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Seriously? I mean, seriously?

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SunshineOnIslington · 30/05/2026 09:25

Help, I’m in hell. I’m in London to watch the Arsenal game later (have tickets to watch at a fan zone) and the parade tomorrow. Staying in a twin Travelodge room with no air con and which currently feels like the ninth circle of hell but even that cost £256 for two nights!

I’m here with a male friend who’s more like a brother, we’ve known each other forever. A few years ago he developed a secret cocaine habit and ended up spending the last three years in a psychiatric hospital. He’s out now and in supported accommodation but other than reminding him about his meds I thought he seemed ok and pretty self sufficient.

Well he’s pissed me off from the start. Telling a guy on the train how he does literally nothing for himself, nothing all day (not sure that’s a boast although since I worked 70 hours last week I’m pretty jealous tbh). Then showed me £7k of benefits he’s saved up!

He then drank far too much even though he’s not supposed to, wouldn’t come back to the hotel with me, and ended up eating a bucket of fried chicken in the early hours. I’ve tried to sleep given he snores like a walrus but given up, I’m getting up and out and he can do his own thing.

He was in the bathroom a lot last night, and I’ve come in to have a shower and THERE IS LITERAL SHIT ON THE WALL. I am disgusted and tbh I don’t think I can be friends with someone who behaves like this. However I need to get through the next 24 hours! Do I book a hotel of my own somewhere else? I really can’t afford to but I feel sick staying here! Most places are also fully booked around where we need to be…

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SunshineOnIslington · Today 10:01

@Needmorelego yes, he lied to me about his ability to cope and that his supported accommodation encouraged him to go, when really they advised him not to (they have permission to speak to me despite me not being a relative as he doesn't have close family he speaks to) - I'm disappointed as well that they didn't think to get in touch with me but he perhaps didn't tell them who he was going with or where.

I sent him some firm messages last night about how the weekend had made me feel. All I got in response was a thumbs up. I'm done. I also spoke to another mutual friend yesterday who had done the same routine last week of trying to get him to look after himself, he basically said he had no intention to. And why does he need to I suppose when he's getting £2k a month from the taxpayers with no rent to pay...

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IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · Today 10:05

How the fuck is any of this the OPs fault?!

Joan1957 · Today 10:45

Yes it is 16k

MyOtherProfile · Today 11:21

IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · Today 10:05

How the fuck is any of this the OPs fault?!

Exactly.

SunshineOnIslington · Today 11:45

@IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece @MyOtherProfile thank you. My other thread is even worse, they're falling over themselves to tell me exactly how stupid and naïve I must be!

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