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AIBU?

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AIBU to think these boys should have been incarcerated?

762 replies

newrubylane · 21/05/2026 14:06

BBC News - Teenage boys sentenced for raping lone girls
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clypg68e2neo

I've never started an AIBU before, but I'm genuinely really shocked. I'm just not sure how this sentence is justifiable. Their actions were premeditated and deliberate, they were carrying a knife and they filmed themselves. They're obviously a danger to women/girls, and probably to other boys too.

If anyone knows how and why this sentence might have come about, I'd be interested to hear it.

A footpath beside a river, leading under a road bridge

Teenage boys sentenced for raping lone girls in Fordingbridge

The boys filmed themselves laughing and encouraging each other as they raped girls in separate attacks.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clypg68e2neo

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Allisnotlost1 · 21/05/2026 15:21

coulditbeme2323 · 21/05/2026 15:18

I can't see anywhere in that article that says they are from Southampton.

My mistake, I mixed up the court and the location. If the rapes occurred in Fordingbridge they’ll be from there or nearby.

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 15:21

HouseMartinsHome · 21/05/2026 15:17

I don't understand the quotes about 'not criminalising' these boys. They are criminals and prison or not they have been convicted of violent, sexual offences.

Of course they have been criminalised as they are criminals.

Anyone saying they wouldn't want these boys criminalised is mad. I want their offending to be recorded and to be searchable forever and for things like DBS to be forever flagged up.

Otherwise you could have a dangerous violent rapist applying for a job in a nursery school or as a sports coach ffs.

So they have been criminalised you silly judge. And rightly so.

Criminalising isn’t about the technicality of being criminals, it’s about not giving them a chance of a rehabilitated adult life because they will a) come out of adult prison better criminals and b) suffer the impacts of “criminalisation” for the rest of their lives. That’s about labelling them as a criminal rather than looking at the link between behaviour at such a young age and the link to trauma and vulnerability.
it harms their chances of employment, education, the way the police treat them and how they view themselves.

and this isn’t about feeling sorry for them- its about the most effective way to rehabilitate them

criminalising also increases the risk of reoffending

BridgetPhillipsonIsACowardlyJobsworth · 21/05/2026 15:21

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 15:16

You’ve twice said that they should’ be imprisoned for the rest of their lives. There is no way for them to be sentenced to that

Then I've already explained my feelings about this twice. What part of it are you still confused about? If they can't be incarcerated for life, then they can't. But they should be, and I imagine the girl's parents are wishing they could go even further, as no doubt you would, if this had happened to your child.

But, no prison time at all is beyond the pale for this crime, and you ought to know that. This is why so many people are complaining.

coulditbeme2323 · 21/05/2026 15:22

Allisnotlost1 · 21/05/2026 15:21

My mistake, I mixed up the court and the location. If the rapes occurred in Fordingbridge they’ll be from there or nearby.

Where you live and where you are form are two entirely different things.

Sundaynightterrors · 21/05/2026 15:22

It is completely disgusting. No punishment at all.

SpecialAgentMaggieBell · 21/05/2026 15:23

I always think when such light sentences are given for horrific crimes like these that the judge is himself a rapist. They protect each other. Look at all the people in the Epstein files and the only person ever charged is a woman! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Allisnotlost1 · 21/05/2026 15:23

Firetreev · 21/05/2026 15:12

This abhorrent, I'm utterly sick of teenagers getting off with murder, literally. Just because their brain isn't fully developed until they're tenty-five, doesn't mean they don't know right from wrong. They had the capacity to do this which means they're vile human beings whether they're fifteen of fifty-five.

Who ‘literally’ got off with murder? This is a story about boys being convicted (ie not getting away with) rape but being sentenced surprisingly leniently.

distrussful · 21/05/2026 15:23

I’ve also complained - we have to hope that if enough people complain, there will at least need to be a revisit

YorksMa · 21/05/2026 15:23

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 14:50

I’m afraid I agree we shouldn’t criminalise children

I think their risk to women/ the public and their progress in rehabilitation needs to be carefully assessed, and I would advocate on the side of caution with that- but not that they should be criminalised. It’s just not effective

We don't need to assess their risk. They ARE a risk, as demonstrated by their multiple offences.

GCAcademic · 21/05/2026 15:23

coulditbeme2323 · 21/05/2026 15:22

Where you live and where you are form are two entirely different things.

Oh just spit it out, you’re obviously dying for them to not be white.

Doggymummar · 21/05/2026 15:24

newrubylane · 21/05/2026 14:06

BBC News - Teenage boys sentenced for raping lone girls
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clypg68e2neo

I've never started an AIBU before, but I'm genuinely really shocked. I'm just not sure how this sentence is justifiable. Their actions were premeditated and deliberate, they were carrying a knife and they filmed themselves. They're obviously a danger to women/girls, and probably to other boys too.

