AIBU to think using their voucher only on their share was rude?

[Dinnerdrama]

We were invited out to dinner with friends at the weekend.They planned to visit a particular restaurant and asked if we’d like to go along.
We had a nice enough meal, couple bottles of wine, liqueurs. All quite pleasant for a Friday night.
When the bill arrived one of our friends presented a voucher and asked for the bill to be halved and the voucher taken off theirs. The waiter seemed slightly bemused and repeated back the request. Our friend repeated and clarified they wanted the bill split and the voucher taken off their half.
I almost died of second hand mortification. Is this not CF of the highest order?! I wouldn’t dream of doing this when I invited people out. If I was that skint, I’d use the voucher as a couple and
not invite others along.
For the record, I have been out for a meal previously with them where I have had a voucher and I had the voucher taken off the whole bill and split the remainder.
Cannot believe the brass neck, it has put me off going out with them again. Massively embarrassed on their behalf, not sure why, they didn’t seem to be!!

They can use their voucher however they choose and you're unreasonable to expect them to use it for your dinner too. Just because you shared yours in the past doesn't mean they have to do it now.

I mean, I don't think I could gather enough angst to go around asking as many people as you seem to have done AND the internet.

they invited you for your company. they used a voucher they'd presumably been gifted as a gift off their meal. it might not be great etiquette but it's not like it cost you any more than you expected

There is a huge difference.

So some people see it. Which I why I wouldn't be as offended as OP. For me they are the same and I can't imagine not using them the same.

the difference is a 20% off the meal saves them £10 off their £50 bill whether they share it or not, so might as well. a £20 voucher saves them £20 and was likely a gift at some point. it reduces its value to them if they share it. maybe they needed to use the voucher to cover the meal.

But they aren't are they?

If you have a 20% off coupon then that should be shared.

I could go in Nando's today upload £50 on my prepaid card and that's essentially no different to using a debit card when paying is it?

i think this is cheeky, particularly if they insisted upon that restaurant and it was one you might not otherwise visit.

Did you assume that them asking you to join them meant they were paying?

Oh I’m not offended. I am just mortified for them. And all the people on here who would do the same. Funny how different folk are. I just would not dream of behaving like this.

It would be great if you could clarify the type of voucher OP.

I don’t see the problem here either. I’ve experienced this myself and it didn’t occur to me to think it rude. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I understand that. I just wouldn't invite someone to share a meal then not share the benefit of paying less. If I didn't want to share that benefit I would go on my own.

Still not offended that others see it differently.

It’s just another payment method if it’s a £20 or whatever voucher. If they’d said ‘Can I pay £20 cash and £20 on card’ then presumably you wouldn’t think anything of it. If someone said ‘Oh I got a voucher for my birthday so going to pay mine with that’ I wouldn’t mind that and wouldn’t expect them to split it.

If it was one of those Pizza Express style vouchers which is a percent discount for everyone then I would use that for the whole party.

I think it’s tight as they were the ones who invited you so this was part of their plan. Was there a minimum spend to be able to use the voucher? I would wonder if you were invited to bring the total spend up to the minimum for their benefit only.

Would you dream of answering the question?

I understand what people are saying about it being effectively cash but I wouldn't do it. I'd go with just my partner and use it together rather than eith other people. A friend of my had a voucher for an expensive restaurant and she asked me to go with her because the voucher was going to expire and she didn't want to go on her own. Then she used the voucher for her meal and I had a large bill. Next time she got a voucher for the same place I declined the invite!

If you’re expecting them to subside YOUR MEAL with a gift voucher that they were given as a present, you’re definitely a Cheeky Fucker!

I'm mortified for you, thinking that another couple should subsidize you dinner!

I’d probably be very offended if it was something like - down put for four and get two meals free - meaning they needed you to get their discount - very out of order

if just a gift card no

why did you share yours?

But you expect someone else to pay for some of your food for you, why?

I'm more confused that you assumed they were paying your share of the bill?

I dont get it. If i had been gifted a £50 voucher for my local italian and went with a friend id use that for my share... its my gift so surely im just paying for my share with my gift?
If i had a 25% off the bill type promotion I probably WOULD put that onto the whole bill. As thats not a gift given to me by say my mum or friends etc

As previously answered I thought it was obvious.

An example would be: bill was £270
They had voucher for £100.
They paid £35
We paid £135

They would have been better going out to enjoy their voucher as a couple.

The one you shared was that a gift card or a different offer like a fixed discount ?

Why?