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AIBU to feel deeply unsettled by the Southampton protest scenes?

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HopelessPessimist · Yesterday 19:02

Southampton protest against police, huge crowd, Tommy Robinson whipping everyone into a frenzy and saying "this IS about race"

Other speakers declaring that England is a Christian country. The Lords Prayer chanted by every speaker. The leader of UKIP saying he will deport all migrants and make government Christian. The leaders of the protest saying they are being pushed by the police cordon, while the camera angle shows the police haven't moved. The leaders of the protest mocking the female police officer who are taking over a shift from another police officer in the cordon "They're replacing all the men with women!"

This is awful. It feels like the start of civil war. Maybe human beings just aren't supposed to go decades without a fight.

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footbeds · Yesterday 22:03

I think that when someone calls 999 to report that they've been attacked, officers arriving at a chaotic violent scene under high levels of stress are likely to go with that as an initial working assumption. It's not right that they do that, but human psychology is what it is.

It would be quite usual for a 999 call to not be entirely representative of a situation, in the same way how human witnesses are often unreliable. Police should be trained (I assumed they were) to assess these situations.

LuckyHazelFox · Yesterday 22:04

SleeplessInWherever · Yesterday 22:02

… Is that a religious statement? Or indeed anything to do with what we’re talking about?

”From the river to the sea” is a political statement. Crucifixes are religious.

Those two things are different.

How is from the river to the sea a political statement? Oh you mean that version trotted out by useful idiots. Calling for the eradication of a community is certainly not political.

SpaceRaccoon · Yesterday 22:04

SpiritAdder · Yesterday 21:59

So long as your boys have British accents, they’ll be just fine.

Henry wasn't.

Jellox · Yesterday 22:04

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SleeplessInWherever · Yesterday 22:05

Whysnothingsimple · Yesterday 22:03

Ever hear of In hoc Signo? The purpose of any religion is to defend its community from others to draw together a community and therefore its fighters under a common banner, loyal to a common cause and to conquer the enemy. In Britain (and much of the west) Christianity has morphed into some fluffy knitting group but the mechanism for it to be the guiding force of an army, of an empire is there because much of its existence was designed for that purpose it’s a monster that’s been sleeping and is now awakening.

A common banner, it is awakening.

I’d answer you, but I’m too busy laughing.

youalright · Yesterday 22:05

LimpysGotCancer · Yesterday 21:59

I think that when someone calls 999 to report that they've been attacked, officers arriving at a chaotic violent scene under high levels of stress are likely to go with that as an initial working assumption. It's not right that they do that, but human psychology is what it is.

(I believe that's the case because statistical evidence shows that it's the case.)

I believe that, if the perpetrator and a number of his family and friends conspire to all tell the same lie to the officers as they arrive, get their story straight, hide the weapon, and claim the perpetrator was attacked and defended himself, it's not inconceivable that the officers would be fooled initially until more evidence is gathered.

I can well imagine this happening whatever the colours of the victims, in fact I've witnessed it (with minor assault, not murder, of course). Police aren't perfectly rational robots, they are turning up to a scene with no idea what to expect, and make mistakes.

Neither of us knows what actually went on in the mind of those officers. The difference is that you've already decided the reason, and assert without evidence that it must therefore be true. Your argument appears to boil down to "I can't imagine it happening for a different reason, so it must be this reason." It's the thinking process of a toddler.

Lastly, I don't really need to "think about what would happen if he was black or brown", because (in reality, not in the imagination of people who have already made up their mind) there continue to be countless instances of such people being treated badly by police and other authorities. Nigel Farage and Tommy Robinson don't tend to mention them, though, so they probably don't take up much space in the minds of people who make statements like yours.

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Exactly this. You've just put it better then me

Posterpant · Yesterday 22:05

The interesting point about Tommy Robinson and his ilk adopting Christianity is that they’re about as far removed from the teachings of Jesus as it’s possible to be. The Church really needs to call them out; their religion has been hijacked.

Quokkas · Yesterday 22:05

pinkstripeycat · Yesterday 21:53

My DH is retired police (was in up til end 2025). He was an inspector. This IS how they are forced to behave. DH was glad to finish after 25yrs. He said it was SO woke they couldn’t do their jobs properly and ethnic minorities WERE given leniency by the courts. Whites ARE discriminated against.

I’m quite glad your DH is retired. He doesn’t sound like he had much respect for the profession.

LuckyHazelFox · Yesterday 22:05

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Who are you to tell people what to believe?

JHound · Yesterday 22:05

RollOnSunshine · Yesterday 21:42

Source of your data......?

Oh I can provide multiple. Claim 1:

https://www.childrenscommissioner.gov.uk/news/press-notice-falling-strip-searches-masking-ongoing-safeguarding-failures-as-almost-a-third-of-children-searched-have-been-repeatedly-searched-and-eth/

https://yjlc.uk/resources/legal-updates/police-powers-and-children-strip-searching-and-use-force

Claim 2:

https://www.theguardian.com/law/2026/mar/10/black-people-up-to-48-times-more-likely-stop-and-search-london-richest-areas

(This is unintentionally funny):
The study found that the reasons given by officers for subjecting black people to the controversial power were more likely to be vague, with examples including that a black person gave a “furtive glance”.

