AIBU to feel angry about my husband's £1000 a month car?

[Tunaturner]

My husband has bought a car that costs £1000 a month. He does earn a lot more and drives a lot so I get he wants to be comfortable. But I think cars are a waste of money.
I don’t know why I feel so angry.

We have our own money and pay half the bills,
but to me the money would be better spent on other things.
if I just met him on a date and he said he has a car that was £1000 month I wouldn’t see him again as it’s distasteful.
am I being irrational? I feel controlling saying he shouldn’t be spending that much.

Apparently they're supposed to only spend it on "the family" or keep it in savings to support the children through uni or buy them their own car and house. Never mind you might possibly just want to enjoy your own earnings.

Yup big time. 10% of gross pay on a fancy car - tragic…..

I know what you're saying, but if you were offered a choice between buying a car for £20,000 and buying the identical vehicle for £60,000 then choosing the latter would undoubtedly be a waste of money even though you'd be buying a car. Most people would probably still think it wasteful to choose option two if the rip-off garage said they'd throw in a tank of fuel and some mats for your £40,000.

For the OP, her husband's car choice seems like a waste in much the same way. He gets a product that fulfils a need that could have been fulfilled much more cheaply. Yes, he gets the additional prestige of a premium car brand, but she doesn't value that any more than she would a tank of fuel and a set of mats.

I'm not saying it's morally wrong to drive a Merc, and I don't drive a Dacia myself. I'm just saying that whether it's a "waste of money" to buy a more expensive item is subjective. Some people place no value on the cachet of a premium make, and it can reasonably be said that a more expensive car with no demonstrable practical advantages is a waste of money to those people.

Others choose to buy flashy cars and that's fine. You could say it's not a waste of money because they find value in it, or you could say that it's fine for them to waste money in that way because they enjoy it, just as some people enjoy "wasting" money on designer clothes, single malt, Champagne and spa treatments.

The point with salary sacrifices/ car allowances is if you don’t drive a Mercedes you lose most of that to tax anyway. Would you rather pay more tax or drive round in a nicer car?

Do they need a new bathroom or does the OP just like the idea of one?

The claim is that it’d benefit the whole family, but how? If it’s just a bit faded but working fine then that no more benefits the whole family than does having a nice car.

My husband spent £20,000 having a wardrobe built, does that become frivolous again as it’s in his dressing room, or for the benefit of the whole family as I use part of it too?