Do you pack your husband’s bag when he goes away..?

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Was chatting to a friend of a friend the other day. She was having a moan about her useless husband. In the course of this moan she mentioned that she’d had to pack his bag for a work trip. Just breezed past it as if it was the most normal thing. I was like wait…why are you packing his bag for him?? She huffs and puffs about “oh he won’t do it properly” or some shit. Didn’t really have much of an answer.

Mentioned this exchange at work. Seems this is not particularly uncommon. Had women moaning about having to do “all the packing for everyone” for family holidays etc.

i am quite baffled by this. Why are some women packing their husbands bags for them..? If nothing else, my husband wouldn’t want me to pack his bag for him. Being a grown adult he’d rather choose his own clothes.

Some men are absolutely fucking useless but my god, some women really don’t help themselves…

I have 0% respect for any man who would let/want/require/need someone to pack for him!
Firstly, it's just wrong!
Secondly, I'm very picky about what I wear, and I would never let anyone choose for me 🙂

I might pack my DPs bag for him if, say he had broken both his arms. I’m sure he’d do the same for me.

Otherwise, fuck that with bells on.

No, and sort of.

If we're going somewhere for a week or so, we pack our own bags. If we're just going for a day or two we use one shared bag. He will get the bag out and leave all his stuff beside it (folded and ready to go), so that I can arrange my stuff the way I like it and then just pop his in too.

This is soooo easily fixed… he irons his own clothes like an adult? Mine does, and for the kids.

When we go away I tell hubby to get his clothes that hes taking out and left on the bed for me to pack and I have to remind him about how many pairs of socks and pants he will actually require

If I didnt he would come away dressed totally inappropriately. He will forget his reading glasses , or his meds or his pain relief or phone charger

Over the years Ive allowed him to "forget" to gather something up and it not be packed, but then the moans of him when away - not worth it

I dont nursemaid the man, he does the washing, puts clothes away, does housework and maintains the house and gardens, but because he lives in work clothes everyday - he just doesnt think about clothes and sundries

We each pack our own bags. I am not making a decision on what another adult wants to wear., and they are capable od oack8ng 5geir own bag, so why should I do it.
Teenager packs their own bag. I may help get things together and I ask before leaving if certain key things have been included, but they wouldn't let me pack for them if I tried.
On a family trip I do most of the things that are shared such as first aid, snacks etc, but depending on what is being taken, and what space is in each bag, they are spread over everyone's luggage, but everyone adds to their own bag.

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No. Never.
I'd (very geniunely) suspect cognitive decline / neural damage of some form if he did.

I dont nursemaid the man, he does the washing, puts clothes away, does housework and maintains the house and gardens, but because he lives in work clothes everyday - he just doesnt think about clothes and sundries.

My DH wears smart clothes when he’s in the office and takes more casual clothes on holiday, but he has a ‘holiday list’ on his phone of everything he will need and packs according to that. I couldn’t be doing with chasing around locating his phone chargers and deodorant and so on!

No but mine is ten years older than me and was already broken in and trained by someone else

DH travels fortnightly for work, has been doing so for approx 17 years. He packs for himself (obviously?) and has got very efficient at it.

Last trip he forgot his toiletries bag. First time in maybe 400 trips.

He was so disappointed with himself 😂

No I don’t pack for him but do check in do you have xyz and occasionally he has forgotten to pack a “basic” e.g something like
a mobile charger (and before I get jumped on he would have no intention of not having his phone on…but would be a pain in the arse needing a detour to buy a new charger)

My (ex) FIL told me his mother packed his honeymoon suitcase, and his wife had packed for his every trip thereafter.

This makes me laugh......

Back in the 1950's.

No
TBF he would think I had lost the plot if I started packing his case

If we’re going away together DH will sometimes put out clothes on the bed and I’ll pack them. Sometimes the other way around tho :) Depends who’s got time. But for a trip I’m not going on, no. DH does it alone like a grown up.

Thank fuck I'm an independent woman who not even packs for her adult son.

Women are their own worst enemy sometimes.

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If we are going away together and sharing a suitcase I do tend to pack, but only in so far as I put the stuff physically in the case, DH puts out what he wants to take. I think things get packed more efficiently if it's all done together rather than one person puts all their stuff at the bottom and the other one dumps all their's on top. I like to sort all the paperwork, tickets, passports etc if we are going on a family trip too but I think that's because I'm a bit of a control freak rather than that the rest of the family are useless - they do manage when I'm not there!
But if he is going away on his own then no, I don't get involved at all, any more than I'd expect him to pack for me if I was going on a solo trip.

In 40 years, I haven’t either. He wouldn’t want me to. And I’d never want him to pack for me.

No way! And my DH travels a lot.

The only possible answer.

Never have I packed a grown mans bag. Women do enough for men without packing their bag like a child. Especially for a work trip. That’s pretty sad, does the husband not feel embarrassed? I certainly would.

I don't pack for DH or for my teenage DC. I don't buy clothes for DH either.

It is a bit odd and it wouldn't occur to me to pack someone else's bag. There is a lot of personal preference involved.

But I don't find it offensive that some people's partners pack for them either.

Why enable such a manchild? He can pack himself and you can say “did you remember to pack that nice blue shirt and you glasses”?. No problem at all discussing the plans for a holiday and the appropriate stuff to take, but why do it? Do you have a career and how old are you?

it is women like you who mean women will never be see as equals