Ethnic minorities are over-represented in stop and search compared to both their representation in the population and in crime.

https://www.ethnicity-facts-figures.service.gov.uk/crime-justice-and-the-law/policing/stop-and-search/latest/

yjlc.uk/resources/legal-updates/racial-disparity-stop-and-search-new-report-calls-greater-scrutiny-self

Claim 3:

https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/metropolitan-police_uk_603fa18ec5b617a7e411ffc5

Black people up to 48 times more likely to be stopped and searched in richest areas of London

Exclusive: Research found extreme disproportion in use of police power in districts such as Richmond-upon-Thames

https://www.theguardian.com/law/2026/mar/10/black-people-up-to-48-times-more-likely-stop-and-search-london-richest-areas

MsJinks · Yesterday 22:05

Livelovebehappy · Yesterday 21:59

I would say that the majority of people marching for Gaza/Palestinians dislike Jewish people, whether they verbalise it, or just think it. I’ve yet to meet anyone supporting Palestinians who say they like Jewish people, and that it’s just the Israeli government/IDF that they hate. Seems to be a blanket dislike.

There are quite a number of Jewish groups marching for Gaza/Palestine you know.

Deadlykitten · Yesterday 22:06

You’re more agitated by the protest than you are about the treatment of that boy. You are the problem, you are why the police acted the way they did.

Quokkas · Yesterday 22:06

SpaceRaccoon · Yesterday 22:04

Henry wasn't.

No, but he’s the only person this happened to.

lessglittermoremud · Yesterday 22:06

People should be protesting about the treatment of Henry Nowak, just like society should protest against unjust treatment against any individual regardless of ethnicity.
Using it as an excuse for violence and extremism should not be tolerated.
A young man was fatality wounded and drowned in his own blood whilst being handcuffed and read his rights, this is more than 2 officers making a mistake….

LuckyHazelFox · Yesterday 22:06

Posterpant · Yesterday 22:05

The interesting point about Tommy Robinson and his ilk adopting Christianity is that they’re about as far removed from the teachings of Jesus as it’s possible to be. The Church really needs to call them out; their religion has been hijacked.

About as far removed as the Green party is to the environment then.

footbeds · Yesterday 22:06

Livelovebehappy · Yesterday 22:03

But why would they take the story at face value as soon as they arrived at the scene? Surely there must be thousands of incidences where the police turn up and are fed a load of BS by people at the scene of the crime. They need to treat all people there the same to avoid themselves or other members of the public from being harmed.

Of course there are, that’s why it’s a bullshit excuse. The police are very used to people lying to them….

PropertyD · Yesterday 22:07

When Henry said he had been stabbed that piece of shit was standing over him saying he hadn’t and the police seemed more concerned as to what his opinion was

SpaceRaccoon · Yesterday 22:07

Quokkas · Yesterday 22:05

I’m quite glad your DH is retired. He doesn’t sound like he had much respect for the profession.

You just insulting random posters now? Stay classy.

MyLimeGuide · Yesterday 22:07

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I bet you are the type to judge everyone that doesn't agree with you.

SleeplessInWherever · Yesterday 22:07

LuckyHazelFox · Yesterday 22:04

How is from the river to the sea a political statement? Oh you mean that version trotted out by useful idiots. Calling for the eradication of a community is certainly not political.

Oh. Welcome back.

There is only one version, it’s just the way it’s being used that is controversial. And I’d agree it’s controversial.

But it’s not religious, is it.

This boys death is nothing to do something with Palestine. The debate doesn’t need expanding, the actual death of a teenager is bad enough.

Clutching at angry straws won’t help anyone.

youalright · Yesterday 22:08

Livelovebehappy · Yesterday 22:03

But why would they take the story at face value as soon as they arrived at the scene? Surely there must be thousands of incidences where the police turn up and are fed a load of BS by people at the scene of the crime. They need to treat all people there the same to avoid themselves or other members of the public from being harmed.

Because if 10 people are telling you the exact same thing it makes sense to go with the majority and then unfortunately Henry died before anyone could investigate properly and ask questions.

Whysnothingsimple · Yesterday 22:08

SleeplessInWherever · Yesterday 22:05

A common banner, it is awakening.

I’d answer you, but I’m too busy laughing.

What are you laughing at? Which particular point I have made do you find ridiculous, try answering the points and debating them. Show some knowledge and reasoning maybe?

SpaceRaccoon · Yesterday 22:08

Quokkas · Yesterday 22:06

No, but he’s the only person this happened to.

He's not the only much-loved, promising young person who has lost their lives due to fuck-ups around people not doing their jobs properly due to fears of racism accusations - look at the Nottingham inquiry.

Notsandwiches · Yesterday 22:09

WaryCrow · Yesterday 19:36

Not again. I just put something on the other thread. There may be questions to answer for the police but they should be questions with attentive listening to the answers, not bloody jumping on bandwagons. Policing is hard, no doubt they hear ‘I’ve been stabbed’ and ‘I can’t breathe’ many times from criminals who are very aware of their rights now.

I’m very unsettled by any lunatic demagogue who tries to drum up mobs.

They are too quick to presume that someone has been racist when we all know the race card is used by certain sectors to deflect attention/blame.

Jellox · Yesterday 22:09

LuckyHazelFox · Yesterday 22:05

Who are you to tell people what to believe?

I’m telling people to believe in statistical analysis and factual data - surely everyone should be telling everyone to do the same?

I tend to prefer to base my opinions on facts and not something Dave on Facebook has decided to spout.

You do know the difference between fact and opinion don’t you?
Even primary school children are taught this.

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