DH wants to miss SIL’s anniversary lunch for Arsenal parade?

[Thegoldenoriole]

As you may or may not know (or care), Arsenal won the Premier League yesterday. DH wants to go to the parade in a couple of weeks. However, we have his sister’s 10th anniversary lunch booked in already, and it would be impossible to attend both.

I think it’s probably reasonable to go to the parade, given it could be literally the only opportunity. Or it could happen again next year! But I’m concerned DSIL won’t feel the same way… DH is a fan, but not to a major degree - he only started following them at uni influenced by his flatmate and I think he’s been to two live arsenal games in his life! The rest of the family aren’t football people at all. I only care insofar as it affects DH.

Thoughts? I would still go to SIL’s lunch and take the kids - they are small and after what happened at Liverpool last year I wouldn’t want them going without me.

The ignorance of posters who know nothing about football! You can't just rock up at the Emirates to watch a match whenever you feel like it – you have to enter a lottery or be a season ticket holder – my partner was on the waiting list for a decade before he got his!

You also don't have to live next to the stadium to call yourself a fan. People support Arsenal across the globe. Does that make them fairweather fans because they don't fly into London for the matches? Of course not.

I’ve never understood anyone celebrating someone else’s wedding anniversary, other than the couple involved.

See my other comment. If you think it only counts if you go to matches, you clearly know nothing about football these days and how tickets are allocated!

Let him go. He's unlikely to get another chance in his lifetime 😜

I have a season ticket for the team I support, and have had since I was 17. I think I do know...

Honestly no one really cares about other people’s anniversaries! Let him deal with his sister if he decides to go to the parade.

There is no way I would go to someone else’s anniversary lunch.
My 20 yr anniversary last yr was a takeaway for the 2 of us.
He should go to the parade if that is what he wants to do.

Rude! Are you a Spurs or Man City fan?! 😂

A fan, yes. A supporter, no...

So you know how hard it is for someone to get a ticket to see a PL match at a club like Arsenal!

Surely the issue isn't which is more important so much as which he has already committed to.

He already agreed to go to the lunch. If SIL is comfortable with either changing the date of the celebration (if everyone can make the alternative) or not having him there, that's fine. But without her willingly-given permission he ought to stick to his word.

I’ll never understand why anyone gives a shit about someone else’s wedding anniversary. It’s my sisters 26th WA today, we speak every day and I haven’t even acknowledged it, she’s gone out with the only other person it concerns, her husband. It’s my 20th in December. We’re going away with our son.

Tell him to get himself off to the Parade, in a couple of years it’ll Sheffield Wednesdays turn (haha) and I’d miss my own anniversary for that parade.

Also, for the peeps saying ‘he’s only been to two games he can’t be a real fan’ - well ever considered they might not have money to attend very often? It’s just cost us close to £1500 last week to renew for a club that won twice this season and has been relegated into league one - so I imagine Gunners tickets are a bit more hefty.

I'm not even a football fan but I would say he should definitely go to the parade. Someone else's wedding anniversary isn't really a special occasion.

My DP is a season ticket holder. He goes to every home game. I watch every home game at home, and all the away ones, and all the European and cup games. I'll be at the parade. But that doesn't make me a supporter, just a fan?

Nonsense!

A true, dedicated supporter, as the OP's claiming her hubby is, would jump through burning hoops to get tickets.

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No, you're a supporter. You go to games and support your team and Club financially. A fan doesn't, by my interpretation of the two terms.

what does "in the blood" mean to you, then? I thought it meant an inherited trait, so in this context being an arsenal supporter would be 'in his blood' if his dad, granddad, etc had all supported them too, which isn't the case.

Parade.

An anniversary is a big deal to her and her husband. It's not a special occasion for anyone else.

Are you taking a gift? 😑

What if he lives somewhere like Scunthorpe and nowhere near London and therefore couldn't get to weekly games even if he wanted to?

You do know you are allowed to support a club you don't live near, right?

Also, Arsenal have the most expensive season tickets in the league. Not everyone can afford them.

That still doesn't mean he's not a supporter.

Just to add to my previous comment..Im more inclined to think your wedding anniversary lunch should absolutely be just the two of you..a definite excuse not to have the family round!

Im a Leeds United fan and I would definitely be at a parade even on my own wedding anniversary

It's ridiculously rude to pull out of an event after accepting the invitation, so I think DH needs to be man of his word and stick to his existing plans.

Don't understand all the fuss about some grown men kicking a ball around.

He doesn't support them. He likes them.

Me and the many millions of other supporters of ALL Premiership, Championship, Leagues one and two and non-league clubs that don't go to games will have to disagree with you!

Because it really is just your interpretation.

I think he is rude if he doesn't go as it's lunch with family albeit that a tenth anniversary celebration is a bit out there. He accepted the terms of engagement and now wants to renege for a better offer.