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To not want to drive someone else’s car all week?

448 replies

BlueberryMummy · 08/06/2026 20:30

A friend borrowed my car on Friday because she needed to go and pick up something that wouldn’t fit in her car (it would fit in her car, the only reason it wouldn’t is because her car is full of stuff) and then I had to go out before she got back and her car keys were at mine so she told me to take her keys and her car and then since then our paths haven’t crossed to swap the cars back and I’ve messaged her and called her a few times to ask if we can swap the cars back and she just keeps saying she is busy at that moment but will find time soon to swap the cars back. She’s now asking if she can keep my car until Friday as she needs to go somewhere on Friday and what she is taking won’t fit in her car again because her car is full of stuff and in return I keep her car until Friday. But I just want my car back now. My car is a 2016 Volkswagen Tiguan and her car is a 2024 Range Rover. My husband says I’m overreacting and making a mountain out of a molehill. I feel she is being funny about just giving me my car back, she could have found time already to give me my car back and she certainly could find time before Friday to give me my car back. We both have fully comp insurance on our own cars and are insured to drive other cars but we are only covered for 3rd party damage on other cars. AIBU to not want to drive someone else’s car all week and AIBU to just want my car back now?

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BlueberryMummy · 12/06/2026 22:20

Shinyandnew1 · 12/06/2026 18:57

Does she own the RR outright?

Yes

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anotheruser124 · 12/06/2026 22:22

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LilacDrift · 12/06/2026 22:25

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All about the clicks.

Shinyandnew1 · 12/06/2026 22:28

BlueberryMummy · 12/06/2026 22:20

Yes

She owns a 2 year old Range Rover outright and wants to swap it for your 10 year old car? Right.

Why are you posting at 10.20 and not going to get your car back?

hamse · 12/06/2026 22:28

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It doesn't break talk guidelines apparently.
That's why it's being allowed to stand.

LilacDrift · 12/06/2026 22:31

If I'm gone tomorrow. Was nice knowing you.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 12/06/2026 22:33

BlueberryMummy · 12/06/2026 22:20

Yes

So have you got the car or not?

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JumpingRabbit · 13/06/2026 08:07

BlueberryMummy · 12/06/2026 22:20

Yes

So firstly how do you know this for sure? And secondly did you go at 5am?!

vanessashanessa99 · 13/06/2026 08:08

Stop being such a pansy OP ffs. Get the police involved if you haven't the guts to be more firm with her.

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BusyMum47 · 13/06/2026 09:28

Jesus, she sounds unhinged!! I’d park outside her house & be prepared to just wait as long as it takes for her to get home. If she refuses to give you your car/keys, then you call the police & report her for car theft!!

M74 · 13/06/2026 09:38

Do an HPI check on the RR. If it genuinely has no outstanding finance then agree to the swap and then sell it, buy something sensible and use the cash left over to pay a chunk of your mortgage off.

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Shinyandnew1 · 13/06/2026 10:20

Wow, what a lot of deletions!

@BlueberryMummyare you going to come back and explain what is going on. Maybe in a bit more detail than replying ‘yes’ once every 50 replies.

grumpygrape · 13/06/2026 10:26

Shinyandnew1 · 13/06/2026 10:20

Wow, what a lot of deletions!

@BlueberryMummyare you going to come back and explain what is going on. Maybe in a bit more detail than replying ‘yes’ once every 50 replies.

No ! 😉

Ayarreet · 13/06/2026 10:29

LilacDrift · 12/06/2026 22:31

If I'm gone tomorrow. Was nice knowing you.

Yay! You made it through the cull!

usernamealreadytaken · 14/06/2026 10:09

BlueberryMummy · 12/06/2026 18:03

I am planning to try and go back round to hers tonight to try again to get my car back.

Did you get your car back @BlueberryMummy? This is one of the most bizarre situations we’ve seen, and definitely beats the Dyson Airwrap!

Letsgetreadytorhumble · 14/06/2026 10:12

@usernamealreadytaken dyson airwrap?

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Hibernatingsloth · 14/06/2026 18:17

This has got to be a windup.
For goodness sake, OP, involve the police.
How much longer are you going to string this out???

steff13 · 15/06/2026 01:55

Letsgetreadytorhumble · 12/06/2026 19:25

Its theft so they would go down that road one assumes.

OP I would be wary that hers is on credit and about to be repossessed being honest. You need to text and tell her you have phoned your insurers and the police to say your car has been stolen.

I'm skeptical of this whole story, but wouldn't a swap only work if they both own their vehicles outright? I'm in the US, so it may be different, but I have a loan on my car and I don't have the paperwork necessary to transfer it to another person. I will only receive it once the loan is paid off.

youalright · 15/06/2026 06:01

I can't believe this thread is still going have you not got your car back yet op. What on earth have you been doing

Imlyingandthatsthetruth · 15/06/2026 08:46

Pity the OP didn't seem to have the imagination to even string the fantasy along for a bit. Waiting for a pathetic "Oh, I got the car back on Sunday..."

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