AIBU to ask family to keep vegan takeaway dishes separate?

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Last weekend we got an Indian takeaway with family who were visiting. Everyone chose their food and I ordered it.

Some people decided they wanted to try others food, everyone was ok with that but I asked that people didn’t use the same utensils for the vegan dishes and meat dishes because I’m vegan and didn’t want meat in my food.

I thought this was a normal, fair and easy request but a couple of my family members started saying I was being over the top and asking what I thought would happen if some meat got in my food. I said I didn’t want to eat meat or animal products, even tiny amount, not that I thought anything would happen. They accused me of ruining the evening. I didn’t. I asked them, they caused a fuss, I explained my reasons and then carried on with the night. Everyone else got on with the night but these 2 spent the evening making sarcastic comments towards me and ignoring me at times.

Would you have had an issue with using separate utensils to put some of the vegan food on your plate, would you have seen it as ‘over the top’ or just been courteous and used different utensils with no fuss?

We are seeing this family member again next month. Lucky us. We will likely get a takeaway again and I’m thinking of just saying hands off and no one can try mine. 😬

Not precious at all. I would put spoons in all the dishes though and get people to serve themselves. I wouldn't want anyone else's fork in my food.

You wouldn't? That's good to hear.
Because the constant babbling on about how meat eating is NATURAL!! your body NEEDS it!! The endless anecdotes about aneamic, hairless toothless osteoporosis riddled, pale pasty vegans you know; the lame gotchas about leather taxi seats and mice in grain fields is so very tiresome.
And people who think vegans are smug usually can't resist boring us sideways with all that.

You were right to make a stand…….would they have used the same utensils on someone’s food who had a severe food allergy to those who didn’t? Bloody inconsiderate AND childish to keep the sarcasm active all evening!

They're dipping used forks into dishes? Eww

Suggest you help yourself to what you can eat, then leave them to fight over the rest

YANBU

Yanbu. I’d wouldn’t want peoples saliva-laced forks in my food even though I am a meat eater! That’s just common courtesy surely. And if a vegan friend had chosen dishes (and I’m assuming the vegan dishes were in the minority) I wouldn’t even ask to try and would definitely use separate serving spoons. I’m very much a meat eater but do think people love to criticise vegans. I’ve seen it much more that way around than vegans criticising meat eaters tbh 🤷🏻‍♀️.

eta next time I’d just take what I wanted first then leave them to it.

My teen grabbed her food and disappeared saying Joey doesn’t share food. She had the right idea.

Thank you everyone. I knew I wasn’t being unreasonable but good to see the vast majority agreeing. I think I will just say I’m not sharing in future and let the rest of them do what they want.

why the comparison with allergy? It's completely different.

One is a lifestyle CHOICE, fair enough but it's just that, a choice.
The other is a severe health issue.

One is being precious, the other needs to be kept safe.
Fair enough for people to be respectful, but it's just ridiculous to compare a diet preference with a medical condition.

You were right to ask them to use separate spoons. If they visit again tell them to order vegan for themselves if they want to try it but you 're not sharing.

I would always put a a seperate spoon or fork out for each dish regardless.

Is it a law of the universe that every vegan thread attracts disrespectful twats?

Some people decided they wanted to try others food, everyone was ok with that but I asked that people didn’t use the same utensils for the vegan dishes and meat dishes because I’m vegan and didn’t want meat in my food

Yeah. You aren't being unreasonable. My dd and her husband are vegan.
We'll occasionally pick up an Indian takeaway to take over to their house and eat with them, We wouldn't think of sharing, because they can't share ours.
I even ask permission to bring chicken curry into the house but they don't mind that, presumably because we're treating them.

I'm now thinking perhaps they hate it. I'll have to ask.

Would you be happy using utensils that were shared with food with dog, cat, horse or human parts in?

I am not vegan or vegetarian but I would want clean utensils anyway for sharing a large of food.

It seems like it’s very acceptable to mock people who don’t eat dead animals. It makes them feel better and they bond over the bullying. Knobs

I agree and I'm definitely not a vegan.

This. Those people are obnoxious twats OP.

Not really. My food my choice.
People don't respect boundries? Say no thank you I don't want to share my food.

“Precious” 🙄🙄🙄

I can tell a mile off what sort of person you are.

It’s certainly the law of Mumsnet, unfortunately.

Why would you want to do it again with people who dont care about your views. You sounded very reasonable to me.

The Op isnt being precious at all aa a vegan she doesnt want to eat animal products at all thats her right
I love meat but i respect other peoples principles .

Sorry but I do think you were a bit over the top.

Sorry, but I do think you are being rather dense here. Do you not realise that vegetarians and vegans don't want their food contaminated by dishes containing meat? What do you find so difficult to understand?

I'm an omnivore and I get it because I'm not stupid or bigoted and have enough social awareness to understand.

Why do threads about vegans and vegetarians bring out the monumentally thick, selfish, thoughtless and devoid of critical thinking posters?

I'm an omnivore and don't find it difficult to accommodate someone who doesn't eat meat or animal products.

I dont get it either
Im an omonivore too i love meat
But i respect other peoples choice ; s not to eat it and not want their food contaminated by animal products.

😂😂😂

What a ridiculous thing to say
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You're not a vegan, so how do you know if you'd be okay with it??? 😂😂😂

My MIL is veggie and we always make sure to use separate cooking utensils ie tongs for serving food. Isn’t that normal when someone we love has a food allergy/ avoidance?