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Is Andy Burnham reasonable to say only a small minority of women object to men being in their toilets? YABU he's right, YANBU he's wrong *titled tweaked by MNHQ at OP's request*

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SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 20/05/2026 09:39

https://www.dailymail.com/news/article-15830845/Andy-Burnham-men-identify-women-use-female-toilets.html

'I don't think that's a majority view. I think it's a minority view and quite a small minority view, actually. But it is a view so you can't completely ignore it. Possibly they might be women who have experienced male violence at some point in their life. I don't know, that's one way of looking at it.'

Andy Burnham backs men who identify as female using women's toilets

The Greater Manchester mayor said the idea that single sex spaces like toilets should be protected for biological women was a 'minority view'.

https://www.dailymail.com/news/article-15830845/Andy-Burnham-men-identify-women-use-female-toilets.html

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ScrollingLeaves · 20/05/2026 14:54

S1894PCohen · 20/05/2026 14:46

Not all “gender-neutral” lavs are created equal btw. I blundered into one in Manchester recently, thinking it would all be lockable cubicles. Er, nope. It was a row of urinals (complete with a couple of men having a piss) which you had to walk past to get to one cubicle at the end - so basically, a men’s loo. Horrified, I went straight back out to check I wasn’t actually in the men’s - but there was indeed an all genders sign on the door 😳

Unbelievable. How horrible.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 20/05/2026 14:54

To whichever member of Andy's team is monitoring this post - hi!

Do listen, and pass on the views of 51% of your constituency to be.

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SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 20/05/2026 14:56

Beer3000 · 20/05/2026 14:53

I don't think that Andy Burnham likes women. He is a man's man, and I think when he thinks of how he appeals to "voters" he is not even thinking about women.

He completely talked down to Yvette Cooper during a previous leadership campaign debate, which put me off him for life. Regardless of what you think about Nicola Sturgeon, he was completely disrespectful to her position during covid, also.

I have to admit though - I can't get worked up about public toilets. I would far rather share female toilets with transwomen than unisex toilets with men, which is where the alternative is heading. The two incidents I can think of locally with attacks in public toilets were 1) a woman being raped by a man in female toilets - the sign on the door didn't stop him. 2) a young boy being raped in male toilets. It just doesn't seem safe for women, transwomen, transmen or children to have to share toilets with men. In an ideal world, there would be ample unisex "other" facilities, for families, trans people, accessibility issues not covered by a blue badge, etc in additional to male and female only, but it's just not pragmatic in the short term at least.

But that is exactly the mistake: treating “transwomen” as a separate safe category from men.

Women’s toilets exist because of sex, not because signs magically stop rapists. The point is not that a sign creates a forcefield. The point is that women and girls are entitled to a clear boundary, and staff/police/security need a clear rule to enforce.

Once you say some males may enter female toilets if they identify a certain way, you have removed the boundary for all practical purposes.

The answer is not mixed-sex toilets. It is male, female, and additional single-user provision for anyone who needs privacy, accessibility, family use or neutrality.

Women should not be asked to give up single-sex spaces because public bodies failed to provide enough third spaces.

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BridgetPhillipsonIsACowardlyJobsworth · 20/05/2026 14:57

ScrollingLeaves · 20/05/2026 14:44

I saw someone saying they hoped Keir would not publish the guidance (EHCR I presume) and hoped Andy would bury it.

I have absolute faith that if Labour, including Keir, Bridget, and Andy, can quietly bury all future mention and knowledge of the guidance, they will.

BIossomtoes · 20/05/2026 14:57

Northermcharn · 20/05/2026 14:49

No but you stated that 'current polling indicates that he'll [Burnham] win'. Which is woefully misguided. Polling doesn't tell us anything really, we all know this by now (don't we?). If you knew / understood that area, you'd understand more how his chances of winning, aren't great.

I imagine More in Common has a better grasp of the situation than some random who happens to be local.

Gloriia · 20/05/2026 14:58

Northermcharn · 20/05/2026 14:53

He still keeps Mayor, if (when) he fails (again)

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He's Llke Mr Ben. What next Andy maybe a bit of telly presenting if the new Strictly presenters don't prove popular, or a stint as Ambassador to the US? Weren't they looking for someone 🤔

MrTiddlesTheCat · 20/05/2026 14:58

He's kind of right, in that only a small minority of women object to men being in women's spaces. But he's wrong in his interpretation of that. He doesn't understand that it's because the majority are too intimidated by violent males to speak out. Silence does not equal support.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 20/05/2026 14:58

BIossomtoes · 20/05/2026 14:57

I imagine More in Common has a better grasp of the situation than some random who happens to be local.

And they reckon its a coin toss.

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Gloriia · 20/05/2026 14:59

BIossomtoes · 20/05/2026 14:57

I imagine More in Common has a better grasp of the situation than some random who happens to be local.

'Some random' @Northermcharn Grin

Daleksatemyshed · 20/05/2026 14:59

The Labour party was a dead cert for the last election, not because people really wanted them but because anything was supposed to be better than Boris and his pack of old Etonians. Now people are losing faith in them already and they're afraid to do anything radical incase it makes things worse. I'd have a little more respect for them if they'd actually stand up and declare themselves, as it is I feel they're just saying what they think we want to hear whilst quietly doing as they like

nicepotoftea · 20/05/2026 15:00

Beer3000 · 20/05/2026 14:53

I don't think that Andy Burnham likes women. He is a man's man, and I think when he thinks of how he appeals to "voters" he is not even thinking about women.

He completely talked down to Yvette Cooper during a previous leadership campaign debate, which put me off him for life. Regardless of what you think about Nicola Sturgeon, he was completely disrespectful to her position during covid, also.

