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AIBU to think these boys should have been incarcerated?

762 replies

newrubylane · 21/05/2026 14:06

BBC News - Teenage boys sentenced for raping lone girls
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clypg68e2neo

I've never started an AIBU before, but I'm genuinely really shocked. I'm just not sure how this sentence is justifiable. Their actions were premeditated and deliberate, they were carrying a knife and they filmed themselves. They're obviously a danger to women/girls, and probably to other boys too.

If anyone knows how and why this sentence might have come about, I'd be interested to hear it.

A footpath beside a river, leading under a road bridge

Teenage boys sentenced for raping lone girls in Fordingbridge

The boys filmed themselves laughing and encouraging each other as they raped girls in separate attacks.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clypg68e2neo

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AplineDaisies · 21/05/2026 14:47

Please can someone post the link for complaining and the relevant info e.g case reference no

EasternStandard · 21/05/2026 14:47

GingerBeverage · 21/05/2026 14:31

Two of the boys' mothers burst into tears as Judge Nicholas Rowland told the attackers "none of you need to go to prison today".

How magnanimous of Judge Nicolas Rowland.
And what of the victims’ mothers? Where is the reporting on their reactions?

Boys who planned and executed gang rapes from age 13 will not magically be rehabilitated by 3 years of youth rehab.

How awful for the girls to hear this.

FinchiePink · 21/05/2026 14:47

TheJuryIsOut · 21/05/2026 14:45

I don't get this train of thought though, if we can try 10 year olds for murder and lock them up then why would a 13/14 year old not be locked up for a premeditated gang rape & filming it?

Because each case is judged on its own merits. We don't know what - if any, beyond age - mitigating factors may be in play regarding these boys. And we won't know until (or if) we get the sentencing remarks.

JudgementalCat · 21/05/2026 14:48

I've also completed the form.

ParmaVioletTea · 21/05/2026 14:50

Slightyamusedandsilly · 21/05/2026 14:16

We live in a culture that hates women and allows boys and men to be animals.

This.

And when women speak up and say the bare horrible truth, they're lampooned and harassed.

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 14:50

I’m afraid I agree we shouldn’t criminalise children

I think their risk to women/ the public and their progress in rehabilitation needs to be carefully assessed, and I would advocate on the side of caution with that- but not that they should be criminalised. It’s just not effective

Indespairmum · 21/05/2026 14:51

The stats for conviction for sexual assault and rape are so low it’s ridiculous !

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 21/05/2026 14:51

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 14:50

I’m afraid I agree we shouldn’t criminalise children

I think their risk to women/ the public and their progress in rehabilitation needs to be carefully assessed, and I would advocate on the side of caution with that- but not that they should be criminalised. It’s just not effective

So criminalise their parents instead.

Because clearly if they think rape is OK something’s gone very wrong.

Rubbleonthedouble2 · 21/05/2026 14:52

SardinesOnButteredToast · 21/05/2026 14:39

Thank you to those sharing how to appeal the sentence. I didn't know there was this route of registering outrage.

Same here. I came to Mumsnet to look if a thread had been started after reading the story and feeling horrified by the sentencing.

There's nothing to say there weren't other victims who have not come forward.

Cartmella · 21/05/2026 14:52

But if you don't criminslise the boys there is zero deterrent. Other boys will commit gang rapes now. Guaranteed.

muggart · 21/05/2026 14:52

I don’t really understand the mitigating factors thing. Obviously any 13/14 year old gang rapist who cuts girls with knives is going to have a dysfunctional background and be mentally screwed up. And, yes, they may well have learning difficulties not least because those sorts of diagnoses are incredibly common among that generation.

But so what? We still shouldn’t sacrifice our girls to them. How awful that they have essentially been let off.

RingoJuice · 21/05/2026 14:53

Two of the boys' mothers burst into tears as Judge Nicholas Rowland told the attackers "none of you need to go to prison today"

Their mothers are horrible too these boys are dangerous and they will almost certainly do this again. How many time before they are caught again? How cruel to these girls and future girls that will be victimized

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 14:54

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 21/05/2026 14:51

So criminalise their parents instead.

