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To think amount of Roma and Traveller children withdrawn from school underage needs to be cracked down on?

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Jane379 · Today 16:42

Two things have made me think about this.

One was the recent thread on Venezuela Fury, Tyson's daughter. Her situation appears slightly different as apparently she did receive tuition online but it made me look into the wider situation.

I know there has been improvement, and that many Roma & travellers families don't do this. But it shouldn't be allowed in the first place. Yes, some who do may homeschool their kids properly, but how many?

There needs to be more regulation of homeschooling.

Why do Roma & traveller kids often slip through the net? Is it sometimes linked to families moving around so children move from one LA to another?

There' nothing wrong with kids preferring to pursue technical options than academic, or living the travelling lifestyle. But school would give them a chance to choose.

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Nogimachi · Today 18:01

My primary school had a lot of traveller children - some stayed permanently but many dropped in and out. I think you may be right OP that it can be hard to track them since they move around.
There was a really bad situation once where two traveller families had a big fight in the playground at hometime. About 40 people were involved. They had to lock down the school and the police took ages to come. It was really frightening.
I imagine the school were quite pleased when those kids moved on!

Swimmingteacher21 · Today 18:01

Jane379 · Today 16:50

Yes, Sikh men also successfully fought for an exemption for motorbike helmet wearing due to their turbans. Most sensibly choose not to ride motorbikes, but I don't agree with the exemption.

I have a lot of time for many aspects of the Sikh community, but they're not living in the days when Punjabi Sikhs were persecuted and carried swords for protection. We cannot have sword carrying. And we cannot have exemptions from motorbike helmet laws.

There’s evidence that turbans provide a level of head protection similar to motorbike helmets (not full face helmets obviously). In fact a turban called the Tough Turban was invented that is advertised as being as good as helmet. Just food for thought…

Nogimachi · Today 18:03

Floattheboats · Today 16:50

by removing children from school the menfolk keep their families in their place. If they are too educated they would risk experiencing life outside their culture and leave It’s a good way to control your children by keeping them uneducated

Exactly this. Thank you for the clarity.

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · Today 18:04

Pollyanna87 · Today 17:45

10% of traveller children are dead before their second birthday. Yes, really.

I have just looked this up, and it seems - unbelievably - to be true.

Puffinsandcoffee · Today 18:05

Jane379 · Today 16:44

The recent case of the 3 traveller boys walking free after rape also made me think about this.

https://spectator.com/article/when-teenage-rapists-walk-free/

The fact they were travellers may be incidental, but I do wonder whether they were in regular school education. If not, perhaps danger signs went unseen that school might have picked up on.

The fact they are travellers is incidental. No "may be" about it that I can see. What is it about being a traveller that you think makes travellers more likely to be rapists? Lower school attendance can't explain it, if we're to believe the reports of rampant misogyny in schools.

Kbcdtyijgd · Today 18:06

Octavia64 · Today 16:50

Any parent in the uk is entitled to home educate by which is meant they either educate their children themselves or organise tutors and similar to do it.

an awful lot of those who home educate are doing so because their children are disabled and have SEN and schools are not capable of meeting those needs.

the number of disabled kids who really need special school but are now starting in mainstream where they have no chance of getting a suitable education - because they are non verbal, because they are blind or deaf or both, etc, is so so much larger than it used to be.

NC for this. Travellers don’t home educate. I worked in a position that put me in close proximity to many sites and families. Literacy is extremely poor, many can’t read or write at all. Any paper work is ignored - bills, appointments, court summons. Girls are married young and there are huge problems with domestic abuse which is never reported. They can’t escape, they have no skills and nowhere to go. Look at statistics on travellers dying young - mental health, depression, suicide all ignored - they just hold lavish funerals but never tackle the underlying issues. Crime is rife and disputes between families are settled their way. There is huge mistrust of outsiders known as ‘gorjas’ or country people.

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Error404FucksNotFound · Today 18:08

I'd like to see rules on home education generally. Rules that are enforced, standards that must be met.

quantumbutterfly · Today 18:10

Pollyanna87 · Today 17:45

10% of traveller children are dead before their second birthday. Yes, really.

🙁 Is that higher than other ethnic groups? Any stats on causes?

FlowersInDenmark · Today 18:10

They are the ethnicity most likely to be racially abused and bullied in school, most likely to be excluded, and most likely to have parents who also found school a hideous, hostile environment. Parents are fairly likely to be illiterate and understandably wary of the racism of authority, and therefore struggle to navigate the system and support their children. Tbh, every GRT kid who makes it through the doors of a secondary school (primary is easier) is already doing something pretty brave.

