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To think amount of Roma and Traveller children withdrawn from school underage needs to be cracked down on?

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Jane379 · Today 16:42

Two things have made me think about this.

One was the recent thread on Venezuela Fury, Tyson's daughter. Her situation appears slightly different as apparently she did receive tuition online but it made me look into the wider situation.

I know there has been improvement, and that many Roma & travellers families don't do this. But it shouldn't be allowed in the first place. Yes, some who do may homeschool their kids properly, but how many?

There needs to be more regulation of homeschooling.

Why do Roma & traveller kids often slip through the net? Is it sometimes linked to families moving around so children move from one LA to another?

There' nothing wrong with kids preferring to pursue technical options than academic, or living the travelling lifestyle. But school would give them a chance to choose.

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Allseeingallknowing · Today 19:04

Jellox · Today 19:00

What an odd thing to say.

Anyone can home school their children.
MN is full of parents who choose to homeschool.

Would be interesting to see their experiences

Puffinsandcoffee · Today 19:04

Princesspeaches99 · Today 19:00

I think their culture is slowly changing for the better. They need to be literate in order to communicate on social media. There are a lot more these days who can read & write. They seem to stay in school a bit longer than they did in my time. I agree with the poster who said that the men rule. Women are treated as second class citizens. Unfortunately the Fury girl has set things back again, why on earth did she need to get married at 16. She'll be popping out babies one after the other like her mother soon
Although because her family are extremely wealthy it's a different situation. Young traveller girls will still look up to her though. They need some more positive role models.

Tue Fury girl? Popping out babies?

And travellers are the sexist ones 😂

Jane379 · Today 19:05

likelysuspect · Today 18:55

Theres no requirement for a visit to be allowed, child to be interviewed or examples of work provided. A parent can refuse these things. No inference is allowed to be made by refusal that tyhe child is not having a suitable education

The law is very loose here. If none of the above is agreed to by a parent, how do you believe someone can show suitable education?

Unbelievable.

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JuliaBraverman · Today 19:05

likelysuspect · Today 19:03

That is the regulation, you have to show suitable education. But equally you have no legal obligation to let anyone in, anyone to inspect, child to be interviewed, work to be inspected.

So seems a bit pointless to have it in place?

Jane379 · Today 19:06

ThreadGuardDog · Today 18:53

So how exactly would you categorise Henry Nowaks’ murder, given the behaviour of the perpetrator ?

Was Nowak murdered for being white? I thought it was just a random act of brutal violence.

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Jellox · Today 19:06

This is a very inflammatory thread, designed purely to rile up MNers who are possibly already feeling riled.

How have you jumped from discussing homeschooling to rape to Sikhs.
There is no correlation.

There is correlation between being expelled from school and prison called the school to prison pipeline but the crimes tend to be mainstream crimes like theft, burglaries, drug dealing etc, rather then sexual crimes.

There is no correlation between homeschooling and sexual crimes.
If there was MN would be breeding a bunch of future rapists.

There absolutely should be stricter rules around homeschooling because too many times children have been abused and not picked up on because they don’t attend school.
This doesn’t have anything to do with the travelling community though.

Jane379 · Today 19:08

Anyahyacinth · Today 18:35

Wow these threads ...they almost exactly follow the pattern of the rise of nazism...anti Pride today, making a single murder represent all Sikhs and now the Romas....all the same targeted groups for condemnation and otracisation.

Never again anyone?

Where does targetting whole groups with a single opinion lead do you think?

With lots of posts about 'they must conform to our culture'. Some people are far down the road of hate led thinking.

Totally sickening ...they come for women next and its already here with anti abortion, extra taxes for childless women and household voting 🤢😔

Who in the UK is asking for household voting?

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AtchinTan · Today 19:16

JuliaBraverman · Today 18:50

Under the Education Act, they have to show they are getting a suitable age appropriate education. How can a mother who has never been educated herself provide this?

So you have been school educated but that's a mystery to you?

TheBookShelf · Today 19:17

I work in education. Homeschooling in England and Wales is about to become much more regulated - at least in law, though enforcement may not be straightforward in all situations. The Children's Wellbeing and Schools Act 2026 (passed in April) introduces a tighter legal framework for homeschooling, including giving local authorities some powers of intervention in situations where there is an identified cause for concern. The Act also has provision to make it harder for children to 'disappear' and fall through the cracks - though some of this is still at the planning stage.

What this will look like in practice remain to be seen - the provision under the new Act hasn't yet been implemented and some will be phased in gradually. over several years. The aim though is to provide greater protection and visibility for children who are not in school and may not be receiving an adequate education (whatever community or cultural group they are from). Of course, this doesn't mean all children who are home educated and the Act makes that clear.

Puffinsandcoffee · Today 19:17

Kbcdtyijgd · Today 18:27

By dropping out of school ?

There is a bit more to traveller culture than that, believe it or not.

Greenwitchart · Today 19:19

I agree.

I feel especially sorry for the girls who are taken out of school and prepared for a life housework and having kids and being told what to do by men with no opportunity to want something more for themselves.

I have no idea why in the UK in 2026 we are still allowing kids to be prevented from reaching their full potential like this.

Homeschooling in general needs to be better regulated/monitored too.

The welfare and education of kids always has to come before any kind of cultural sensitivity.

cramptramp · Today 19:23

Nothing will even happen. Many traveller parents have no aspirations for their children, nor do they value education.

ERthree · Today 19:25

I personally couldn't care if they are educated or not but i do think the law should apply to every single one of them.

FlyingWithBingoWings · Today 19:26

BackToLurk · Today 18:51

Is it bollocks. Anti-traveller discrimination in Ireland is a pretty well documented phenomenon.

