AIBU to expect my husband to stay after an emergency caesarean?

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Name change as outing info before.
I had an emergency c section 3 weeks ago. Baby was 3 weeks early but fine. My DH has gone for the weekend to his parents for a large family celebration. I haven’t gone because I’m still really sore. I had the c section done with general anaesthetic as it was a real emergency they didn’t have time to do a epidural. I said to DH about him not going because I could do with help with the baby. I’m on my own and don’t have my own parents. His mum got upset so he’s gone there to the weekend party.
Now I’ve found out from a message from someone in his family who said to watch my back as my mil is implying that I can’t cope with the baby because I asked him to stay and he should look at leaving me and applying for custody.

I can cope with the baby, I was only asking him to stay because I really am sore and with having to do everything myself until Monday it feels a lot. I don’t know if I’m just hormonal or this isn’t fair. I didn’t think it was unreasonable to ask him to stay but was it?

Is he of a particular culture OP that might be informing his parents treatment of you?

Why would his parents insist he marry you but then say to divorce you? Bizarre.

To all the people saying “i was fine after mine i didn’t need any help”.Well good for you .The OP would like some help ,not to much to ask from her husband is it.Her MIL sounds like a bitch and her husband a mummy’s boy .Glad you got your foster mum coming round xxx

Sorry but what??? It's not about being in so much pain that something is unbearable. 3 weeks post major abdominal surgery can still be uncomfortable for particular tasks, whilst walking or sitting may be totally fine. I also would not want to be taking a 3 week old to a weekend family event whilst still recovering. Both him leaving her at home and her going with him would be unreasonable to many people

I'm sorry you've had all this stress and upset at such a difficult time. I'm really glad your leaning on your foster mum, please be completely honest with her so she can give you full support that your husband sadly is not. You shouldn't need to cope alone with your baby 3 weeks after a crash C-section, if your friends, foster mum or anyone judges your husband for his choices that is on him, not you. Don't hide how he's treating you.

You’ve been woefully let down by your husband and in laws OP. Do not let them manipulate you to think otherwise. Keep a log of the interactions incase you need it in the future to show a history of abuse at their hands.
It is very normal to think you can hear your baby crying in the shower when they’re not - I had forgotten about that until you mentioned it. It sounds as though you are doing really well OP - don’t let them rock that belief

Nope

🙄 just because women had to, doesn’t mean we should.

I had a forceps delivery and was struggling with fluid retention afterwards. I managed but, guess what, it was easier with help!!!!! 😱 shocking I know.

You don’t get any medals for coping “better” than someone else.

Except that’s exactly what you sound like. I’d go for a stronger word though.