I think homeschooling should be illegal partly due to working with GRT kids extensively, but the school system has also got to stop failing these students so badly.

LittleGreenShoots · Today 18:12

Canoodler · Today 16:46

I think it's similar to the Sikh knife thing. I think the law needs to be the same for everyone from now on. We all need to be playing by the same rules.

Penknives have also been used to kill people https://www.devonlive.com/news/devon-news/exeter-murder-trial-10-pocket-8636346

This is the first instance I have ever heard of where a Sikh has used their dagger to harm, I would argue their risk is on the level of a penknife, i.e. close to harmless the majority of the time.

I think the biggest change to knife laws we should be implementing is for knives sold to have rounded/ blunt tips- there is no need for kitchen knives to have the sharp points that make them capable of stabbing.

Kitchen knives are infinitely more likely to be involved in a fatality. Why don't we focus on making the ones for sale less harmful?

£10 pocket knife used to kill Exeter man, murder trial told

Brian Jewell Jewell denies murder saying he acted in self defence.

https://www.devonlive.com/news/devon-news/exeter-murder-trial-10-pocket-8636346

Kbcdtyijgd · Today 18:12

quantumbutterfly · Today 18:10

🙁 Is that higher than other ethnic groups? Any stats on causes?

From my own experience- huge mistrust of medical experts, little pre natal care, no vaccinations, reluctance to attend appointments, can’t read basic information including prescriptions and medical leaflets.

likelysuspect · Today 18:13

Canoodler · Today 16:46

I think it's similar to the Sikh knife thing. I think the law needs to be the same for everyone from now on. We all need to be playing by the same rules.

The law is the same for everyone. Parents have the right to home school or provide alternative education for their children rather than schools

The problem is this is barely regulated. Parents have no legal obligation to provide information to the local authority to prove their provision to the child. They dont have to engage with the visits.

The minute you question home schooling you get a pile on and how fabulous home schooling is.

Kbcdtyijgd · Today 18:13

FlowersInDenmark · Today 18:10

They are the ethnicity most likely to be racially abused and bullied in school, most likely to be excluded, and most likely to have parents who also found school a hideous, hostile environment. Parents are fairly likely to be illiterate and understandably wary of the racism of authority, and therefore struggle to navigate the system and support their children. Tbh, every GRT kid who makes it through the doors of a secondary school (primary is easier) is already doing something pretty brave.

I think homeschooling should be illegal partly due to working with GRT kids extensively, but the school system has also got to stop failing these students so badly.

Their culture and refusal to integrate is what fails them.

AlphabetBird · Today 18:16

I was a governor at a school with around 10-15% traveller kids from a settled site in the village.

Very very few of the kids went to secondary, boys mostly starting work immediately and girls helping on the site. All had pretty good attendance at primary. One family within the site had a lot of attention from social services, and the kids in that family did attend secondary, I think because there was more visibility. The girl is now in sixth form, which is a really great outcome but unusual for the site as a whole.

The head had a pretty good relationship, which helped attendance and engagement I think, but obviously not enough to manage getting them all the way through education.

likelysuspect · Today 18:16

FlowersInDenmark · Today 18:10

They are the ethnicity most likely to be racially abused and bullied in school, most likely to be excluded, and most likely to have parents who also found school a hideous, hostile environment. Parents are fairly likely to be illiterate and understandably wary of the racism of authority, and therefore struggle to navigate the system and support their children. Tbh, every GRT kid who makes it through the doors of a secondary school (primary is easier) is already doing something pretty brave.

I think homeschooling should be illegal partly due to working with GRT kids extensively, but the school system has also got to stop failing these students so badly.

I think there is lots of validity in that, but also not ignoring that if some of the GRT kids are aggressive and badly behaved, when other kids challenge that or teachers challenge and discipline, it will be claimed that this is occuring out of racism

Inmyuggs · Today 18:16

FancyTurtles · Today 17:13

Oh come on, if you really care about traveller children why start a thread which is then full of casual racism. Plenty of children are out of school, plenty of families are also misogynistic, don't value education and all the rest of it. Not all travellers are the same as whatever stereotypes portray and it's definitely no easy thing to go through life being hated and discriminated against from birth really, that has more of an impact on any childhood impact than anything else. I reckon if you want to help them find an organisation supporting traveller communities and offer some time and resource

Well said!