I wasn't saying bollocks to the fact there is discrimination against travellers in Ireland because there is. I was saying bollocks to the fact that it is seen as discrimination at all. Calling out bad behaviour does not make you racist no matter who the badly behaving fucker is.

There is anti discrimination and that's because the Irish know exactly what they are like and so do plenty of English, although they are still petrified to say Bollocks!
That said, a growing number are less inclined to have this shit shovelled down their throat and there are examples of this on this thread.

Their reaction is a sensible one and, apart from a few gullible gobshites, the majority won't be called racist for calling out the bad behaviour of people who share the same blood and heritage as themselves.

In England, it is a case of watching the sheep gather to protect the wolves and although, there are instances of that too in Ireland, it's still rare-Deo Gratis!

Now, you may wring your hands at this post but little do I and many others care!

Allseeingallknowing · Today 19:26

Puffinsandcoffee · Today 19:17

There is a bit more to traveller culture than that, believe it or not.

Tell us, then

Jellox · Today 19:27

Kbcdtyijgd · Today 18:27

By dropping out of school ?

You do realise many MNers homeschool their kids.

Do you realise how many children who live on farms ‘drop out of school’.

A few years ago it was completely normal to drop out of school to join the family business.

Apprentices are becoming more and more common, because actually learning work skills are just as valuable (often more so) than sitting in a classroom learning about Henry Viii

We have people who have spent thousands of pounds on degrees and still can’t get a job.

I am actually not a huge fan of homeschooling as some parents do it for the wrong reasons and think it develops social skills etc but I understand how many people find it a waste of time if they’re planning on doing a more practical job.

FlyingWithBingoWings · Today 19:28

Puffinsandcoffee · Today 19:17

There is a bit more to traveller culture than that, believe it or not.

There certainly is and I could name you some examples that would make your hair curl.

Puffinsandcoffee · Today 19:28

Greenwitchart · Today 19:19

I agree.

I feel especially sorry for the girls who are taken out of school and prepared for a life housework and having kids and being told what to do by men with no opportunity to want something more for themselves.

I have no idea why in the UK in 2026 we are still allowing kids to be prevented from reaching their full potential like this.

Homeschooling in general needs to be better regulated/monitored too.

The welfare and education of kids always has to come before any kind of cultural sensitivity.

This is mostly racism dressed up as feminism. The gender pay gap persists despite girls outperforming boys throughout school. Rape and domestic violence happen across all cultures and classes. Having babies screws many women's careers.

If women can and want to have babies without bothering with the career - if they want to work for their families instead of for bosses and companies - I think that's a legitimate decision . Cultures that support this choice aren't wrong.

I had the opportunity to want something more. I didn't have the opportunity to get it, because I had babies. Among other reasons no doubt.

Puffinsandcoffee · Today 19:29

FlyingWithBingoWings · Today 19:28

There certainly is and I could name you some examples that would make your hair curl.

Why do you assume you know more about it than me?

cramptramp · Today 19:29

AlphabetBird · Today 18:16

I was a governor at a school with around 10-15% traveller kids from a settled site in the village.

Very very few of the kids went to secondary, boys mostly starting work immediately and girls helping on the site. All had pretty good attendance at primary. One family within the site had a lot of attention from social services, and the kids in that family did attend secondary, I think because there was more visibility. The girl is now in sixth form, which is a really great outcome but unusual for the site as a whole.

The head had a pretty good relationship, which helped attendance and engagement I think, but obviously not enough to manage getting them all the way through education.

Helping to do what on the site?

FlyingWithBingoWings · Today 19:31

Puffinsandcoffee · Today 19:29

Why do you assume you know more about it than me?

I can tell that you are either a traveller or some misty eyed soft head.

Do tell us your examples of the enhancing culture this particular group brings, how they benefit us all. Go on. Five examples will do, Don't burn your brain trying to think of more.

Reason in all things after all.

Puffinsandcoffee · Today 19:35

cramptramp · Today 19:23

Nothing will even happen. Many traveller parents have no aspirations for their children, nor do they value education.

They absolute do have aspirations for their kids. You just don't agree that they're good aspirations.

Puffinsandcoffee · Today 19:42

FlyingWithBingoWings · Today 19:31

I can tell that you are either a traveller or some misty eyed soft head.

Do tell us your examples of the enhancing culture this particular group brings, how they benefit us all. Go on. Five examples will do, Don't burn your brain trying to think of more.

Reason in all things after all.

Can I be a misty eyed soft headed traveller? Or do travellers have to have sunny eyes and hard heads?

A culture doesn't have to benefit "us all" to be valid. Family, Children, Cleanliness, Religion, Storytelling. All are important in traveller culture in different but equally good ways to how they're values in other cultures.

I don't know why I'm bothering though. Either you agree that cultural diversity is good and should be respected and protected (which can be true even when there are endemic problems within a community of that culture), or you don't. If you don't, there's no talking to you.

WearyAuldWumman · Today 19:43

dozer222 · Today 18:50

Who were you mocked by?

The boy's Guidance/Pastoral lead.

FasterMichelin · Today 19:48

Traveller families can do what they like because they don’t respect authority and authority is scared of them.

We have a traveller girl in my child’s class and it’s accepted that her attendance is low.

It’s a huge disadvantage to the women travellers, even though they may not acknowledge it. As women they have no independence, freedom, choice or the chance to have a rewording career. Not everyone enjoys cleaning caravans and doing whatever their husbands want.

No one will crack down on it because no one wants to bring trouble to their door. More should be done, but the community need to back it.