To be cringed out by this (re sharing a takeaway)

[Cloudyonasunnyday]

When me and partner get a takeaway and share it he is obsessive over making sure we get half each, he will literally count pieces of chicken in a curry for example - how would this make you feel ?

Ewww.

when we get a takeaway my partner likes to make a very clear division between what’s his and what’s mine….but that’s purely so he can dig in with wild abandon and know he’s not taking more than his share.
but to count the chicken pieces? No.

Thank God he’s just a boy friend!

Well it’s fair. If the meal you’re sharing comes with 8 pieces of chicken and he takes a big spoonful with 6 pieces and leaves a load of sauce with 2 pieces in the tray for you, I imagine you’d be starting a thread “My partner took all the meat and left me with the sauce”

No I would just stop sharing takeaways and buy one dish each.
I do the sharing with my husband because I eat less than he does so I take what I want the give him the rest but he’s never give me exactly half he’ll always ask how much I want. But then he’s not tight at all

When we had a 'share' bag of sweets, my ex husband used to count them into two bowls.
He once cut a jaffa cake in half because there was an odd number in the packet.
This is the same man who'd eat seven out of a 10 pack of crisps while l was on a late shift and l'd been shopping in the morning. . They were meant to be for both of us, five each, for packed lunches. So he ate all of his and two of mine. In one evening. When he still had his evening meal....

I’m assuming he’s on the spectrum or is not diagnosed yet? Does he have any other symptoms? The fact he’s so tight is surely off putting for you to say the least ..

You realise we now imagine you do the exact opposite to this, right?

That you eat 4/5 and leave 1/5 to yo man?

How do you eat 1 fifth of a jacket potato for example or 1 fifth of a boiled egg?

I do this, but it's a trauma response to growing up extremely poor, and neglected, and I don't mean to seem mean. Has he any such history?

I never mentioned feeding his penis! I cant say we do that in this house either! 😳

I couldn’t get worked up over this. My husband is a greedy sod. He’s 6ft 5 and quite slim but seems to go into greed mode with food. Think it goes back to his childhood and not having much. He was in his element when I was in the jabs and he could dust off all my food haha

I don't have OCD to my knowledge but I do this too, to make sure I dish up fairly for all.

DH has a much bigger appetite than me so when we get a takeaway we each just get what we want. Last time we got a Chinese I got a kids curry and it was massive. And im not a teeny tiny I just get what I think ill eat. Although tbf I usually get a soup, kids meal and a banana fritter.

However a chicken chow mien is always an adult meal and I end it in one sitting.

I agree on counting prawns as they are always so tight with them. You’re lucky to get 8 prawns in a takeaway - we usually get 4 or 5! I have actually just given up prawn curries as they are too annoyingly stingey now. But no I don’t count chicken or lamb pieces 🤣

I made a massive chicken korma today and was portioning up some of it up for freezing . I must admit I was keeping an eye on how much chicken was in each container . It's only for me but I would be a bit disapointed if one of the containers had less chicken in it. It was bloody lovely too, I added lentils and spinach, impressed with myself!

Don't take it personally.

Food is very important to men!

I always split share bags into two bowls. DH eats mindlessly, and if I don't do this there's a strong possibility that I'll only get 2 or 3 sweets.

Do you think he's this person's ex?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5537889-what-is-the-wankiest-thing-youve-seen-your-ex-do?reply=152698212&utm_campaign=reply&utm_medium=share

He’s a miserable bastard.

How did you choose him to be your “partner?”

I accidentally voted YABU 😭. Count the rice grains as a PP said.

Me but currently on maternity leave

Did he weigh his dinner? Sorry......couldnt resist lifting that from the "wankiest thing your ex did" thread!

In all seriousness try an experiment. Say "Lets do it how my mum used to, I will dish up and then you can choose which one to take" and deliberately make one plate more generous than the other and see what he does. If he insists on evening it up, I would err on the side of him trying to be fair, but if he cheerfully takes the bigger portion then he is tighter than a drum.

As someone who has often ended up with less of the good stuff than DH because he's just eyeballed it and I get mostly sauce while he gets the actual food, I would welcome a more meticulous approach.

(To be fair to DH when I point it out he will then give me more of whatever it is from his plate, it isn't deliberate he's just not one for attention to detail)

Who is paying for the baby's stuff I wonder, and how much does he contribute to your lower income during ML?

Yeah I get you, the post is light hearted. We did it earlier and I just thought is it normal. It’s enlightening to get different perspectives :)