Because clearly if they think rape is OK something’s gone very wrong.

You criminalise parents just for raising rapists? Do they get an allowance in this prosecution if they picked up on red flags and sought help? What if they adopted traumatised children, are they still responsible?

I mean it’s obviously a ridiculous idea, but there are even basic things like the above to co sided when you hold someone criminally responsible for someone else’s behaviour

FernandoSor · 21/05/2026 14:54

TheJuryIsOut · 21/05/2026 14:45

I don't get this train of thought though, if we can try 10 year olds for murder and lock them up then why would a 13/14 year old not be locked up for a premeditated gang rape & filming it?

Courts and sentencing have changed a lot in 33 years since Jamie Bulger was murdered. For a start indefinite detention at Her Majesty's Pleasure, which was their sentence, no longer exists.

VinoEsmeralda · 21/05/2026 14:54

I wonder what the family background of the rapists are and the girls. Rich v poor i feel

TheJuryIsOut · 21/05/2026 14:54

FinchiePink · 21/05/2026 14:47

Because each case is judged on its own merits. We don't know what - if any, beyond age - mitigating factors may be in play regarding these boys. And we won't know until (or if) we get the sentencing remarks.

I couldn't give a flying fuck what mitigating factors there is, please tell me what you think would be a good excuse for these boys to have done this?

Monty36 · 21/05/2026 14:55

The fifteen year old you have to wonder if he was fit for trial. Their learning difficulties / ADHD were assessed as being in the bottom 1% for their age.

OrangeOpalFruits · 21/05/2026 14:55

Criminalised is irrelevant-their calculated, predatory, violent rapes also featured incitement. They are criminals, who will now believe that abusing and raping girls is not that big a deal.

dietcokeandcake2026 · 21/05/2026 14:55

Im normally for young people to be given non prison sentences but in this case. It would be very suitable. It would also allow a period of rehabilitation ( hopefully) and further risk assessment to be undertaken. Is the full judgement and sentencing remarks available anywhere?

TheJuryIsOut · 21/05/2026 14:55

FernandoSor · 21/05/2026 14:54

Courts and sentencing have changed a lot in 33 years since Jamie Bulger was murdered. For a start indefinite detention at Her Majesty's Pleasure, which was their sentence, no longer exists.

Ah right that's ok then. Let's just look forward to the future of boys gang raping girls with no actual consequences for them to worry about. Fabulous.

muggart · 21/05/2026 14:55

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 14:50

I’m afraid I agree we shouldn’t criminalise children

I think their risk to women/ the public and their progress in rehabilitation needs to be carefully assessed, and I would advocate on the side of caution with that- but not that they should be criminalised. It’s just not effective

i mean, the fact that they are a risk to girls is pretty clear cut. They rape them at knifepoint.

I am genuinely interested though- what should we do about these guys if not keep them off the streets?

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 21/05/2026 14:55

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 14:54

You criminalise parents just for raising rapists? Do they get an allowance in this prosecution if they picked up on red flags and sought help? What if they adopted traumatised children, are they still responsible?

I mean it’s obviously a ridiculous idea, but there are even basic things like the above to co sided when you hold someone criminally responsible for someone else’s behaviour

Well, either the kids knew it was wrong and they should be punished accordingly.

Or they didn’t, in which case their parents didn’t do their job - so punish the parents.

You can’t just excuse the shitty behaviour, which is what you seem to be suggesting.

Feis123 · 21/05/2026 14:56

professionalcommentreader · 21/05/2026 14:26

I have complained, you can do the same, it’s not acceptable

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Well done, I think all the commenters on here should do it.

Swiftie1878 · 21/05/2026 14:56

Thank you. Also sent in an objection. This is outrageous. What are we supposed to tell our daughters about this?!