Puffinsandcoffee · Today 18:18

Travellers opt out or only partially opt in to formal education for many good reasons. Traveller children experience a lot of bullying (ie anti traveller racism), which is seen to do more harm than is worth the gains of school. Traveller lifestyles and values often make consistent attendance impossible - a family funeral for example, a 6hour drive away, might mean spending a longer time in that area, to be with the wider family and community. I don't think that's a bad thing. And much of the work travellers do doesn't require formal education.

I have a degree, and if my kids want to go to uni, I'll be happy to support them. But if they don't, and want to earn a living in a trade or spend their working lives bringing up their own kids and supporting working siblings and all that, I'll be just as happy. As long as they pick good partners and they have enough money to live well, I don't think a degree or a few a levels matters as much as I used to think it did.

Puffinsandcoffee · Today 18:19

Kbcdtyijgd · Today 18:13

Their culture and refusal to integrate is what fails them.

Their culture is as valid as any other culture. Why don't you integrate with them instead?

Jane379 · Today 18:20

Puffinsandcoffee · Today 18:05

The fact they are travellers is incidental. No "may be" about it that I can see. What is it about being a traveller that you think makes travellers more likely to be rapists? Lower school attendance can't explain it, if we're to believe the reports of rampant misogyny in schools.

Traveller culture is known to often (not always) be misogynistic especially towards non Traveller women as I said above.

I don't know about Roma who are a separate group. I think there are similar issues with school attendance though.

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Anarchy99 · Today 18:21

I didn’t realise those three filthy rapists were travellers as I hadn’t seen that mentioned.

Puffinsandcoffee · Today 18:21

FlowersInDenmark · Today 18:10

They are the ethnicity most likely to be racially abused and bullied in school, most likely to be excluded, and most likely to have parents who also found school a hideous, hostile environment. Parents are fairly likely to be illiterate and understandably wary of the racism of authority, and therefore struggle to navigate the system and support their children. Tbh, every GRT kid who makes it through the doors of a secondary school (primary is easier) is already doing something pretty brave.

I think homeschooling should be illegal partly due to working with GRT kids extensively, but the school system has also got to stop failing these students so badly.

Passionatelu agree with the first paragraph!! Not sure I agree that homeschooling should be illegal, but I can see why it's worth considering. But mandatory education needs to accommodate a range of cultures and the lifestyles that go along with that.

meisafairy · Today 18:21

RumPidgeon · Today 17:58

Came on here to add exactly this. The UK needs to get a grip pandering to everyone‘s religious beliefs over adherence to UK laws and British customs. I’d happily see the back of halal meat as the common denominator- it’s cruel beyond belief. If you can’t eat any other meat bring your own or pick the vegetarian option - it’s not hard.

Back to the thread: those kids disappear from sight and we all know that many female travellers children are highly vulnerable and lack education to support themselves if for whatever reason they lose their status in their community.

A thread about attacking the travelling community, you manage to get the hat trick of going for halal meat?? ( have you read about Kosher practices?) And the Sikhs…. Racist racist frickin racists in plain sight.

Yet again @mumsnet allows racism, misinformation and bigotry.

Cease-pit of hate and racism

Jane379 · Today 18:21

LittleGreenShoots · Today 18:12

Penknives have also been used to kill people https://www.devonlive.com/news/devon-news/exeter-murder-trial-10-pocket-8636346

This is the first instance I have ever heard of where a Sikh has used their dagger to harm, I would argue their risk is on the level of a penknife, i.e. close to harmless the majority of the time.

I think the biggest change to knife laws we should be implementing is for knives sold to have rounded/ blunt tips- there is no need for kitchen knives to have the sharp points that make them capable of stabbing.

Kitchen knives are infinitely more likely to be involved in a fatality. Why don't we focus on making the ones for sale less harmful?

Ok but can we try not to derail into the knife issue? There's already several threads on that

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Councilworker · Today 18:22

This has been the main focus of my job for the last decade. Home education being deemed unsuitable for kids because there is non going on and then getting them back into school. My council was very proactive and dealing with EHE and assesment of it long before the recent discussions.
So we allocate places to these families, issue school attendance orders, take it to court for failing to register the child and then refer to social care for educational neglect and then the family moves and the kids are still out of school. We do border checks to see if Roma families have left the UK, we follow up leads from health and the police about kids being out of school and do home visits. We try every single thing to get these kids in school and it still doesn't happen. So please do tell me how to enforce it.