Partner lying in bed on hottest day of the year …would you be annoyed ?

[luluxxx]

My partner works 6 days of the week
He never gets bank holidays off except today .
Anyway Saturday night we went to a gig that I really wanted to go too ,we left before the main act came on as he had a sore throat.
Yesterdag was a football game,he was up and seemed to be fine ,out for 10 hours.
Today he won’t get out of bed
Says he can’t be bothered because of his sore throat.
Its 29 degrees here
We had plans to go to car boot sale or beach.
Anyway I have left him to it and came out to the park with my book.
Would you be annoyed ?
I feel a bit sad as I’m sat by myself and everyone here with partners etc .

6 days a week you say? You know how the Russian revolution happened and they killed the Royal family and all the landed gentry? Because the working classes were fucked too hard. Leave your partner alone, let him rest. Alternatively you go and work 6 days a week and then go to concerts he wants to go to and then revisit this question of yours.

@luluxxx get one of those waterproof phone pouches for swimming. You can fit your phone and car keys in that then you aren't reliant on someone being back on the beach with your stuff.

It's his one day off, let him rest.

Do your own thing. Leave him to it.

He was well enough to go football yesterday so he is absolutely taking the piss today.

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i think a lot of posters have missed that he had two days off this week - he chose one for football and the day that he and his supposed loved one had plans - he’s decided to lie in bed instead. The whole point for the op is that this cold has been too bad to spend the time allocated to her, but absolutely not too bad at all to go to football all day.

I'm curled up on the sofa, parts under a blanket parts with a fan on me with a cold thats mostly a bad cough and throat, i wouldn't choose to be outside either!

I’d be annoyed at missing the main act as well.

His sore throat seems to manifest itself when it’s convenient for him. Did he show any signs of illness prior to the gig?

I’m guessing you feel like you’ve wasted this lovely, sunny weekend.

Is he always like this, ie controlling what activities you go to? Ie. Are your trips out always in his terms?

That would be fair enough if he hadn't had a miraculous recovery to spend 10 hours at the football only to fall ill again the next day.

Why can’t you go to the beach without him? Honestly I leave DH to it when he’s sick, can’t be arsed to watch a medium ill person lay it on so thick.

I can’t believe a sore throat was his excuse leaving a gig early you should have stayed told him to get over himself I get he might be tired but that was a waste not seeing the main act. Leave him to . Op next time he wants to do something and you don’t leave him to it. Most football fans won’t miss it for anything I bet he was shouting making his throat worse.

He works 6 days a week and you want him to go with you to the beach or even worse a boot sale on a scorching hot day, while he feels ill??
Selfish of you I would say.

I think it’s odd that you let your plans be dictated by him - he wants to leave a concert so ‘you’ leave. He doesn’t want to go to the beach so ‘you’ don’t go to the beach. I think you should do the things you enjoy regardless of him. But yes, cancelling plans regularly while prioritising other things means this might not be a great relationship for you.

I'd be binning this loser OP. I feel you can do a lot better.

My house is doing a brilliant job of staying cool with the insulation, so this is where I'm staying for the day.
Perhaps he realised he overdid it at the football?

It does not matter, he does not owe anyone an explanation of why after 6 days' weeks, year in, year out (never had a bank hol off, the OP said) he feels like vegetating and lying in bed. He has earned it. Leave him be. He does not have to fake a sore throat, but the fact that he does, only means his partner is so disrespectful of his needs (need to rest and simply not to go anywhere on the one day off) that he has to lie because he is scared and/or too polite to say 'are you fucking mad? why are you so selfish with your fucking gigs? I am TIRED. Fuck off'

I wouldn’t worry about going to the beach because where we are it’s standing room only. I’ll be avoiding until early tomorrow morning .

Enjoy your book and the park, have a wander and be grateful for this beautiful day. Plan a nice supper for you both this evening. He might feel better later when it's cooled down a bit.
I'm house sitting, with a little dog. We did lots before 9 am!
I'm cooking, relaxing, reading, chilling, can't think of anything worse being on a beach in the UK or car boot sale on a bank holiday monday.
Be happy and hope you are now in a better state of mind.

Yabu for making me sympathise with a man!

Leave him to rest!

lol you wrote this in the way I was thinking with more swear words but definitely spot on!

Wouldn't annoy me at all
Not joined at hip
I've done very little this bank holiday
No doubt the mums net productivity police will be along to call me lazy... sigh

This will sound harsh perhaps OP, but seriously now or inevitably in the future, LTB.
He ruined your gig, ruined today - but was fine for 10 hours of football yesterday? He doesn’t care about you or respect you. You’d be better off on your own.

Op - he works 6 days of the week- surely you don’t begrudge him a day of rest?

The gig is slightly unforgivable … (Assuming he was not genuinely feeling dreadful?

But as for today - I wouldn’t be entertaining any suggestion of leaving my house. About 50 million tourists will have descended on my local city - so all my favourite green or watery places will be rammed. And I’m certainly not attempting anywhere further afield. Not sure even the garden will be tolerable this afternoon. Anything other than sofa, book, bowl of cherries and a cold drink would be completely unreasonable.

(But if he regularly spoils your fun … 🤷‍♀️)

I’m with him tbh. I have a ‘cold’ (thinking possibly covid as can’t taste anything today) and I’ve been up and down. Felt awful on Saturday, ok to work on Sunday but then absolutely collapsed today and the heat isn’t helping. If anyone expected me to do anything other than veg on the sofa today they’d get short shrift.

Leave him in peace to recuperate as he has the day off to do whatever he wants. I get that it’s annoying when plans get changed or cancelled but for you being out in the unbearable heat was more important than spending time with him, so he might also be feeling pissed off?

Because I feel his pain. I am the main breadwinner now and for a number of years I was the only breadwinner. I adore my family, but was aghast at their lack of consideration at times, when I came home in the evening and they ambushed me by the door with 'let's go out', 'let us play', 'do you want to see my new dance routine'? All I wanted was a shower and bed. Not even eat.