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Friend expecting me to work for free

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unpaid1 · 24/05/2026 21:35

Recently, a friend who I used to work with has opened her own consulting business and told me about it. As we worked in the same field she said we could work together where if she needed any help with documents, data entry I could pick it up. I of course said yes, that sounds great , make a bit of money on the side.

The issue is I’ve now done quite a few pieces of work for her but she hasn’t mentioned any payment? I tried to hint to her last week when she asked me to type something up for her, how would we work how I’m getting paid and she said don’t worry we will talk about it soon. She gave me the business bank card and told me to order stationary etc if needed as she would cover the costs.

She’s just messaged again asking for a task to be competed and I’m slightly annoyed now because I can’t keep giving my time up for free. How do I approach this with her without ruining our friendship? I really don’t want to finish this new task she’s given me as I know it’s going to take a good 5-6 hours 😭.

AIBU and should just help her?
AINBU and how do I ask her to pay me?

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unpaid1 · Yesterday 23:14

Mellowautumnmists · Yesterday 20:12

Why don’t you just invoice her now for the work you’ve already done at the rate you’ve just agreed with her. Tell her the due date for that payment.

Once that payment has been received by you, then, and only then, should you do any more work for her.

Otherwise you could end up wasting more time doing work for her. This way you’ll know sooner rather than later quite how much of a friend she is.

This makes sense but we agreed monthly invoices so I would raise it at the end of the month for payment to typically be made within 5 days. That’s the end of the week so will see how it goes.

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MustTryHarderAndHarder · Today 06:00

unpaid1 · Yesterday 23:12

As it’s the end of the month this week I won’t have to wait long to see if she really does take me for a mug. I hope not, I thought we were quite good friends and despite everything I want to think she wouldn’t completely use me like this. I might put off the new task though as it’s not urgent and tell her I’ll work on it next week just to be cautious. That way it’s my own hard lesson to be learnt if she doesn’t pay but I’ve not wasted more time either.

Yes, definitely don't do the new task until she pays you for the rest.

I think that you are too nice. She hasn't paid you a penny so far. What kind of friend does that?

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