To get wound up by random men making stupid, rude comments when I’m visibly struggling in public?

[shutityouduffer]

This gets me so fuming. Name changed.

Today I have no car with me. I have to collect something from the post office as it’s needed for a family holiday, we’re setting off early tomorrow. For reference it’s a tabletop barbecue. It said on the John Lewis website it was 12kg and I thought I’d be ok to pick it up myself.

I get the parcel and it’s massive, i cant get my arms around it, and turns out the gross weight of the package is over 20kg. iThe post office is only a 10-min walk from mine, so I pick it up and attempt to carry it, awkwardly and in 25 degree weather.

Now this bbq has “SHARKNINJA” written on the side of the box. A man walks past, can see I’m struggling. He chooses to say, very loudly at me, “SHARK NINJA.” I say yes, trying to move past him. He then turns to his mate and says “I should’ve kicked it.” Wtf???? it doesn’t even make sense - what goes through this man’s head?

Another incident last week - I’m walking my golden retriever, he’s a puppy not yet neutered, but dogs on both sides of the road take exception to him and start barking at him (happens a lot with unneutered males) so I whisk him out into the road to avoid both sets of dogs. No traffic. He’s a softy and he paws at me, because he’s stressed (he wants to be picked up for reference). Man on the pavement shouts, again with a mate, “are you sure you can handle that dog?” As I’m trying to get him safely back onto the pavement. Again what is the point??? I don’t even acknowledge it and then his mate shouts after me, “he was only joking!”

AIBU to be sent into a rage by these stupid comments? I should say a couple of (different) men offered to help with the package and were very kind, so I have no general vendetta against men. But it’s never women making unasked for, unhelpful and rude comments when I’m already visibly stressed out…

I assure you that this isn't a popular hobby for the overwhelming majority of men, and most men would not look favourably on a man being a dick for no reason.

Oh, thank GOD! A man has arrived to tell us all to chill!

I think some of these are people trying to be friendly/saying hello. Curious op are you southern living in a northern town perhaps?

A lot (not all) of men are twats and dicks that’s why. Have a lovely holiday 😊

I understand this they're thickos trying to be funny ... id get tired of that too.
Yes they're are some lovely men out there too shame the idiots dont take lessons from them .

I am visibly pregnant 🤰 I had a fall on the street and had men driving past beeping and laughing at me as I was trying to get up on my injured leg without hitting my bump.
I had them deliberately spray me with water waiting on a traffic light again while pregnant. I have had men making comments when I struggled to tie my shoe laces because of my belly… they are just idiots and hate women - nothing goes through their head!

Exactly this. Thankfully this hasn’t happened to me recently but when it did the most effective way to make them feel suitably stupid was to stop, turn and stare with no other reaction (sometimes an eyebrow raised involuntarily). They generally don’t know where to put themselves at that point.

Well done, you got two in one. Several times, under both usernames.

Were you using one account for patronising and the other for condescending? It's hard to tell. Perhaps you'd like to mansplain.

I am nearly as far north as you can get before being Scottish and if someone wants to say hello here we still just say hi/good morning/evening etc. Making a joke out of someone struggling isn’t ok wherever you’re from.

Woman here, do sod off dear. No one asked for your opinion.

We can’t judge their tone from your post. It doesn’t seem like they were making fun. Perhaps you are seeing the world negatively at the moment? I vote you are being unreasonable as they are not things that I think you should dwell on.. saying this with kindness.

Men! Sigh!! Cheer yourself up by watching Ladies First on Netflix. Very enjoyable 90 minutes! We can but dream..!!

It really is pathetic at times isn't? I used to get various comments from young blokes when walking my chihuahua, all around how easily they or their dog could kill mine.
Like animal cruelty was some sort of flex (idk, maybe the other mouth breathers would be impressed by somebody kicking a chihuahua to death?).
Never heard a single comment like that from a woman though....apparently we don't feel threatened by tiny dogs!

This isn’t my post, but regardless, the OP was struggling and they were joking on rather than offering help or just shutting up.

Sorry mate, I don’t have any change 🤷‍♀️

Nicely played.

I was standing outside the cancer unit with a family member in a wheelchair on a warm day. The carpark was opposite. My family member was in their pajamas and they had a scarf on their head. They were very obviously having cancer treatment at the time. Some male arsehole about mid 40s shouted over " enjoy your fags eh girls" I'm in the UK so they meant cigarettes. This male walked off clearly pleased with himself. We were the only ones there, neither of us smoke , no one had been near us, so there was no one he could of mistaken us for smoking. We had literally came outside to look at the sun and get some non hospital air. He's lucky I couldn't leave my family member on their own or I'd of ran after him. He thought he was being really clever , probably told everyone later how he'd told us and how clever he was. Stupid dickhead.

What an admirable hobby - coming onto forums and trolling women.

I bet you're a real catch.