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To not want to drive someone else’s car all week?

153 replies

BlueberryMummy · 08/06/2026 20:30

A friend borrowed my car on Friday because she needed to go and pick up something that wouldn’t fit in her car (it would fit in her car, the only reason it wouldn’t is because her car is full of stuff) and then I had to go out before she got back and her car keys were at mine so she told me to take her keys and her car and then since then our paths haven’t crossed to swap the cars back and I’ve messaged her and called her a few times to ask if we can swap the cars back and she just keeps saying she is busy at that moment but will find time soon to swap the cars back. She’s now asking if she can keep my car until Friday as she needs to go somewhere on Friday and what she is taking won’t fit in her car again because her car is full of stuff and in return I keep her car until Friday. But I just want my car back now. My car is a 2016 Volkswagen Tiguan and her car is a 2024 Range Rover. My husband says I’m overreacting and making a mountain out of a molehill. I feel she is being funny about just giving me my car back, she could have found time already to give me my car back and she certainly could find time before Friday to give me my car back. We both have fully comp insurance on our own cars and are insured to drive other cars but we are only covered for 3rd party damage on other cars. AIBU to not want to drive someone else’s car all week and AIBU to just want my car back now?

OP posts:
ChaToilLeam · Yesterday 13:31

You tell her NO I WANT IT BACK NOW.

Bet she's pranged it. Cheeky fucker!

Larrythecatforpm · Yesterday 13:34

Just drive over and swap now.

wombat1a · Yesterday 13:35

She's damaged it and its taking longer to repair than she thought OP

Larrythecatforpm · Yesterday 13:35

Just seen your update tell her if she doesn’t swap the car back today you’ll report it as stolen.

Larrythecatforpm · Yesterday 13:35

wombat1a · Yesterday 13:35

She's damaged it and its taking longer to repair than she thought OP

Yup 100% this.

readingmakesmehappy · Yesterday 13:38

What a CF! Why can’t she drive over to yours?

thinkfast · Yesterday 13:40

Just go to her house and swap cars back this evening OP. Take the kids with you if needed. And be firm with your friend what an imposition this was!

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · Yesterday 13:41

I would be losing my sh*t with her by now. Is she expecting you to drive your kids around with only 3rd party insurance? Or worse still be housebound?

Tell her that you want it back tonight and she needs to make other arrangements for Friday

MajorProcrastination · Yesterday 13:41

how is this other woman not embarrassed? so odd.

SkinnyOatFlatWhiteForMePleaseBarista · Yesterday 13:43

Put the kids in the car tonight and switch back, she is taking the piss.

JaneLupin · Yesterday 13:50

This is insane.

Regardless of why she wants to keep your car longer, this has already gone on far too long. Like pp, I’d be driving over to her home / workplace and staying there until she arrived to swap the cars back. Take the kids with you if you have to.

And I’d never be lending her as much as a pencil ever again.

KnittyKnotty · Yesterday 13:50

🤣 can't wait for the update "friend now saying it's been stolen".

Just out of curiosity, did you also lend your Dyson hair styler to your friend who nicked it?

ElectricLegs · Yesterday 13:51

Don't report it to the Police as stolen. Better to be honest with the Police rather than waste their time.

Excuse my ignorance, but don't all cars have trackers in them these days?

youalright · Yesterday 13:51

whackwhackoops · Yesterday 11:14

Read the post responses maybe for your answer?!!

Edited

A lot of people assume if they have fully comprehensive cover they automatically get 3rd party on other cars and that hasn't been the case for years. Thats why im saying it

Aligirlbear · Yesterday 13:54

You are being unreasonable because you are asking the question ! Just drive round to hers and swap the cars over

Idontjetwashthefucker · Yesterday 13:56

FFS this place is like a parallel universe sometimes...just go and get your fucking car!

LostFuse · Yesterday 13:58

youalright · Yesterday 13:51

A lot of people assume if they have fully comprehensive cover they automatically get 3rd party on other cars and that hasn't been the case for years. Thats why im saying it

Yep - it's far more likely to be an extension to a policy these days, not the norm.

Couldyounot · Yesterday 14:03

Either she's damaged your car, or she's trying to dodge the repo company by not having her car at her address. Given the eye-watering cost of Range Rovers that is not impossible.

Couldyounot · Yesterday 14:03

(And please get a spare key made)

steff13 · Yesterday 14:10

tiramisugelato · Yesterday 07:54

Then put your kids in the friends’ car and drive to her house to get yours!

What a load of drama out of nothing.

Maybe there's too much stuff in the car to fit the kids. 😆

Sunnydaysarehereagain2026 · Yesterday 14:14

Time for an ultimatum.. Your car is returned by tonight or you will report it stolen.

Tillow4ever · Yesterday 14:15

This is madness. I’m a people pleaser and even I wouldn’t accept this CFery! If you don’t like to be direct, tell her you need to collect something out of the car urgently - she has to either fess up that it’s at the garage or give you access again.

Babyputyourpantson · Yesterday 14:18

Yeah I reckon shes dinged it!!

I would either do it ridiculously early which I dont think you can do cause of the kids or turn up at her work! X

Blondeshavemorefun · Yesterday 14:32

Drive to hers /work and grab keys of her

OneNewEagle · Yesterday 14:37

Drive to wherever she is, with your kids if you need to, and swap cars. And never agree again, if there was an accident your insurance won’t cover everything.

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