DH wants to miss SIL’s anniversary lunch for Arsenal parade?

[Thegoldenoriole]

As you may or may not know (or care), Arsenal won the Premier League yesterday. DH wants to go to the parade in a couple of weeks. However, we have his sister’s 10th anniversary lunch booked in already, and it would be impossible to attend both.

I think it’s probably reasonable to go to the parade, given it could be literally the only opportunity. Or it could happen again next year! But I’m concerned DSIL won’t feel the same way… DH is a fan, but not to a major degree - he only started following them at uni influenced by his flatmate and I think he’s been to two live arsenal games in his life! The rest of the family aren’t football people at all. I only care insofar as it affects DH.

Thoughts? I would still go to SIL’s lunch and take the kids - they are small and after what happened at Liverpool last year I wouldn’t want them going without me.

It’s for him to explain to his sister
I wouldn’t be bothered but then I also wouldn’t have a 10th anniversary lunch either

I’ve never understood celebrating other peoples wedding anniversary. Yay, well done. You are still married to the person you chose. Odd lol.

I would just leave it to him to decide (and manage any fallout) if it’s his sister.

Im not surprised he isn’t bothered about celebrating someone else’s anniversary! It’s an event for the couple not their siblings in my opinion.

Celebrating someone else’s anniversary is weird, surely that’s between the couple?!

Anyway, let him go to the parade, it’s the first time they’ve won in 22 years and might be another 22 before they do again!

I think it would be quite rude to miss it.. is there any way to do both? Unless DH very politely broaches the subject and sees how she would take it. Is it DH’s sister’s wedding anniversary and are they covering the bill?

It depends on if he already accepted the invitation

You and the kids go to the meal and he goes to the parade - but he needs to tell his sister himself.

I think it’s his sister so for him to manage.

I agree with PPs about other people’s anniversaries though. Especially 10 yrs… it’s not really that long. Fair enough doing something for 50 yrs!

I have never heard of anyone having a family lunch for a 10th wedding anniversary. He can tell his sister he's going to the parade

I don't know how the voting works, but he isn't wrong to want to go to the parade.

He’s only been to 2 matches? He’s hardly a big fan then! He’s rather avoid the lunch. He needs to tell his sister!

Why are you celebrating someone elses 10th anniversary? Surely thats just for the happy couple?
In any case its DHs sister so he can handle it himself if he isn't going

Ten years is no big deal to anyone but yourself. Weird for them to expect anyone else to celebrate any anniversary before 25. Tell him to go to the parade.

My parents were once invited to a 20th Wedding Anniversary of people they didn’t even know that well and thought it all odd.

Outspoken grandma of the wife commented, “Odd to celebrate 20 and not just wait for 25.” The wife replied, “Well, you never know if you’ll make it.”

And they got divorced the same year. It was actually a goodbye party 😅

Edit: Going to my SIL’s wedding anniversary party sounds like my idea of hell.

He should go to the parade. He should just tell his sister that’s what he’s going to do, who cares? Bit pretentious anyway do celebrate a 10 year wedding anniversary. I’ve not long had mine, we celebrated together as a couple because let’s be honest no one cares about anniversaries, surely ?

Its a total non issue. Parade it is.

For him to manage with his sister. As a general rule I think it’s very impolite to accept an invitation and then cancel later just because you had a ‘better offer’. Albeit also think it’s a bit OTT to have a 10th wedding anniversary celebration involving people other than the married couple (silver, ruby, golden, diamond jubilee maybe).

It's his choice and for him to tell his sister. I've never been to a 10 year anniversary meal. Even my own was during lockdown so we just had a meal at home.

@Sunloungerhogger

But it absolutely is a better offer for an Arsenal fan.

Having accepted the invitation it’s very rude to cancel for this.

as an aside, who has invites other people to celebrate a 10th wedding anniversary. Cringe. Maybe for a biggie - like a 50th!

I don't understand your voting @Thegoldenoriole

I can not understand someone having an anniversary lunch?
Surely that is for the happy couple?

Of course he should go to the parade.
We are season ticket holders but I hate the whole "not real fans" thing if they have only been to a few matches.
It is very hard to get tickets.

My DS watched last night in his post Arsenal pub with his mates and then they spilled out on to the streets.
Absolutely amazing scenes.

Hope he has a great day!!!

I would absolutely go to the parade. I wouldn’t celebrate someone else’s anniversary

100% this.

If ever there was a time for applying the "not my circus, not my monkeys" principle, its now.

I’m jealous. Not long went to the Coventry parade. 🙌

I read it as the anniversary of her death.

Mad for other people to attend someone wedding anniversary lunch.