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AIBU to feel deeply unsettled by the Southampton protest scenes?

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HopelessPessimist · Yesterday 19:02

Southampton protest against police, huge crowd, Tommy Robinson whipping everyone into a frenzy and saying "this IS about race"

Other speakers declaring that England is a Christian country. The Lords Prayer chanted by every speaker. The leader of UKIP saying he will deport all migrants and make government Christian. The leaders of the protest saying they are being pushed by the police cordon, while the camera angle shows the police haven't moved. The leaders of the protest mocking the female police officer who are taking over a shift from another police officer in the cordon "They're replacing all the men with women!"

This is awful. It feels like the start of civil war. Maybe human beings just aren't supposed to go decades without a fight.

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SleeplessInWherever · Yesterday 21:57

MyLimeGuide · Yesterday 21:54

Put a stop to two tier policing maybe? Ban woke bullshit??

“Ban woke bullshit,” I can just see that policy name.

“KCSIE 2027, SENd White Paper, Ban Woke Bullshit.”

Somehow I think they’ll have to be more specific and nuanced than that.

JHITRM77 · Yesterday 21:57

I've no time for the likes of Robinson or Farage etc but as the mother of 2 young white boys I am very concerned. I can't get out of my head the pain and fear of his last moments and if it was my son the rage would burn very brightly.

MyLimeGuide · Yesterday 21:58

Jellox · Yesterday 21:55

Yet statistics tell a very different story.

I wonder who we should believe - a random, anonymous user on MN or factual statistical data.

Hmm 🤔

What statistics? I definitely believe her, why would her husband make that up! Its common knowledge that shit is going on.

Jellox · Yesterday 21:58

HopelessPessimist · Yesterday 21:55

And while I understand the anger, I think about how Mumsnet righteously protested the sentences for the three young rapists who attacked thise two young girls, and got it in the media, and forced the PM to comment and for the sentenced to be referred. No bottles thrown, no streets terrorised, just angry women saying we'd had enough.

Oh yes there were no riots about that because it didn’t fit their racist narrative.

These people do not give a shit about Henry.
They don’t care that he died.

If they had any sort of decency they would take into account the poor grieving family members but they only care about themselves and their agenda.

frindolion · Yesterday 21:58

Dweetfidilove · Yesterday 21:35

I've been saying this all day! It's a shame it's taken such a horrific incident to wake folks up to the inequalities in how different groups are policed; and I hope a positive change is about to come.

Not crossing my fingers when Farage and Tommy are the face of change; but hey, I'm open to surprises 🤷🏾‍♀️.

It's a complete different kind of inequality though. Henry's situation was brought about by police (rightly) seeking to tackle racism in the force but going about it in the wrong way. If unconscious bias training results in police not effectively policing, it's harmful and doesn't help uphold law and order.

I'm no politician but I would have thought that working very closely with all the local communities is a good start, better than top down racism seminar delivered by white middle class Brits who have bought into identity politics. It sounds like the Sikh community raised serious concerns but police just let Digwa go and there were enough interventions for this aggressive man. It sounds similar to Rudakubana, concern were raised but the unstable aggressive male was left to his own devices and his family protected him from the consequences of his actions. I very much doubt that Henry's death will help bring reduce inequalities in how different groups are policed.

fairydustt · Yesterday 21:58

MustTryHarderAndHarder · Yesterday 21:53

I remember a few years ago when a black man rang up a radio station and said that he tried to help the police when they were chasing a suspect and ended up being arrested because they thought he was lying and I can't blame the police for that any more than I can blame them for not believing someone who they thought was a criminal.

How are the police supposed to know what to believe? How would you know who was telling the truth?

Priority 1 is the preservation of life and protection of people from immediate harm.
That generally means that when police respond to any incident, their first concern is:

  1. Saving lives and preventing serious injury
  2. Protecting the public
  3. Protecting officers and other responders
  4. Then dealing with evidence, property, investigations, and enforcement actions

In this situation, there was 1 guy on the floor not moving, and he was the one they chose not to believe.

HopelessPessimist · Yesterday 21:59

SpaceRaccoon · Yesterday 21:56

What systemic change are these protestors asking for?

