To not want to drive someone else’s car all week?

[BlueberryMummy]

A friend borrowed my car on Friday because she needed to go and pick up something that wouldn’t fit in her car (it would fit in her car, the only reason it wouldn’t is because her car is full of stuff) and then I had to go out before she got back and her car keys were at mine so she told me to take her keys and her car and then since then our paths haven’t crossed to swap the cars back and I’ve messaged her and called her a few times to ask if we can swap the cars back and she just keeps saying she is busy at that moment but will find time soon to swap the cars back. She’s now asking if she can keep my car until Friday as she needs to go somewhere on Friday and what she is taking won’t fit in her car again because her car is full of stuff and in return I keep her car until Friday. But I just want my car back now. My car is a 2016 Volkswagen Tiguan and her car is a 2024 Range Rover. My husband says I’m overreacting and making a mountain out of a molehill. I feel she is being funny about just giving me my car back, she could have found time already to give me my car back and she certainly could find time before Friday to give me my car back. We both have fully comp insurance on our own cars and are insured to drive other cars but we are only covered for 3rd party damage on other cars. AIBU to not want to drive someone else’s car all week and AIBU to just want my car back now?

Just say no. Go to her house and pick up your car. No drama.

Say no it’s not acceptable and you need your car back today. This is not working for you. I don’t understand how you are transporting your own DC around of hers is full of crap.

Word is that Autotrader is being hit hard with searches for 2016 Tiguans...

Plus the biggest surprise in the whole situation is that a 2024 RR is still working after a few days.

Are you sure you'd bother be covered on your respective insurance policies for using each other's cars.

You need to tell her to make time.

Many insurance policies cover you on other cars. I know mine does.

What time does she finish work? If you’re good enough friends with her to lend your car you must roughly know her schedule. Just take your kids to go and sort it.

I’d put money on there being some damage to your car.
stop being such a wet blanket and just tell her no!

Usually 3rd party cover only. So if you had an accident whilst driving someone else’s car you’d be covered for damages to the other car but not for the car you are driving. Madness that op is driving a 2024 RR if she only has 3rd party cover

She’s already said they both only have third party on each others cars. In the very first post.

Of course, but the person I answered asked if they were insured which is really quite possible, whether it’s 3rd party or fully insured.

I know. I was replying to the person who asked if the OP was sure they were insured.

Did you not say to her to clear out her own vehicle and use it?

Tell her you need it back as you have to go pick something up and her car isn’t big enough!
ridiculous! Just say no and get your car back. Take your kids with you!

Why are you being so wet about this?!

Jesus. Just go round and get your car back!!

Op, you need to go and wait in her driveway, she’s being seriously weird and you need to put your foot down

So you drive to her place of work and get your car back. This whole situation is absurd.

Has she stolen your car? Wrecked it? This is so intensely bizarre I can't wrap my head around it. I would never, ever drive someone else's car unless it was a literal emergency or I was properly insured on it (we insured a friend on our car for a week for a long and boring reason).

Are you saying you can't fit your kids in her car because it's rammed full? I'd ask someone to watch them for an hour and head to her work. Embarrass her as necessary but find out what on earth she's done with your car.

Well you report it as stolen then.

Yeah, she's definitely had an accident and she's trying to get it sorted before she gives the car back to you.

Has something happened to it? And that’s why she doesn’t want to swap it back yet

Yeah, she crashed your car and she's trying to get it fixed before she gives it back.

But I don't know why you're being so passive. Tell her no. Tell her you to meet you at your house at X time today or you will be at hers at X time before she next goes to work. Even if you are inconvenienced, just go and get your car back. Don't worry about pissing her off, because she doesn't appear to be a great friend anyway.

OP, this is an issue of your own making.
You cannot continue to let your 'friend' take you for a mug.
I would imagine the bigger reason that she wanted your car to transport bulky items is less to do with space and more to do with not risking any damage to her own car.
How long are you going to let her move the goalposts?
It's already gone from one trip to up to Friday and now into a second week.
"I've got kids" is not an excuse to not putting your foot down and collecting your own car.
You're being used.