WIBU to go / not go on this work trip?

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aibu for going / not going on this trip?

dh and I both work full time. 2 primary kids.

they spend some summer in holiday clubs. My job is more flexible than dh so when not in clubs they are with me.

I travel 2-4x a year, long haul mostly, for work.

work are offering a week luxury holiday (long haul - Caribbean / Mexico area) - buts in in the middle of summer holidays! This is just for staff not family.

I’ll have already done 2x long haul trips this year and 1x short haul (working - this is the first relax one they’ve offered!)

reasons to go:
perk of the job
luxury adults only all expenses paid trip
sort of once in a lifetime

reasons not to go:
summer hols
kids would need to go to club 9-5 mon-Fri that week to accommodate dh working (instead of a few half days/occasional full day we can manage)
if the company is all at this trip I can basically take the week off with the kids without annual leave
i already travel a lot for work and I think dh is finding it alot
long way to go for just under a week
difficult week logistically for dh as the holiday club is quite different to school logistics - further, need to make pack lunches etc

would you go? I need to decide and rsvp by tomorrow!!

They wont grow that much in a week

Assuming that for all this international travel you're being paid a small fortune and hugely involved in providing for the family? And likely still taking on a larger than half share of ALL the child-related and home-related crap, plus all the usual day to day running about while you're working from home?

DH can manage for a week - he's not going to be at home 24/7 with the kids anyway is he, just managing getting them to and from clubs and throwing a packed lunch together.

Your big mistake was telling him it's a holiday not working...

Ah interesting that no annual leave is needed for this. I do think that puts it firmly into a work thing and even though it is a bit of a jolly, worth attending to be seen to be going, so it’s good that you are.

So glad you've decided to go. It really is important to have a bit of time for yourself and even better when someone else is offering to pay for it.

Try not feel guilty about the clubs, the kids will thrive, kids do really well with confidence and ability and good social skills mixing with others and doing activities with kids their own age.

Arrange something nice for when you're back and really enjoy your break, am so jealous.