To ask how many of your wedding guests have died?

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It's our anniversary this week, although we are getting divorced.

How many of your guests did you lose in the twenty years after your wedding? I feel like our losses are high. About 85 guests and 15 are gone. Is this normal? Or does it seem high to you too?

One out of four guests. It’s been 8 years.

Hello, it will be 40 years this year that I got married. Still together.
I can’t remember how many people were at our wedding but of our immediate families which were both small, my fam 8, me, M&D, brother, two Granny’s, Aunt & Uncle. Husbands fam 5, him, M&D, sister & brother. Of these 13 people, all of the older generations have died so only 5 left. But we have gained, a sister in law, a daughter, 2 nieces, 1 nephew, partners to my daughter, niece & nephew & 2 great nephews. So 13 is now 15. I’m sad that the older generations are no longer with us but happy that the new generations are, if that makes sense.

11th anniversary last month. We were 32 and 39 years old.

As far as I know we've lost eight out of about 65 guests, including the only grandparent and two of the three parents.

Another one only just survived cancer in her thirties, and one in his seventies isn't going to last much longer.

We've been married 36 years. We had 70 at our wedding and a fair few have died, which isn't too surprising given how long ago it was and the fact that we had a lot of elderly relatives there. My own parents are still with us, still fairly spritely aged 90 and nearly 92.

2 but we only had 10 guests- one of them was my best friend 😞

About half.

Small wedding. Guests disproportionately in their 70s, a few pushing 80 on the day, over 20 years ago.

I chose the early morning of Christmas Eve for the marriage on purpose in the hopes few would want the hassle of driving all the way into the sticks where we live, at a busy time of year, for a low key civil ceremony followed by sandwiches at our house.

I was bang on the money for the younger crowd. So now my wedding photos feature many faces who are no longer with us. Including both my husband’s parents.

Divorced/separated for 4 years now but was married for 8 years and in that time 2 died with another dying 2 years ago.
one was my grandma and it was touch and go if she’d even make the wedding. One a family friend of exdh that I didn’t know and the most recent was my friend who died very quickly after a cancer diagnosis and she’s probably the hardest one to accept

We've been married 25 years and had 22 guests at our wedding. I have lost touch with 3 guests but at least 5 guests are dead, with a further 2 in the late stages of serious illness. If you'd asked 2 years ago, they were all still alive and (relatively) well.

Four . Two very sadly missed. The other two not so much 🤣

We only had our 2 best friends as witnesses at our wedding, and one of them died 3 weeks ago.

15 years married, 50 guests, two have died… my husband’s grandparents. That seems like pretty good going now I think about it.

married 13 years. 90 guests. 3 dead. still married.

I'm so sorry for your loss 💐

Only been married 8, and lost one.

It's terribly sad - my uncle only found his first life partner in his late fifties. He left his full on job in his early sixties to retire with her, only for her to die six months later.

Been married 8 years and all our grandparents are dead, one of the brides maids OD’ed while we were on our honeymoon which was awful, other than that they’re all alive.

Married 31 years. I'd say about 5 dead in that time, including my gran, my mum and my dad.
A lot we've lost contact with, so I don't know if they're dead or alive!

Out of 45 day time guests 13 have died (33 years ago)

Married 16 years, about 120 guests, 4 have passed, all older grandparents

5 and we have been married 22 years.

It’s also our 20th anniversary this year, we’ve sadly lost 8 out of the 70 people who were there.

It’s my parents 50th wedding anniversary this summer. Which is really bittersweet as there’s only 15 people still alive (out of over 70), I know mum is struggling with this as she is planning how to celebrate the day.

I don't believe you! You are SOOOO Kate Middleton! "Not Kate Middleton" - exactly what Kate Middleton would say! 🤣

It's down to the age of your wedding guests mostly, isn't it? We had a very casual wedding with no extended family so only four guests were over 60 about a third of the guests were toddlers or young kids.

God, what a question!

None.

Married 42 years, had a relatively small wedding and reception, and the current total of guests since lost stands at 16:

On DH's side: his DF and DM; one of his sisters; one of his nephews; two of his uncles; one of his aunts; and the family friend who'd been his baby-sitter when he was a boy.

On my side: my great-aunt; my aunt and uncle and one of their children (my cousin) who was literally a babe-in-arms in the wedding photos; my dear old landlady; landlady's brother, a retired chef who did the catering for our reception; landlady's friend H who made our wedding cake; and landlady's next-door-neighbour P who came along for a small sherry.

Also, we didn't get a Christmas card last year from my former workmate who was one of our witnesses and who'd now be in her late eighties, so we're worried she too may have gone.

I didn't realise it was so many.

I think I’m going to remain engaged indefinitely 🙂