To get wound up by random men making stupid, rude comments when I’m visibly struggling in public?

[shutityouduffer]

This gets me so fuming. Name changed.

Today I have no car with me. I have to collect something from the post office as it’s needed for a family holiday, we’re setting off early tomorrow. For reference it’s a tabletop barbecue. It said on the John Lewis website it was 12kg and I thought I’d be ok to pick it up myself.

I get the parcel and it’s massive, i cant get my arms around it, and turns out the gross weight of the package is over 20kg. iThe post office is only a 10-min walk from mine, so I pick it up and attempt to carry it, awkwardly and in 25 degree weather.

Now this bbq has “SHARKNINJA” written on the side of the box. A man walks past, can see I’m struggling. He chooses to say, very loudly at me, “SHARK NINJA.” I say yes, trying to move past him. He then turns to his mate and says “I should’ve kicked it.” Wtf???? it doesn’t even make sense - what goes through this man’s head?

Another incident last week - I’m walking my golden retriever, he’s a puppy not yet neutered, but dogs on both sides of the road take exception to him and start barking at him (happens a lot with unneutered males) so I whisk him out into the road to avoid both sets of dogs. No traffic. He’s a softy and he paws at me, because he’s stressed (he wants to be picked up for reference). Man on the pavement shouts, again with a mate, “are you sure you can handle that dog?” As I’m trying to get him safely back onto the pavement. Again what is the point??? I don’t even acknowledge it and then his mate shouts after me, “he was only joking!”

AIBU to be sent into a rage by these stupid comments? I should say a couple of (different) men offered to help with the package and were very kind, so I have no general vendetta against men. But it’s never women making unasked for, unhelpful and rude comments when I’m already visibly stressed out…

OP, and a lot of responders on here, I think somehow you must have a knack of annoying other people, sadly. Never had any of these problems at all myself.

Ah so if you havent experienced something it doesnt exist eh?

Were you present during World War 2- no?- guess it never happened then!! 🙄

DD works in a pub and this past week has been suffering with her skin. One of the regulars asked her what was wrong with her face , what the actual?! Thankfully she doesn't take any crap and replied instantly 'whats wrong with your face?' 😂

Single woman with a dog here so have to be out in the wild with stupid men daily. The mansplaining is insane, but my highlight might be the local park drunk who can barely stand and ‘controls’ his dog by kicking her regularly who likes to yell at me for having mine on a long lead (he’s a rescue and recall isn’t 100% yet). God knows why.

Not terrible comments but terrible behaviour: car park.. one way system... not many spaces... I spot a man putting away his trolley so wait a decent distance behind to give him enough room to get out, no one behind me so I am not causing any inconvenience... man ahead of me, spots the guy walking back to his car and reverses quite some way and waves at me to move back.. I move forward ever so slightly.. he starts shouting and then gets out of his car and asks me if I know how to use reverse, I laugh at him and he tells me I am mad.. by now, two spaces have become free in front of him and he is now blocking two people from leaving their spaces, he drives forward, as do I, because to reverse now would prove I can use reverse, and we both find spaces ahead. I wished him a beautiful day.. he was still telling me that I am mad.

wow so many men are such wankas

RSPCA or dog warden! That’s awful

Welcome to the result of feminism, enjoy

Arse-backwards.

I suspect these are the men who 30 years ago would be wolf whistling and saying inappropriate things but now they can't do that they just say the 2nd thing that comes into their heads

I'm so sorry. I hope you told him!

Backwards. Feminism is the result of the manosphere.

Haha, what? The 'manosphere' is only some tripe drummed up in the last few years... feminism has been around a bit longer... you now see the result of wanting to be treated as equals and not getting the special treatment you think you deserve anymore.

Just a consequence of men being vilified, labelled or condemned by society, read femos, Left media and civil service. If they help they are sexist and chauvinist, if they check out a woman they are rapists, if they sit in a park they are pedos, if they get promoted they are privileged etc.
Not a good era to be a normal middle of the road hetro bloke!

Plus another 2 loaves & a couple of fishes...

Manosphere relates to the patriarchy as a whole, from the beginning of time. Not just in the few years.

Rubbish! Women manage not to go up and insult and abuse other women in public. Why can't men manage it? The fact that they NEVER pull this shit with other men PROVES they know exactly what they are doing, and they make a choice to insult, hurt, humiliate and abuse schoolgirls and women. While leaving men alone.

Vile

Infuriating. Shout very loudly: “listen up everyone! This man point to him unfortunately has a very small cock”

When I was about 21 I was walking past a football ground in London… because I lived in a nearby street… a group of blokes on their way to a game started shouting “who’s the girl with the big fat arse… blondie… blondie”. There were hundred of blokes around and everyone looked at me and laughed. I couldn’t have felt more exposed.There was nothing I could do but just walk as fast as possible.
Thing is I was about a size 8 then. Nobheads

What on earth are you on about? None of the things you’ve pointed out the poor menz are supposedly vilified for have been examples in this thread.

Lol.

Don't be stupid, open your ears and listen.

This is a thread full of women saying they are sick of men interrupting their peace rudely or inanely in the public sphere.

Why should they have to give these men headspace, let alone make the mental effort to engage in 'bantz' with a complete random.

Everything about this thread illustrates that many women aren't treated 'as equals' because as you can see, men don't tend to make asinine and offensive remarks to random male strangers, probably as they fear having their faces punched in. But you clearly haven't read it very carefully.