I have to admit though - I can't get worked up about public toilets. I would far rather share female toilets with transwomen than unisex toilets with men, which is where the alternative is heading. The two incidents I can think of locally with attacks in public toilets were 1) a woman being raped by a man in female toilets - the sign on the door didn't stop him. 2) a young boy being raped in male toilets. It just doesn't seem safe for women, transwomen, transmen or children to have to share toilets with men. In an ideal world, there would be ample unisex "other" facilities, for families, trans people, accessibility issues not covered by a blue badge, etc in additional to male and female only, but it's just not pragmatic in the short term at least.

How are you distinguishing between transwomen and men?

On what grounds would you be excluding a man from a woman's toilet?

From what it sounds like you are suggesting unisex toilets, but with no consideration that they might put women at risk because nobody is acknowledging that they are unisex.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 20/05/2026 15:01

nicepotoftea · 20/05/2026 15:00

How are you distinguishing between transwomen and men?

On what grounds would you be excluding a man from a woman's toilet?

From what it sounds like you are suggesting unisex toilets, but with no consideration that they might put women at risk because nobody is acknowledging that they are unisex.

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pretty dress and wiggle their bum.

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Gloriia · 20/05/2026 15:01

'I would far rather share female toilets with transwomen than unisex toilets with men'

Transwomen are men?

7in1Pond · 20/05/2026 15:03

I'm fine with it. However I know that not all women are and am aware that my views aren't what determines what's right.

ThatCyanCat · 20/05/2026 15:05

I would far rather share female toilets with transwomen than unisex toilets with men

They're the same thing. That's the point. It's just that only one has an honest and accurate description.

Monty36 · 20/05/2026 15:07

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 20/05/2026 14:51

LBC just played the unedited audio recording...

They will be no different to the Daily Fail.

allthingsinmoderation · 20/05/2026 15:08

Bridgertonisbest · 20/05/2026 10:46

I have experienced all manner of sexual and non sexual violence from men. No, not an ex sex worker but merely grew up working class!

I couldn’t give a toss who’s in the next cubicle of the loos to me. None of the men who have assaulted me were dressed as a woman. Men have never needed to dress as women to attack them. Almost all the men that attacked me were known to me/family.

i would suggest that the ons figures are vastly under represented. Amongst my friends, it’s more like 1 in 6 NOT assaulted.

My daughter was videod under a toilet cubicle and my neice pushed into a floor to ceiling toilet cubicle and raped,i was Sexually assaulted (also working class no sex work) 3 times by males. I don't know the gender identity of any of the males who violated me,my daughter or my niece. I dont' think that males attack women and girls where ever they damn well please is a cogent argument for not allowing some female single sex spaces ie:toilets.
Males in stereotypically feminine clothing remain male and so do their offending patterns (see ONS for violent/sexual crime stats).

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 20/05/2026 15:09

Happyjoe · 20/05/2026 14:41

Going by Maggie and Lettuce, does that matter and is it a result from discrimination? Best person for the job please, not because of their sex.

So the best person for the job of Labour leader has always been a man? I find that unlikely.

BridgetPhillipsonIsACowardlyJobsworth · 20/05/2026 15:10

Beer3000 · 20/05/2026 14:53

I don't think that Andy Burnham likes women. He is a man's man, and I think when he thinks of how he appeals to "voters" he is not even thinking about women.

He completely talked down to Yvette Cooper during a previous leadership campaign debate, which put me off him for life. Regardless of what you think about Nicola Sturgeon, he was completely disrespectful to her position during covid, also.

I have to admit though - I can't get worked up about public toilets. I would far rather share female toilets with transwomen than unisex toilets with men, which is where the alternative is heading. The two incidents I can think of locally with attacks in public toilets were 1) a woman being raped by a man in female toilets - the sign on the door didn't stop him. 2) a young boy being raped in male toilets. It just doesn't seem safe for women, transwomen, transmen or children to have to share toilets with men. In an ideal world, there would be ample unisex "other" facilities, for families, trans people, accessibility issues not covered by a blue badge, etc in additional to male and female only, but it's just not pragmatic in the short term at least.

This just reads like another one of those "I'm as GC as the next person, but..." posts.

Men who identify as women are still male, you understand that, right?

And single-sex toilets based on actual, biological sex worked well enough until about 10-15 years ago. No policing necessary. Yes, they had all the problems that public toilets have, but we all knew who the men were and who the women were.

It's fairly simple to get back to the way things were in 2012: people in authority just need to start using their words. Let's start with "no" to entitled, toddler-identifying men.

ThatCyanCat · 20/05/2026 15:10

Monty36 · 20/05/2026 15:07

They will be no different to the Daily Fail.

How does that change the fact it's an unedited recording?

And if Burnham has since changed his position, how will that prevent him from making a new public statement to say so?

BridgetPhillipsonIsACowardlyJobsworth · 20/05/2026 15:11

Monty36 · 20/05/2026 15:07

They will be no different to the Daily Fail.

Do you always ignore the truth if it comes from a source you'd rather not acknowledge?

tachetastic · 20/05/2026 15:11

The vote is not quite as unanimous as I expected (I said happily).

As for his actual comment? Oh dear. 🙄

Gillydoller · 20/05/2026 15:12

Monty36 · 20/05/2026 15:07

They will be no different to the Daily Fail.

Are you saying that they’ve doctored the recording?

CoffeeCantata · 20/05/2026 15:12

I hope I've voted correctly, OP. I've voted YANBU because this quote from AB is arrogant and patronising and worries me considerably!

Gloriia · 20/05/2026 15:12

Monty36 · 20/05/2026 15:07

They will be no different to the Daily Fail.

Are you suggesting it's fake or has been altered to make out that he said women's opinions didn't matter?

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