AIBU to ask if you would judge a mum for this? Honestly…

[Whitediamondshoes]

AIBU to ask would you judge a mum who goes away without her dc? Even though she is separated and pretty much does it when they are with their dad? So long weekends etc?

No, even as mums we are still out own people, we don't have to have our kids with us 24/7

No. Why would I?
I am not separated and go away without my kids.

No, if they are with their dad then she can do what she wants.

Not at all. A mum is allowed to have a life which is separate from her dc.

No I’d just be jealous ive never been able to do that 😅

Of course not, why would you?

Good grief no. I don’t judge women who go away and leave their still-together -partner to parent for a couple of days.

Don’t let your ex , or anyone else, try to control your down time, if that is what is happening.

If she doesn't take the DC away too at other times then yes. If she takes DC away just as much then no.

Of course not! You’re allowed a life outside of your children.

Absolutely not none of my business

Agree with this totally. I’d judge a bit if it was a mum or dad going away themselves but never took their kids anywhere, but in general no.

No, why?

I go away frequently without my kids. As long as they are safe and happy, it's absolutely fine.

I would judge a mum (or anyone) who judged a mum who did this.

I think this as well id probably judge if she never takes the children away

Thank god! Thank you all so far. It is me yes. I just feel highly highly judged by a relative for going away. The dc are with their dad and he never makes me feel guilty! We are on good terms.

Nope, no judgement here.

Once I’ve renewed my passport I’ll be on the first flight to Spain for a couple of days to get away from my children. I love them dearly but I need a break from being touched, climbed on, repeating myself 400 times a day and walking on eggshells because of my 4 year olds psychotic mood swings.

Same

I definitely take them away! I take them away separately for 3-4 days (whilst ex takes the other away) and I take them in a longer holiday together.

Never in a million years. I was often away on business trips while the children were home with their dad/my husband. I also took girls holidays with my mates now and then.

umm … no. I go away to Italy every year without my kids. Going to Germany without them later this year too.

Even though she is separated and pretty much does it when they are with their dad

So who has them when they are not with their dad then?

Absolutely I would not judge.

I wouldn’t just a mum going away without their children even if they were still with the Dad and they all lived together.

Just because you become a parent does not mean you have to give up being an individual person who has hobbies, interests and a life away from your children.

There is always someone judging you when you’re a mother. You cannot win. If you never went away, you’d be accused of coddling them and keeping them tied to your apron strings. You have to get a thick skin when you’re a mother and ignore such judgements.

I don’t judge but personally I wouldn’t be able to do it unless I was also taking my child away too so they had weekends away and holidays and I would alone also