AIBU to wonder how we spent so much doing nothing?

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We were all exhausted this weekend, and literally didn't move further than 1 mile from our house.

How is it possible to spend so much money going nowhere and doing nothing?

I am not sure why you are being rude. Why do I need a bit more going on in my life?

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Disagree with me by all means, just seems nasty.

I guess most people wouldn't consider a takeaway for 5 one evening, followed by lunch out the following day as "small things".

I'm old enough to remember when people only vary rarely ate out - only for birthdays or special occasions. The OP is obviously younger so thinks eating out/coffees out/takeaways aren't treats as they are "functional".

Perhaps part of the problem is that you now have three growing children who eat more than before? I imagine most people don't eat out regularly when they have 3 children at home.

It's your money, your choice. Now that you know you spent £371 on food/drinks over the weekend, would you do it again? Or ditch the takeaway and the brunch so you can spend the equivalent amount on a special dinner at a smart restaurant with your husband - something that you would consider a "treat"?

No especially young, 41!

Growing up we only really as you say eat out for Birthdays etc.

So I agree, the world has changed.

What is the 500 in relation to your earnings as a percentage? How much do you save per month? I think if you’re doing well then it’s not a huge issue, if you have no savings and that is a third of your earnings i would say you need to step back from it

We are fine.

No, your life has changed. Things that were for special occasions when you were growing up, you now consider "functional" or "nothing of note". Most of the world does not think that way.

The point you keep (deliberately) missing is that you listed about 17 things you did/spent money on and then claimed you'd done nothing.

The other point you keep (deliberately) missing is that NO-ONE ELSE considers these every day, not special, activities. They are activities and/or treats to the vast majority. And you saying "oh but they aren't to us", doesn't change that you DID THINGS.

Life has changed yes.

Ah and there you are just deliberately ignoring the point you keep missing.

I am not ignoring anything.

You may need an education on the meaning of ignoring.

You are definitely not acknowledging the point most posters are making. Which is what ignoring is.

Why are you so nasty? You repeatedly hunt me down on threads.

I haven't ignored anything, if somebody says X or Y is a treat for them - then I believe them.

Of course I understand the word treat means different things to different people.

If people tell me a coffee is a treat for them, then I accept that. Why wouldn't I?

Firstly, noticing that we had a disagreement on one thread and that you were the author of this one is not repeatedly hunting you down.

Secondly, pointing out that you're ignoring people's points is not being nasty.

Thirdly, it's not about whether you consider something a treat. It's your absolute disregard for the fact that, whether you believe they were treats or not, you did a lot this weekend. I can spend a weekend not leaving the house or spending any money, but if I do 20 jobs that's not me "doing nothing". You did stuff. You just don't like that it's not fancy stuff but it cost you money. That is the point.

I think I have clarified what I meant about 20 times!

£100 on cheese 😲
How?! I literally brought every single one I fancied last year and some of it is still in the fridge (in one of those wax things) and spent about £20!

It's doable depending on how many guests.

Anyone else starting to think this whole thread was a humble brag designed to show how well off op is

I mean it's a fair point.

If you are hosting Christmas for 20 guests it's 5 pounds per person.

Lord alive. Now you’ve started ANOTHER thread to ask poor people what they consider a ‘treat’ as this thread ‘has shown you others live differently.’

I believe it was from a fancy cheese place and was her contribution to a big family xmas... it was the same as i spent on my Xmas shop!

Agreed! Grateful I do recognise eating out a treat... along with a whole lot of simple, free things!

That's not true though is it.

I won’t post quotes here as they’d be removed but everyone on here has eyes op.

I mean I have started a thread, but not the way you framed it.