To be cringed out by this (re sharing a takeaway)

[Cloudyonasunnyday]

When me and partner get a takeaway and share it he is obsessive over making sure we get half each, he will literally count pieces of chicken in a curry for example - how would this make you feel ?

What a gimp. Just order one each ffs so he can stop pissing about counting bits of chicken

Being tight is the biggest turn off for me! Eeewww.

He seems to be a fair guy. It’s better than being a food hogger, lol.

If there's an odd number of pieces, or some are much bigger, who gets the extra? It feels a bit mean if he's doing this because he's worried you will cheat him. If he's doing it to ensure you're not left with less, then it's sweet. Though usually with takeaways I find there's plenty for everyone to just take what they want.

If he’s “very tight” then he won’t make a good partner. These men never do. They’re too busy resenting everything that everyone else has or gets, including their own wives and children.

I agree i would always give my DH a bigger portion than me, men generally need more calories than women. I cant eat anywhere near as much.

DH is determined to make sure I get half of all “fun” food like takeaways etc. which is slightly ridiculous when due to me being very short and him being very sporty, his calorie intake is about double mine.I regularly have to tell him it’s fine for him to eat more than exactly half of something we are sharing /see him clearly still hungry having demolished his share and waiting to take more until after I’ve finished.

it could be him being tight, but also OP it could be he’s trying really hard to be fair. To not take more than his fair share. Someone taught him to count how much of something there is, how many it’s shared between and only take his share.

I'd feel right at home 🤪.

Did he also grow up in a family with food issues?

The thing is that this behaviour will extend into every area of life, for him. My ex was a bit like this: terrified that I was getting something that he wasn't. Note the 'ex'. This guy is tight, OP. Get rid.

I have always eaten 1 fifth of what any man I have been with, usually eats. So these things would never even happen

It wouldn't bother me as long as he wasn't taking a long time about it and delaying you getting started eating. As he is being fair and not advantaging or disadvantaging either of you, I'd guess he's just not good at making a visual estimate of "half" or isn't confident he can and so does it this way. (He could also just ask you to make the split, though.) But unless it's part of a larger pattern of scorekeeping or tit for tat or being inflexibly precise, I'd probably just snicker and let him count away.

One divides, the other picks - that’s the law.

At least he didn’t insist on penis portions 😂

I would expect to eat my own curry and wouldn't want to share so I'd be annoyed if it was just assumed that I'd share. 😂

It sounds like he's trying to make it fair which is better than so many men on here who are greedy and happily leave their partners with very little.

Same! My husband has to do the dishing out as I have to be exactly fair and even.

It would give me the ick unfortunately.

I think though that I'd have asked quite early on why he is doing this and what it's all about. Being generous perhaps he thinks that is truly the fairest way to do it and doesn't want to take more than his share.

I'd just dish it up myself when it arrived. I agree with you OP that it is the normal thing to do to simply eye half of shared dishes and get on with it, not count pieces for each. Any functioning adult is capable of simply estimating half a portion.

Congratulations on missing the point. To be fair, there are a few of you. There always are.

It is not actually about calorific requirements, appetite or cubes of chicken.

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That much?

I just sniff the food and let the man eat it all.

Hate this attitude towards food it’s so stingy and weird to me.

So if he spooned out 4 pieces of chicken leaving you with 2, you would be ok with that or would you say something?

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1 fifth! Bloody hell. Men’s v women’s caloric needs are not that different!

I’m with you on this, I can’t eyeball it very accurately and I don’t want someone to end up with six bits of chicken and one person two and a load of sauce or whatever.

I don't think it would bother me that much, unless he took ages doing it. The fairest way would be for him just to do it by eye, then let you choose which portion you wanted, or vice versa.