To not take any conception now I’m 40

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I’m 40 in late July and have been talking about with dh not using condoms or any other form of conception anymore

Doctors told us we wouldn't have more children after I was 40. I have a few diagnosises which meant 100% infetility.

We messed up once with contraception. We had dc3 very much wanted.

So even not being fertile you need to think twice.

Why?

What do you want from this thread?

Are you asking if it's a sensible idea?

Agreed. I'll be 60 this year and my daughter is 17. Not fun.

Over 35 is geriatric regarding pregnancy.

However the poster said 40 isn't old and it isn't. Women are usually still ovulating at 40 and plenty have babies at that age. It's best to use contraception until you are certain there is no possibility of conceiving.

In the last 6 months I have met a pt with an unexpected pregnancy who was over 55. It was devastating, and although they went on to have a miscarriage that was also upsetting for them.

Unless you are Ok with a pregnancy and potentially a child at the end of it, keep using contraception!

Twins triplets etc higher chance plus unfortunately medically more complicated for you and higher chance of chromosomal problems for the baby(ies). So probably not something worth taking a punt on unless you actively want more children. Wording suggests you just can't be bothered with taking it rather than you are family planning. You will still be fertile for years!

Oh yes I agree and I believe the term is being phased out patient facing as mothers are generally getting much older. In ICD 10 (medical) coding though geriatric is 35 or older at the due date.

So you don't even know the difference between conception and contraception!

Maybe you are going to try for a baby, which isn't clear from either of your ridiculous posts, in which case do stop contraception.

If you don't want a baby and think that just because you are going to hit 40 you will be infertile and won't need contraception then you are very wrong. Women in their forties often do get pregnant.

You aren't through the menopause just because you are 40, or soon to be. My own menopause finally happened at 57.

I got pregnant completely naturally first month of trying when I was 43.

And had no issues in pregnancy or at any stage raising Dc to happy, successful young adulthood!

I think younger Mums can’t envisage wanting a child older because they childbearing / rearing leaves you feeling that way whatever age you do it!

So OP, Contraception or Conception!

It has been for decades but it's simply a term to show some women are at higher risk of some things when pregnant.

It doesn't mean they can't conceive or have healthy babies.

Contraception should be used for 12 months after a final period if women are over 50, or for 2 years after a final period for women under 50.

My Dad is one of a twin, my Gran had them in her 40s. Good luck with it…

Yep. I have a 10 year old now. I’m 56. Guess it depends how you feel about having another child in your 40s.

I’m assuming you mean contraception?

Do you want to have a child now? Does your partner?

If you have a baby at 40 and live until 75 your child would have you until their thirties. I've many friends that had young parents and sadly by the time we were thirty they had passed away. This can happen to anyone at any time having children younger has no guarantees.

This post is quite obviously rage bait. For context I had children at 32, 34, 37 and 41. As others have said it's likely you could fall pregnant.

My mother, then aged 42, went to the doctor's for advice about the menopause as her periods had stopped. 6 months or so later, I was born - her fourth child, nine years after my youngest sibling.Say no more!

Indeed, so you need contraception - unless you've left out the drip feed that you're trying to conceive.
That said, geriatric pregnancy is the correct term for anyone pregnant at 35+.

I think now that more and more women over 35 are having babies, that term should be dropped. It's been around for decades and although it still applies to slightly higher risks like high BP and gestational diabetes in some women, health care has improved a lot. Younger, obese women have far higher risks than fitter older women.

The average age of having a 1st baby is now almost 30.

If you have a baby at 40 and die at 80, said baby is unlikely to be in their 20’s. Chiefly due to the linear passage of time.

Also, it’s ‘losing’.

I think we’ve established that neither maths nor the English language are strengths of yours, so perhaps think of your own children.

A few friends of mine have had unplanned and planned pregnancies in their 40s.

The life expectancy of women is now close to 85.
It's a range.

I know people who lost a parent in their teens, 20s and 30s, and others whose parents are still alive in their 90s (and their 'children' who are 70+ are caring for them!)

Same! I think you may have meant to quote someone else, though.

My DM had an ectopic pregnancy and almost died as a fallopian tube burst (think that’s what it was), early to mid 40s.

I mean if you want to have a baby it’s fine. I had my two at 37 and 39 and now at 42 I’m trying for my third. It’s later than I wanted but we had fertility issues and this is IVF. I know loads of people who have babies at this age.

I’m sure I’ve read about the ‘last fling of the ovary’ too, which is likely to occur late 30s/early 40s.