If anyone knows how and why this sentence might have come about, I'd be interested to hear it.

I just read this it's outrageous. I was raped at 12 by a gang of boys aged from 11-18, five of them related and it completely takes over your life. Im 56 now and I still think abou5 it daily. They were brave to come forward and the sentences are laughable frankly.

coulditbeme2323 · 21/05/2026 15:24

GCAcademic · 21/05/2026 15:23

Oh just spit it out, you’re obviously dying for them to not be white.

I am not dying, but I have a lot of experience in the youth estate.

Allisnotlost1 · 21/05/2026 15:24

coulditbeme2323 · 21/05/2026 15:22

Where you live and where you are form are two entirely different things.

Ah so you were being racist.

As I said, the only rapists that get sentences like this are white. The population of Fordingbridge is small and about 99.9% white too.

2dogsandabudgie · 21/05/2026 15:24

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 14:50

I’m afraid I agree we shouldn’t criminalise children

I think their risk to women/ the public and their progress in rehabilitation needs to be carefully assessed, and I would advocate on the side of caution with that- but not that they should be criminalised. It’s just not effective

They weren't acting like children. Children should not be going around raping other children. What is going on?

If they commit a serious crime like rape or murder they should receive a harsh sentence otherwise where is the deterrent.

JustTryingToBeMe · 21/05/2026 15:24

professionalcommentreader · 21/05/2026 14:49

done but I wish that I hadn’t had to 😞

allthingsinmoderation · 21/05/2026 15:24

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 14:50

I’m afraid I agree we shouldn’t criminalise children

I think their risk to women/ the public and their progress in rehabilitation needs to be carefully assessed, and I would advocate on the side of caution with that- but not that they should be criminalised. It’s just not effective

Im afraid they are criminalised because they have been convicted of rape and assisting a rape ,serious crimes which makes them criminals.
I agree their risk to women/the public need to be carefully assessed.

aquitodavia · 21/05/2026 15:25

Absolutely horrifying, I feel so angry for these poor girls, and for the women these monsters will no doubt go on to abuse, having got away with it this time. I have submitted an unduly lenient sentence appeal too.

Goseeastarwar · 21/05/2026 15:25

professionalcommentreader · 21/05/2026 14:26

I have complained, you can do the same, it’s not acceptable

Edited

Im trying to fill in this form but it is asking for the name of the perpetrators but their names haven't been released. What have you put?

SpidersAreShitheads · 21/05/2026 15:26

coulditbeme2323 · 21/05/2026 15:22

Where you live and where you are form are two entirely different things.

The case was heard at Southampton Crown Court and the rapes took place at Fordinghambridge, Hampshire.

I think given their ages and the fact it’s multiple offences it’s probably reasonable to assume they’re local to Fordinghambridge. .

allthingsinmoderation · 21/05/2026 15:26

Are the judges sentencing remarks available?
When sentences seem unjust judges sentencing remarks can often shed light on why.

Wolverine23 · 21/05/2026 15:26

as a mother of a teen girls and boys. I’m disgusted reading this.

MrsEmmelinePankhurst · 21/05/2026 15:27

Form submitted.

These disgusting boys should be securely housed away from members of the public and their freedom should be curtailed strictly enough so that they can never present a threat to anyone ever again. I don't actually care how much that would cost; we all deserve to be kept safe from dangerous individuals like these. Of course they knew that what they were doing was wrong. Regardless of any SEN / low IQ / etc. Of course they knew!

I just do not see how they can ever be rehabilitated to the point where they will 100% never do this again. I mean - if you knew their past history, would you be OK with one of them dating your daughter in, say, 20 years' time??

wishingonastar101 · 21/05/2026 15:27

We need to fix this.... those poor girls.

SpidersAreShitheads · 21/05/2026 15:27

allthingsinmoderation · 21/05/2026 15:26

Are the judges sentencing remarks available?
When sentences seem unjust judges sentencing remarks can often shed light on why.

This link provides a bit more but not his full comments.

https://www.lbc.co.uk/article/three-boys-avoid-prison-rape-two-girls-5HjdZW4_2/

Three boys avoid prison sentences for their part in the rape of two girls | LBC

The boys were also made subject to a three-month curfew and given a restraining order for 10 years not to contact their victims.

https://www.lbc.co.uk/article/three-boys-avoid-prison-rape-two-girls-5HjdZW4_2/

aquitodavia · 21/05/2026 15:27

allthingsinmoderation · 21/05/2026 15:24

Im afraid they are criminalised because they have been convicted of rape and assisting a rape ,serious crimes which makes them criminals.
I agree their risk to women/the public need to be carefully assessed.

Agree, they criminalised themselves when they committed horrifying criminal offences that destroyed the lives of two girls.

Does the PP believe James Bulger's killers shouldn't have been criminalised? How monstrous does a crime have to be then? Does the effect on victims (current and most likely future) not matter?