AIBU to think using their voucher only on their share was rude?

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We were invited out to dinner with friends at the weekend.They planned to visit a particular restaurant and asked if we’d like to go along.
We had a nice enough meal, couple bottles of wine, liqueurs. All quite pleasant for a Friday night.
When the bill arrived one of our friends presented a voucher and asked for the bill to be halved and the voucher taken off theirs. The waiter seemed slightly bemused and repeated back the request. Our friend repeated and clarified they wanted the bill split and the voucher taken off their half.
I almost died of second hand mortification. Is this not CF of the highest order?! I wouldn’t dream of doing this when I invited people out. If I was that skint, I’d use the voucher as a couple and
not invite others along.
For the record, I have been out for a meal previously with them where I have had a voucher and I had the voucher taken off the whole bill and split the remainder.
Cannot believe the brass neck, it has put me off going out with them again. Massively embarrassed on their behalf, not sure why, they didn’t seem to be!!

I’m so confused at all the posters thinking they’re entitled to half of a friends gift

I went on a holiday with a friend last year, my birthday present from my parents was a contribution towards the trip and I used that to pay my share of the hotel. I’d have found it very strange if my friend expected half of it! And I’m sure if she had and I’d have posted a thread most posters would be calling her tight and entitled.

And you are ‘mortified’ for them

If it's a cash value voucher then that's the same thing as cash, why would they share that?
I see you have previously shared yours, so that's different, but in usual circumstances a cash voucher is seen as cash.
If I got a £100 as a birthday present, why would I pay for another couples meal?
If I have a discount % voucher, of course everyone would benefit.

I thought you meant a money off voucher like the ones you get emailed sometimes. That would be really tight/ embarrassing. But a gift voucher which you are basically using instead of card or cash? I think that’s fine.

This.
If they had a voucher that they didnt wish to share... don't invite people out to dine with you.

No £275-£150 voucher =£125.00 roughly divided by two with tip = £70 each

the petrol issue is separate

it could have been worked out with a little conversation like “do you mind if we halve the petrol or take it off the bill”

But how is it any different to them having cash or credit card? Why is the fact they have been given a gift card mean they have to share it out amongst everyone? If it was a cash gift for them would they expect the same? Why not?

It’s mega tight OP.
I would judge them.

In the olden times restaurants you could get vouchers in papers like buy one get one free, if it was one of those, then they should all be shared.

If someone actually paid £100 for the voucher, then you shouldn’t expect a windfall of £50 from it.

It really isn’t any different than a prepaid card.

this thread should go in classics

The level of entitlement of some people is on another level. I love how everyone is always generous with other people money, much less with their own.

I am guessing if you inherit - it must be shared
if you make a profit on a sale - it must be shared

only the cash you earned by going down the mine , you are entitled to keep 😂

Waiting for someone to pop up saying the friends earn more because they were gifted a private education, so they should also pick up the bill

If we are going to such ridiculous levels about "sharing a bounty", let's 😂😂

Why would it matter. You don't need to know whether your friends are paying with cash or card or a gift voucher.

So can I check I’m understanding this right? Most pp on this thread would think it totally reasonable to accept a friend part paying for their meal with a voucher on one occasion, and then when they had a voucher on another occasion, to use it only on their own meal?

People would think this was reasonable behaviour???

😂😂😂

😂😂😂

and if they had swapped the voucher for cash with someone else first, and used that cash to pay the bill, would that be acceptable to you? 😂

I'd use the voucher across all the meals, not just ours.

But I don't think it's rude or cheeky fuckery NOT to, at all.

It's generous to share it, yes. But it's absolutely perfectly fine not to. If someone gave them a voucher as a gift, fair play. It's theirs to do as they wish.

If it's a voucher for money off then that's no different to paying cash, and should go towards their share. We got a voucher for Christmas and used it at a group meal to pay for ours (we actually had £4 left so said just take it off theirs, I know it's not much but every little helps, right?) and it never crossed my mind that I should pay for someone else's meal with it. My parents gave us the voucher for our Christmas present!

It's nobody's business how they pay their bill but the restaurant's.

Vouchers are given as compensation for bad experience things like a bad meal and so on or a reward for the guest. Expecting personal compensation or a personal reward to be shared is rude AF.

I think OP and the people expecting personal compensation or rewards to be shared with them are the cheap ones.

It's not a voucher it's a gift card. What difference does it make?

You would have had the same food and drink and enjoyed their company the same and paid the same amount regardless. Just say they presented the voucher when you went to the toilet? You'd be none the wiser.

They didn't invite you for a discounted meal. They invited you to a regular meal you were expecting to fully pay your share for.

I would say that your friends have no class.

If they don't want to share their voucher they should not have chosen that restaurant.

Alternatively they should at least have declared what they were about to do before booking.

I would find what they did hard to forget and not feel generously disposed to them in the future, for example if they asked for a favour.

If a percentage off total bill voucher - use for all as makes no difference to their total. I’ve used these in a group.

if it was a gift card type voucher then it’s like their own cash and has no bearing on your share. It would be like having a cash gift from someone and giving some away to you.

Why shouldn’t they use it for themselves if a gift?

if percentage off for everyone that’s weird but otherwise definitely not!

I hate bill splitters that want to pay half when I’ve probably not had as much or as expensive things as the other. People order to their budget, why should they have to chip in if you want the fancy stuff and they can’t afford it.

Context of the type of voucher is EVERYTHING here. First scenario YANBU. Second scenario YANVVU.

Yes. The voucher in this case is essentially a cash proxy. It's not a discount code from the Daily Mail. It's cash in a different format.

So yes. Couple A choose to use their cash proxy to pay more for a meal. That's lovely and generous of them.

Couple B split their half of the bill between card and their cash proxy voucher. That's entirely reasonable.

It isn't rude or unreasonable to pay your half, your way.

You sound horrid OP. I don’t think you like your “friend” very much. You sound highly unpleasant.

I have a voucher for a restaurant and I’ve invited my friend. I’ll be putting it to the total so that we both pay a bit less, but I know she will say “oh no, keep it for your half”, or if I did just use it for my half she wouldn’t bat an eyelid.

We actually like each other and will be going for a meal to enjoy each other’s company.

I agree with this. What difference does it make to you how they pay for their half of the meal? Why do they have to subsidise you?

It depends on the ‘deal’ doesn’t it. They might not be like for like. If I have % off I’m going to share if, if my friends next time has a gift card I would not expect to share it.