover. My husband says I’m overreacting and making a mountain out of a molehill. I feel she is being funny about just giving me my car back, she could have found time already to give me my car back and she certainly could find time before Friday to give me my car back. We both have fully comp insurance on our own cars and are insured to drive other cars but we are only covered for 3rd party damage on other cars. AIBU to not want to drive someone else’s car all week and AIBU to just want my car back now?

OP posts:
JoshLymanSwagger · Yesterday 20:33

Why can't you just drive to her house and swap the cars back over?

BoredZelda · Yesterday 20:34

JoshLymanSwagger · Yesterday 20:33

Why can't you just drive to her house and swap the cars back over?

This. Seems like the best solution.

MidnightPatrol · Yesterday 20:36

I’m surprised the Tiguan has notably more space than the Range Rover tbh.

steff13 · Yesterday 20:36

MidnightPatrol · Yesterday 20:36

I’m surprised the Tiguan has notably more space than the Range Rover tbh.

Right? How much stuff does she have in it? She isn't living in it, is she?

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · Yesterday 20:37

She’s now asking if she can keep my car until Friday as she needs to go somewhere on Friday

That's where you reply with 'no' instead of asking your husband.

Shinyandnew1 · Yesterday 20:38

I wouldn’t be lending my car to someone just because they couldn’t be arsed to clear out their own!

Just drive to her now and get your car back ffs.

BlueberryMummy · Yesterday 20:39

MidnightPatrol · Yesterday 20:36

I’m surprised the Tiguan has notably more space than the Range Rover tbh.

My Tiguan only has more space because her Range Rover is full of stuff, that’s why.

OP posts:
BlueberryMummy · Yesterday 20:39

JoshLymanSwagger · Yesterday 20:33

Why can't you just drive to her house and swap the cars back over?

I did during the day today and she wasn’t in at the time as she was at work. I can’t do it in an evening because I’m looking after the kids on my own at the moment because DH is working away.

OP posts:
youalright · Yesterday 20:39

Are you even both fully insured

WoollyandSarah · Yesterday 20:40

Unless I have misunderstood, I wouldn't be driving a 2024 car with only third party insurance.

ShamedBySiri · Yesterday 20:40

I voted unreasonable because I think it’s unreasonable to just swap cars like that. Especially as you only have 3rd party insurance for damage to each other’s cars. She’s got a nearly new Range Rover. What is it stuffed full with that she can’t fit in whatever it was she wanted to move. Why doesn’t she clear her car out?
It’s all rather bizarre behaviour imo.

TheGoodEnoughWife · Yesterday 20:41

Drive to her house and demand cars swapped back. Are you even fully comp on each others cars? Could be expensive if pranged!

kiwiane · Yesterday 20:42

So she borrowed yours because she’s too lazy to tidy her own; that was a clue to refuse to let her borrow yours. I’d insist she brings yours back now!

TheGoodEnoughWife · Yesterday 20:42

Put the kids in the car and swap back. How are you going to pay for her car if you have an accident?!

TeaPot496 · Yesterday 20:42

As soon as you say "stop using my car immediately, you do not have my permission", then she isn't insured. Just go and get it!

pizzaHeart · Yesterday 20:43

Drive there with kids.
I suspect she damaged your car and it’s in repair until Friday that’s why she responded that way.

TeaPot496 · Yesterday 20:44

Bundle the kids in the car at night, get it with your second key. Job done.

Shinyandnew1 · Yesterday 20:44

I’d have driven to her work place, I think.

I would take the kids out in the car in the evening if it meant I could get my car back, but honestly-I would have said no in the first place.

A good friend doesn’t borrow someone’s car because they can be bothered to keep theirs tidy. A good friend doesn’t keep the car even when its owner clearly wants it back. She is being a very poor friend and not one I’d want to be driving my car around without fully comp insurance.

Jellycatspyjamas · Yesterday 20:46

Go and get your car, with your kids if need be. I can’t imagine lending someone my car for any reason.

JumpingRabbit · Yesterday 20:49

Do people really lend each other cars and drive 2024 range rovers on third party only insurance?!

Coconutter24 · Yesterday 20:49

Why can’t you put your kids in the car and then drive to her house?

ToKittyornottoKitty · Yesterday 20:50

Just drive to her house and get your car, no need to moan to your husband about it

BurntBroccoli · Yesterday 20:53

MidnightPatrol · Yesterday 20:36

I’m surprised the Tiguan has notably more space than the Range Rover tbh.

They are surprisingly small inside.

AlohaRose · Yesterday 20:55

Why can’t your husband look after your kids while you go over there this evening? Or alternatively he can drive over and you stay home? She’s got from now until Friday to clean out her rubbish tip of a car If she needs to pick something else up in it then

Isobel201 · Yesterday 21:02

there are so many things wrong with this situation its unbelievable.

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