AIBU to ask if you would judge a mum for this? Honestly…

[Whitediamondshoes]

AIBU to ask would you judge a mum who goes away without her dc? Even though she is separated and pretty much does it when they are with their dad? So long weekends etc?

Omg no way! Both my BIL and SIL (married) have been on holidays just with their friends, they didn't enjoy a holiday with their oldest when she was a toddler so only recently did a staycation with the kids. My mum went on holiday without us - actually she went on a business trip when I was 6 months old! That last one's not for me but could suit other people (lucky them!)

Thank you everyone. I know I’m being silly but when you know you’re being judged it’s hard not to second guess your decisions

I go away loads without my kids, I couldn't care less if people judge. I know my kids are loved and cared for.

No
A healthy relationship require's a mum to have her own life as well.
I go away for a weekend once a year...refreshes me and my kids love to stay with other family.

Not only do I go away but sometimes, shock horror, I used to go away even when I was supposed to have them ! They have turned out ok (so far)! Lol your relative is bonkers

Anyone who sees women as full human beings in their own right and not one dimentional service bots, wouldn't judge this. And who cares about the opinions of the type that do?

Next time say ' I'm so lucky child is confident with a secure attachment to me, so I can do these things with no issues. It must be soooo difficult for parents who have insecure children.'

And then if (when) she gets annoyed because you implied her children are insecure, say that you didn't say that at all, but (sympathy face) if its something she's worried about, you're here for her to talk any time