AIBU to ask if you would judge a mum for this? Honestly…

[Whitediamondshoes]

AIBU to ask would you judge a mum who goes away without her dc? Even though she is separated and pretty much does it when they are with their dad? So long weekends etc?

I don't even judge parents who go away by themselves but don't take kids on holiday. Not every child like holidays, my DS really doesn't enjoy them, we take him anyway but if we only had DS we very well might not do, but we'd still go away by ourselves.

God no. It’s my dream 😆

The children are safe, happy and with someone who loves and cares for them so absolutely do not feel guilty.

Why on earth would I judge a mum for going away on her childfree weekend?

Lol no we go on holiday without our kids every so often. Some time away from them makes us better parents 😂 and they always have fun with my mum, my dad or the in laws. They see staying with their granparents as a mini holiday anyway. They’ve had proper holidays, but we’re not taking them on any crazy big ones until they’re a bit older so they all remeber it.

Being honest I did judge MIL’s friends daughter and son in law who went to Barbados for 2 weeks leaving a 2 and 4 year old with her (knackered) parents and then booked for next year but not in your case no.

Well I judge a family member that does this . BUT this is because she uses her annual leave to go away by herself and then doesn’t have enough annual leave to cover holidays so kids have to go holiday club which they hate (older primary) or she ends up scrambling around for childcare.

Of course not. My kids are all young adults now but I had a few holidays without them over the years. I mean their dad (my ex) moved to 3 different countries to work during the childhood and no-one says anything to him, so a few days in Spain is perfectly fine.

If they were s baby say under say months old, i would say yes. Otherwise no.

I would if she wasn’t taking those DC on a separate trip somewhere another time.

Yes they get lots of separate trips.

No, I have been away for a weekend before, and I’m planning two weekends away this year. My husband has quite frequently been away leaving the kids with me, for work or fun trips.

We also do weekends away with kids, so it’s not a case of spending ALL our money on ourselves.

TBH I have been guilty of silently judging parents for NOT going away without their children. (I realise that’s not ok of me!)

God forbid you would have a life outwith being a mum!! Ignore the haters! I go away with friends every year, as does my DH and we also go away once a year together- it actually makes us better parents as we get a needed break and then come back having really missed the kids!!

I can't judge you, I'm seriously considering ditching my kids at the side of the road and stowing away in your suitcase. Take me with you.

Please.

No she being cared for by her Dad. The DC has 2 parents. They don't both have to be around every minute.

I take 3 teens on holiday every year and it's fun for them but hard work for DH and me. A month later DH and I go on a cruise for a week to relax without teens. DH and I have always had a with kids holiday and a without kids week away where grandparents had kids.

Nope, I go on holiday at least once at year without my dc. So does Dh. We’re married so it’s not like I have my ‘own time’. I leave them home with Dh and go. I went to Australia for 2 weeks when eldest was 16 months. That was partly for work but made a holiday of it. I go to Europe without them nearly every year. I’ve been to America a couple times. I’ve spent 9 days walking a Camino in Spain. We don’t all need to be together all the time. We have lovely family holidays too, but Dh and I still enjoy travelling without them and we do it. We don’t have any help with childcare so if we want to do things, one of us goes and the other stays home and that works really well.