My friend is getting married in a few months in her home country. While no formal invites have been sent out yet, I have received a save the date and I am going to her bachelorette party which is relatively soon.
My issue is that the wedding is in her home country meaning I would need to take time off work, fly there and book accommodation. It is also in a fairly remote location (approx 1hour from the nearest airport) so I have no idea how I would even get to the venue/get home/find accommodation close by which is causing me some stress. I would be going by myself as no plus one.
In don't really know/ am not friends with anyone else going to the wedding apart from the MOH. Myself and the bride are only really friends through the MOH.
I am torn over whether to suck it up and just go to the wedding or not go. I know that the bride would be livid if I didn't. She is a very sensitive person and also very selfish which has been a recurring theme throughout our few years of friendship. Part of what plays in my decision to not want to go is that she has made zero effort to message me/ meet up since we moved to different cities a year ago. I feel like it is a lot of effort and money to go to this wedding for someone who to be frank, makes no effort to even maintain our friendship.
AIBU to tell her I can't go to the wedding (even if I'm going to the bachelorette, which I am only going to so that I can try and meet people before the wedding?)