To ask how many of your wedding guests have died?

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It's our anniversary this week, although we are getting divorced.

How many of your guests did you lose in the twenty years after your wedding? I feel like our losses are high. About 85 guests and 15 are gone. Is this normal? Or does it seem high to you too?

For me just 1 but it was my mum so a huge loss, have been married 4 years. I am of an age where I still have living grandparents so I guess the age you get married at can skew results as naturally older relatives will mean more losses.

100 guests but only 17 years ago; 4 deaths. All much missed - two were at their time; two were shocks.

Ugh - it's really raining and windy. Rain is welcome but there's altogether too much wind.

Very small wedding, will be 16 years ago this year, and 4 out of the 11 have died.

Funnily enough I was just thinking about this the other day, randomly.
We’ve been married 22 years and had 80 guests. Out of that we have lost 6. Both grandmas (who were in their late 80s at the time) and one couple who were friends of my parents and both died in their 50s of cancer. Also my husband’s aunt and uncle who died about a year ago again, both of cancer and on the same day. They were late 70s though.

On a more jolly note, we’ve had at least 28 babies to make up for it! And also, interestingly, not a single divorce. We also had a marriage (and two babies) come about because of the wedding (work friend met a Uni friend).

It's not the same! I want the old people back. Stupid new babies, they're rubbish! 😂

Oooo. Let me think. I had about 120 at my wedding. Those that have passed were my parents generation- my parents, my DH’s parents, some of their friends… maybe 20 or so? Sadly, my own DH died suddenly after seven years too. But how many of our guests have had children since our wedding? That is a more cheerful number. At least a dozen (and I was 40 and my DH 44 so our friends were not young)!

That’s life! Personally I prefer a sweet little new baby!

Got married 24 years ago, divorced 16 years ago, we seated 40 guest at our reception, out of my side 12 have died including my parents, I lost my mum in March this year.

New babies don't make up for loss. It's not the same thing.

I know that 😄 but out of the people who died from my wedding, 4/6 of them were very elderly. And death is a part of life.

Thank you so much for your kind words, it does help even to know a stranger on the internet is thinking of you and rooting for us and l will pass them on to my DH.

Agree. I expected the majority of those who have died from my wedding to be dead by now (16 years later) otherwise they would be medical miracles. Their own children are in their 70s. Less so the friend who died last year of MND in her 40s.

Been married 22 years. 95 guests. My dad and 4 of our grandparents have died since then. 2 other relatives. At least one of my parents friends that I can remember. So definitely 8, possibly a couple more.

For a bit of a positive thought, I also worked out that between us and our guests we have had at least 45 babies between us since our wedding! Quite glad we aren't getting married now as that would have been very expensive.

DH and I married 18 years ago and since then about 11 of our wedding guests have died - including my lovely husband who died of cancer two months ago at the age of 46. All of the others were elderly, except for my uncle who was 54, also cancer.

We've been together almost 20 years but only married for 7 of them.
3 of our guests, who were also close family members, have died since our wedding.
1 guest who was invited but couldn't come due to Ill health has died.
3 people who were alive at the start of our relationship and would have been invited to our wedding had they been alive by the time we got round to it, have died.

People die.

That made me think. Just my husband's grandparents have died since our wedding actually and we've been married for 31 years .
All the ready of our guests are still knocking around.

Well that was a fun exercise

96 guests 14 years ago
4 deaths, grandparents, aunt & uncle
about 12 people that we don’t talk to anymore due to falling out or divorces/break ups.

I’ve also not seen 19 people pretty much since the wedding!

Yeah, there are three people I don't talk to anymore due to their absolutely appalling behaviour when my parents were dying of cancer. These people really are dead to me, so you could put my total at 18 instead of 15, in practical terms!

Nice to hear!

Were you quite young when you married?

Married 25 years. 9 have died out of about 80-85 guests.

Been married 49 years plus (I was a child bride — at least that’s what I keep telling myself) so pretty much all the older generation, parents, aunts, uncles etc have all gone now.
Most of our own generation are still around athough we have lost one close friend just this week. And sadly the best man at our wedding also died a few years ago. But we still have our siblings and cousins. Actually DH isn’t too sure about all his cousins, he had over three dozen at one time - large family in Ireland - and he doesn’t know some of them very well.

Doing a quick mental recce and counting on my fingers - 5
Got married 16 years ago and had about 50 at our wedding.

Married 30 next month - all grand parents, couple of friends our age. About 10

Yes. DH was 22 and I was 24. His mum was 39 . I think his nanny was only about 60 when we were married.