AIBU to think using their voucher only on their share was rude?

[Dinnerdrama]

We were invited out to dinner with friends at the weekend.They planned to visit a particular restaurant and asked if we’d like to go along.
We had a nice enough meal, couple bottles of wine, liqueurs. All quite pleasant for a Friday night.
When the bill arrived one of our friends presented a voucher and asked for the bill to be halved and the voucher taken off theirs. The waiter seemed slightly bemused and repeated back the request. Our friend repeated and clarified they wanted the bill split and the voucher taken off their half.
I almost died of second hand mortification. Is this not CF of the highest order?! I wouldn’t dream of doing this when I invited people out. If I was that skint, I’d use the voucher as a couple and
not invite others along.
For the record, I have been out for a meal previously with them where I have had a voucher and I had the voucher taken off the whole bill and split the remainder.
Cannot believe the brass neck, it has put me off going out with them again. Massively embarrassed on their behalf, not sure why, they didn’t seem to be!!

What is the difference between a voucher and a money off?

So how much would you have paid if they hadn't had a voucher?

And what the helly has Britney Spears got to do with it?

So?

The fuck are you talking about ? We had exactly the same situation. Gift vouchers for a restaurant. It is not that complicated.

It clearly is for you who wanted their voucher or a share of it. Grabby as.pay for your meal. End of.

OP, yanbu.
I would be mortified to have found out people i spend time with are so low class.
They had desert and extra wine and then did this?
These are people you have entertained in your home?
I really would be appalled at such vulgarity.
I would be so done.

I didn’t say people don’t show generosity though? I said it’s crass to expect others to pay for your meal.

you said you had a voucher.

No need to get snippy

But it IS a method of payment, a gift card won’t be different from cash or card. So you’re saying you’re embarrassed by how someone is paying for their share? It’s not a “discount” it’s a method of payment. If they had a cash gift to pay towards their half would you also expect them to discount your meal? Or just if that cash is loaded onto a pre paid card you expect to share their money?

Wow! You wanted to help yourself to £50 of their money and you're embarassed for them?

Or to put it another way, you ordered and ate £135 worth of food and only wanted to pay £85, and you're embarrassed for them?

Or looking at it another way, you think the split bill should have cost you £85 and cost them £185, and you're embarrassed for them?

Seriously OP, you're the CF here.

for those like OP who are struggling to work out the difference.

Voucher - something free than can be printed off or accumulated, card points etc.
Vouchers themselves have no cash value and usually can only be redeemed once as an offer under certain circumstances.
Vouchers or discount vouchers can never be exchanged for cash.

Gift card - prepaid cash, like a credit card but paid in advance rather than in arrears. Can be used multiple times until the monetary value is zero. Gift cards can sometimes be exchanged for cash less a commission.

In your eyes! I simply disagree. It is a way of paying part of the bill by having that amount removed from the bill. Therefore in my opinion it is a discount. It is £100 I do not have to pay. Whether that is because someone gave me £100 on a gift card for that restaurant or someone emailed me a QR code that contained a £100 discount it is all the same TO ME.

Therefore I would be embarrassed not to share that discount.

You are free to see it differently, as am I.

Yes, because the only way to ever demonstrate this quality is in bill splitting and the sharing of vouchers.

I think its fine as ifs same as cash. Why should your share be paid with their presumably bday voucher? It’s fine

What you're describing is the opposite of the OP.

You describe yourself as being generous, yet you are adamant they should pay for your food and throw your toys out of the pram when they didn’t. Classy.

That’s an odd mindset. I guess you could argue the same for any money one has/

Not so loquacious now all of a sudden...

So if someone had a cash gift you’d be happy for them to pay for their own share? If that cash gift is on a card you expect half of it?

Not really. Because random money is that. A gift voucher for a specific place is just that. It is money off at that specific place.

Why would you comment that instead of answering the question?
Why do you think it matters if someone has pre-paid (or someone else has pre-paid for them) before the night of the dinner?
Why would that mean they now should give their friends £50?

But it’s a gift someone has given them. You’re saying you expect people to share cash gifts with you it’s a very weird attitude! I’d be embarrassed for a friend who expected me to share my gifts with them like this.

I don't expect anything of others. I would be a bit surprised if someone did what OP's friends did but not offended.

I would expect to do that myself and share the discount yes. Cash isn't the same. You can spend cash anywhere.

Nope, not expecting others as I've said repeatedly. It is what I would do because that is how it would feel to me

It's not a discount. Someone has paid for it. Do you call all of your gifts discounts?