I don't know what the Southampton protesters are asking for, but I'd say that the police need to be retrained to be colourblind, and not be scared of "community" sensitivities, and not have a fear of racism accusations hanging over them.

They want the involved police officers to be arrested and not be allowed to resign and keep their police pensions - fine by me.
But they are also saying they want total remigration and a Christian state. That's somehow all got mixed in.

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SpiritAdder · Yesterday 21:59

JHITRM77 · Yesterday 21:57

I've no time for the likes of Robinson or Farage etc but as the mother of 2 young white boys I am very concerned. I can't get out of my head the pain and fear of his last moments and if it was my son the rage would burn very brightly.

So long as your boys have British accents, they’ll be just fine.

youalright · Yesterday 21:59

footbeds · Yesterday 21:56

How are the police supposed to know what to believe? How would you know who was telling the truth?

You assess the situation and talk to the people involved….

They had about 2 minutes if that most of that was taken up by the murderer and his family making up a random story about what had happened

LimpysGotCancer · Yesterday 21:59

TrampleOnTheRoses · Yesterday 21:24

So you think the police would have acted in the same way if he had been black or brown? Come on now …

I think that when someone calls 999 to report that they've been attacked, officers arriving at a chaotic violent scene under high levels of stress are likely to go with that as an initial working assumption. It's not right that they do that, but human psychology is what it is.

(I believe that's the case because statistical evidence shows that it's the case.)

I believe that, if the perpetrator and a number of his family and friends conspire to all tell the same lie to the officers as they arrive, get their story straight, hide the weapon, and claim the perpetrator was attacked and defended himself, it's not inconceivable that the officers would be fooled initially until more evidence is gathered.

I can well imagine this happening whatever the colours of the victims, in fact I've witnessed it (with minor assault, not murder, of course). Police aren't perfectly rational robots, they are turning up to a scene with no idea what to expect, and make mistakes.

Neither of us knows what actually went on in the mind of those officers. The difference is that you've already decided the reason, and assert without evidence that it must therefore be true. Your argument appears to boil down to "I can't imagine it happening for a different reason, so it must be this reason." It's the thinking process of a toddler.

Lastly, I don't really need to "think about what would happen if he was black or brown", because (in reality, not in the imagination of people who have already made up their mind) there continue to be countless instances of such people being treated badly by police and other authorities. Nigel Farage and Tommy Robinson don't tend to mention them, though, so they probably don't take up much space in the minds of people who make statements like yours.

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Livelovebehappy · Yesterday 21:59

Quokkas · Yesterday 21:40

I’m very aware of the experiences of Jewish people on these marches and how awful they have sometimes been.

And I don’t think I’m contradicting myself at all. What I’m trying to say is that the marches are not intended to be antisemitic. Lots of march attendees are against antisemitism whilst also supporting Gaza. If the marches were really antisemitic, the government would have banned them years ago.

I would say that the majority of people marching for Gaza/Palestinians dislike Jewish people, whether they verbalise it, or just think it. I’ve yet to meet anyone supporting Palestinians who say they like Jewish people, and that it’s just the Israeli government/IDF that they hate. Seems to be a blanket dislike.

Wellywanda3 · Yesterday 21:59

Jellox · Yesterday 21:55

Yet statistics tell a very different story.

I wonder who we should believe - a random, anonymous user on MN or factual statistical data.

Hmm 🤔

I believe it

Quokkas · Yesterday 22:00

MyLimeGuide · Yesterday 21:54

Put a stop to two tier policing maybe? Ban woke bullshit??

‘Ban woke bullshit’. Okay then.

Dollymylove · Yesterday 22:00

SleeplessInWherever · Yesterday 21:54

But you really should be a Christian if you’re going to march through London carrying a cross.

So what religion should you observe whem you are marching through London shouting from the river to the sea?

PropertyD · Yesterday 22:00

youalright · Yesterday 21:49

Not the same thing at all checking someone not seeing anything and saying I don't think you have mate is completely different to shrugging and saying don't think so mate.

You are wrong. He said it in a dismissive tone.

Tableforjoan · Yesterday 22:01

They need to not be afraid of upsetting people rather than just doing their job and finding facts stop pussy footing around “sensitivities”.

Why did they just believe words over a clearly unwell person on the floor. That young man should have been priority over what words were possibly said. Finding out why someone is so out of it pale and limp on the floor with a mouth full of blood.

