To get wound up by random men making stupid, rude comments when I’m visibly struggling in public?

[shutityouduffer]

This gets me so fuming. Name changed.

Today I have no car with me. I have to collect something from the post office as it’s needed for a family holiday, we’re setting off early tomorrow. For reference it’s a tabletop barbecue. It said on the John Lewis website it was 12kg and I thought I’d be ok to pick it up myself.

I get the parcel and it’s massive, i cant get my arms around it, and turns out the gross weight of the package is over 20kg. iThe post office is only a 10-min walk from mine, so I pick it up and attempt to carry it, awkwardly and in 25 degree weather.

Now this bbq has “SHARKNINJA” written on the side of the box. A man walks past, can see I’m struggling. He chooses to say, very loudly at me, “SHARK NINJA.” I say yes, trying to move past him. He then turns to his mate and says “I should’ve kicked it.” Wtf???? it doesn’t even make sense - what goes through this man’s head?

Another incident last week - I’m walking my golden retriever, he’s a puppy not yet neutered, but dogs on both sides of the road take exception to him and start barking at him (happens a lot with unneutered males) so I whisk him out into the road to avoid both sets of dogs. No traffic. He’s a softy and he paws at me, because he’s stressed (he wants to be picked up for reference). Man on the pavement shouts, again with a mate, “are you sure you can handle that dog?” As I’m trying to get him safely back onto the pavement. Again what is the point??? I don’t even acknowledge it and then his mate shouts after me, “he was only joking!”

AIBU to be sent into a rage by these stupid comments? I should say a couple of (different) men offered to help with the package and were very kind, so I have no general vendetta against men. But it’s never women making unasked for, unhelpful and rude comments when I’m already visibly stressed out…

Hope their spelling is better than yours.

"They are" or "they're" would be the correct homophone you seek.

I did that to a chugger who was harassing me last week and got sworn at.

I did that to the driver of a car who was up my arse on the motorway and they kept on swerving infront of me and braking.

Men are getting nastier ime. Or maybe I'm getting older?

You think that asking a woman to get her t**s out is humorous?
And if it was your wife, girlfriend or daughter?
You are no man at all.

You mean you're sat next to your mother, using your parents' WiFi.

You're.

Sense.

Op don’t hate me but I laughed at his I should have kicked it because- ninja. I’m so sorry but it’s been a long day and I just snorted as I read it.

Never women except mother-in-laws. Apparently they do according to mum's net on the daily 😂

A Thesaurus is a living relative of the dinosaur family. It comes and gobbles up people who don't use grammar, punctuation and spelling correctly on purpose.

Good thread. What's the point of them? They should be banned from Mumsnet as well.

Completely agree OP. Years ago I was in my village waiting to cross the road. A man in a car stopped to let me cross but took the opportunity to put his window down and say "someone might have let you cross sooner if you'd smiled." Um what? Stand there smiling waiting to cross the road? Smile at what exactly?

“Show us yer tits” isn’t funny. Do you have a daughter. I do and she once said to a man who made comments to her “you know I’m only 14 right?”

Looks like a bloke has turned up to crash the party. 🙄

There's some nice blokes who are regulars on Mumsnet, although I haven't seen some of them post in a while. They just get on with it and don't come on here to tell women off for having opinions and things.

Shopping today in a supermarket. Let DS sit in the trolly as too big for the seat and too lazy to walk.

Went to pay and this man stops and says “how much is he?” Gesturing at DS. Unfortunately, I didn’t hear and asked him to repeat it, which he did with a loud laugh.

Sigh.

Is it a funny comment? Am I fucking miserable? Or just fed up of random strangers men interrupting me/my life with stupid pointless comments.

There's only one bloke I like on Mumsnet. I'm not saying who because he might get big headed. The rest are knobheads. But it's okay, because they'll all think it's them anyway.

The other evening I was on my way out of town after a theatre thing I'd gone to on my own. The buses back to park and ride (where I'd left my car) were extremely infrequent by that time of the evening and I was almost sure I'd just missed one as I walked briskly to my stop - then it suddenly turned out of the side road ahead of me. I legged it because I didn't want to spent 45 minutes on my own at 10.30 waiting for the next one. Passed two middle-aged/elderly men who both shouted something witty about how fast I was going and whether I'd catch it. I was pretty desperate by then and just shouted over my shoulder 'oh fuck OFF!!'

It occurred to me that they might just have been bewildered by that. Maybe they thought they were being friendly, or encouraging, or helpful. Then I caught onto myself and thought, NO. It's never a woman is it? It is ALWAYS THE MEN. Sod 'em. Keep it inside your head, mate.

The menz finding this thread has dulled the sheen. O, the irony.

Most of the stupid that random men say to women would never be said to men because they know thst a man might just punch them.

No, I think it’s demonstrated what someone said about 3 posts in: “There are some men who literally say anything that comes into their heads. Limited is what they are.”

I know, it was funny till then. Sigh.

I don't believe you