To be cringed out by this (re sharing a takeaway)

[Cloudyonasunnyday]

When me and partner get a takeaway and share it he is obsessive over making sure we get half each, he will literally count pieces of chicken in a curry for example - how would this make you feel ?

I wouldn't be that meticulous myself but it wouldn't bother me if someone else was.

The best way to ensure fair splitting between two with minimal fuss is for one person to split and the other to pick their portion.

I would be more concerned about him being tight in general than with the takeaway issue specifically.

I find locally Indian takeaways have lots of sauce and a limited number of big pieces of meat so yes I do count them when serving myself to make sure there's a reasonable amount left with the rest of the sauce for a second portion.

This behaviour could be stingy or could be deeply practical - watch and see if stinginess appears elsewhere.

One of you divides the portion, the other chooses which one to take.

Well - if I was sharing a dish with my DH I would make sure we got equal amounts, unless I wanted less. It's only fair isn't it? To be frank, I don't know why you wouldn't. Unless of course it's something with little bits of meat in it and then I would do it by eye. Chicken curry - usually has around 6 biggish bits of chicken, so 3 each unless one of us wants less.
Chicken fried rice - little bits so do it by eye.

As it is we usually order different meat dishes and share the sides - and even then I pick out any peppers because I like them and he doesn't. Same with water chestnuts.

This is why I don’t share food 🤢

@TheyGrewUp my mum always calculated things like roast potatoes at so many per person. It was second nature to cast a quick eye over the dish to work out roughly how many there were so you knew not to take too many at the start. She usually did 4 per person, so we usually started with 3 and went back for second helpings. I always had to make sure that boyfriends / husbands / children were aware. I do the same, except I allow 6 per person plus a couple spare, and there are usually a few left over.

Unless he is neurodivergent and it would cause him anxiety for it not to be fair … it’s weird !

mmmmm... we used to count out the pieces of chicken when we shared our curry.

Think of it like this: if you discovered your partner had taken half of what was in the tub but "happened" to have 9 pieces of chicken and left you with 2, wouldn't you be slightly miffed?

Micromanaged. Get TWO takeaways. It’s worth it to avoid this insulting, controlling behavior. It really doesn’t matter WHY he does it, it’s unacceptable. How are you supposed to enjoy your meal while being food policed?

I can’t eat an awful lot, so always give my partner more than I would have but he gets so offended and starts spooning more onto my plate, but he’ll only end up eating in anyway because I’m too full 😂

Don't see the problem, whenever me and my partner have something like a Chinese or a curry we share out the main parts (i.e. meat) equally first then add everything else.

I do this because I’m a greedy bitch and my instincts say eat it all

I do this. Even if I get an Indian for just myself. I usually make it last for 2 days and divide it equally (count the chicken pieces). If I'm sharing with my partner, I woll divide it equally. I won't do it outloud and I don't mind if he has more. But if I do it, It will be equal.

And if you got 5 bits of meat and he got 6?

I do this subconsciously but it's a way of making sure the portions are fair. Not just fair for me, fair for who I'm sharing with.

But... I am also an only child with increasingly worsening OCD.