That should be the priority and call for back up if you need more officers to deal with the other person.

OneTealShaker · Yesterday 22:01

MyLimeGuide · Yesterday 21:58

What statistics? I definitely believe her, why would her husband make that up! Its common knowledge that shit is going on.

The woke race baiting gaslighting is just off the scale.

Quokkas · Yesterday 22:01

Livelovebehappy · Yesterday 21:59

I would say that the majority of people marching for Gaza/Palestinians dislike Jewish people, whether they verbalise it, or just think it. I’ve yet to meet anyone supporting Palestinians who say they like Jewish people, and that it’s just the Israeli government/IDF that they hate. Seems to be a blanket dislike.

I equally support Jewish people and Gazans. I think you are right though - unfortunately a lot of my friends who support Gaza hate Israel and conflate Israel with Jewish people, which is unacceptable.

trueredstart · Yesterday 22:02

TriesNotToBeCynical · Yesterday 21:56

No it's not - he chairs the session! And he never asks them to make a statement unless they've told him they want to.

Yes, he chairs the session but in this case it was an 'unusual step' of him ordering the statement acknowledging Henry Nowak. You can see it in the Telegraph article's blurb on Google if you don't pay for it.

SleeplessInWherever · Yesterday 22:02

Dollymylove · Yesterday 22:00

So what religion should you observe whem you are marching through London shouting from the river to the sea?

… Is that a religious statement? Or indeed anything to do with what we’re talking about?

”From the river to the sea” is a political statement. Crucifixes are religious.

Those two things are different.

Quokkas · Yesterday 22:02

LimpysGotCancer · Yesterday 21:59

I think that when someone calls 999 to report that they've been attacked, officers arriving at a chaotic violent scene under high levels of stress are likely to go with that as an initial working assumption. It's not right that they do that, but human psychology is what it is.

(I believe that's the case because statistical evidence shows that it's the case.)

I believe that, if the perpetrator and a number of his family and friends conspire to all tell the same lie to the officers as they arrive, get their story straight, hide the weapon, and claim the perpetrator was attacked and defended himself, it's not inconceivable that the officers would be fooled initially until more evidence is gathered.

I can well imagine this happening whatever the colours of the victims, in fact I've witnessed it (with minor assault, not murder, of course). Police aren't perfectly rational robots, they are turning up to a scene with no idea what to expect, and make mistakes.

Neither of us knows what actually went on in the mind of those officers. The difference is that you've already decided the reason, and assert without evidence that it must therefore be true. Your argument appears to boil down to "I can't imagine it happening for a different reason, so it must be this reason." It's the thinking process of a toddler.

Lastly, I don't really need to "think about what would happen if he was black or brown", because (in reality, not in the imagination of people who have already made up their mind) there continue to be countless instances of such people being treated badly by police and other authorities. Nigel Farage and Tommy Robinson don't tend to mention them, though, so they probably don't take up much space in the minds of people who make statements like yours.

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I think this is a very fair point to make.

Whysnothingsimple · Yesterday 22:03

SleeplessInWherever · Yesterday 21:54

But you really should be a Christian if you’re going to march through London carrying a cross.

Ever hear of In hoc Signo? The purpose of any religion is to defend its community from others to draw together a community and therefore its fighters under a common banner, loyal to a common cause and to conquer the enemy. In Britain (and much of the west) Christianity has morphed into some fluffy knitting group but the mechanism for it to be the guiding force of an army, of an empire is there because much of its existence was designed for that purpose it’s a monster that’s been sleeping and is now awakening.

youalright · Yesterday 22:03

PropertyD · Yesterday 22:00

You are wrong. He said it in a dismissive tone.

I never mentioned his tone i just stated a fact he said i don't think you have mate as he was checking his back for stab wounds and couldn't see any

Livelovebehappy · Yesterday 22:03

youalright · Yesterday 21:59

They had about 2 minutes if that most of that was taken up by the murderer and his family making up a random story about what had happened

But why would they take the story at face value as soon as they arrived at the scene? Surely there must be thousands of incidences where the police turn up and are fed a load of BS by people at the scene of the crime. They need to treat all people there the same to avoid themselves or other members of the public from being harmed.

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