To ask how many of your wedding guests have died?

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It's our anniversary this week, although we are getting divorced.

How many of your guests did you lose in the twenty years after your wedding? I feel like our losses are high. About 85 guests and 15 are gone. Is this normal? Or does it seem high to you too?

Congratulations on your silver anniversary! It's nice to hear of people making it.

Small wedding 15 people total. 10yrs ago. 3 have died.

If you were to tell me that, I wouldn’t have thought it would have been any of the 3. The 2 eldest relatives are still alive and one was only 36 when he died. He was the first, just a couple of yrs after our wedding. It’s really sad to think 3 have gone now.

What good are stupid new babies, though? 🤣 I want the people who I knew to be back!

The new ones are crap. They don't know anything and I have no memories with them. And they can't do anything. They're rubbish! 😂

I sometimes look at the group shot from my wedding. 1997 - 50 guests - 14 faces on that picture no longer here.
It is an odd question but it has made me remember those friends and relatives which must be a good thing.

Married 18 years. 6 people have died.

Married in 2005, 30 guests. Never saw 5 of them ever again after that and assume one of those 5 is now dead due to age, another 3 dead for certain.

Divorced since 2009, happily.

We're 17 years married and 12 of our guests have since died. 5 were elderly, 3 were young and 4 middle aged.

We were married almost 44 years ago and I would say out of 70 guests maybe 15-20 have died.

6 deaths since our wedding day. However, there has been 38 births.

We got married 9 years ago with 90 guests and 9 have since died. This includes my aunt who lived to 96 and I'm so pleased she was alive to be there.

Unfortunately I won't get to have a lot of my loved ones at my wedding as they've already passed.

You're lucky to have had them there, OP.

It would be our 1st Wedding anniversary on Saturday, but DH sadly passed away 3weeks after getting married (both aged 36 - we have 2 primary aged DC). On the day we were due to actually get married - our 19th year anniversary of being together.
Only 6 guests in attendance (not inc the hospital staff)

I'm so sorry. That's awfully sad. You didn't even get time to live as a married couple. 😥
Sending healing to you and your dc

Two. My DB who had a terminal cancer diagnosis at the wedding and died just over five months later and a friend who died suddenly of a heart condition about six months ago. But we have only been married 2.5 years.

Just 1 out of 50 guests, the wedding was 10 years ago. Sounds like pretty good going!

4 grandparents (3 of mine and 1 of DH's). My godmother, DH's best friend and my primary school cook who was a great friend of Mummy.

10 years married. Evening guest list of about 80. 4 dead, 3 of whom were my Grandparents.
The other unfortunately died in an accidental drowning last year, he was only 5 when we got married.

Married 42 years lost five . 4 of which were old.

My vicar died a couple of days after christening me my mom side eyed the man who christened my dd just in case

Anyway 17 years after I got married we lost about 5 mostly after the divorce admittedly

I agree. I don't think it's morbid particularly. It's an interesting way of measuring the passage of time, of change, of generations. It's also a reminder that the way your life is now, the people around you, will not be the same in 20 years. But you don't just lose people, you gain people. Lots of people who are important to me now were not in my life 25 years ago when I got married. And lots of people who were important enough to be invited we have lost touch with (as well of those who passed away).

Interestingly though, unlike you. I can't say I found my wedding anniversary was particularly a time I thought about my parents (who both died before the 20 year anniversary). More likely to think of them on their anniversary.

Just over 100 people, 4 are dead. All from my side - a family friend, an aunt, an uncle and my dad. If I add up those who were invited, rather than actually attended, the number would be a lot higher (3 uncles, another 2 aunts, DH's nan).

There have been rather more funerals than weddings in my family since I got married just over 10 years ago!

3 out of 14 guests. Married 20 years ago.

Just done a proper count on paper
Married 40 years ago
53 at wedding
26 have died
27 still alive -as far as I know

You were a demon baby who cursed him! 🤣 If he'd drowned you instead of christening you, he'd have been all right! 🤣🤣🤣🤣