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Is Andy Burnham reasonable to say only a small minority of women object to men being in their toilets? YABU he's right, YANBU he's wrong *titled tweaked by MNHQ at OP's request*

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SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 20/05/2026 09:39

https://www.dailymail.com/news/article-15830845/Andy-Burnham-men-identify-women-use-female-toilets.html

'I don't think that's a majority view. I think it's a minority view and quite a small minority view, actually. But it is a view so you can't completely ignore it. Possibly they might be women who have experienced male violence at some point in their life. I don't know, that's one way of looking at it.'

Andy Burnham backs men who identify as female using women's toilets

The Greater Manchester mayor said the idea that single sex spaces like toilets should be protected for biological women was a 'minority view'.

https://www.dailymail.com/news/article-15830845/Andy-Burnham-men-identify-women-use-female-toilets.html

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SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 20/05/2026 14:45

ScrollingLeaves · 20/05/2026 14:44

I saw someone saying they hoped Keir would not publish the guidance (EHCR I presume) and hoped Andy would bury it.

Word on the streets says tomorrow :D

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Happyjoe · 20/05/2026 14:45

BananaPeels · 20/05/2026 14:43

Which is why I am surprised they Seek to undo all the good work by saying TWAW. It undoes a huge amount of these things if you can no longer define a woman. In Australia, in effect, they no longer have a sex discrimination Act becuase of this

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We won't have it anyway, good ol' Nige will get rid of all of it when he gets into power.

S1894PCohen · 20/05/2026 14:46

CovenOfCheeses · 20/05/2026 13:54

Why is this still a thing apart from to cause division. I work in a place with mix gendered toilets and it is not a problem. You can use any toilet and lock the door and you can be any gender you like. Why is this a thing?

You know when public toilets were created, they only had men’s convienences which trapped women from travelling. We have more to struggle against that the odd person who identifies as a woman relieving themselves in a public convenience.

Not all “gender-neutral” lavs are created equal btw. I blundered into one in Manchester recently, thinking it would all be lockable cubicles. Er, nope. It was a row of urinals (complete with a couple of men having a piss) which you had to walk past to get to one cubicle at the end - so basically, a men’s loo. Horrified, I went straight back out to check I wasn’t actually in the men’s - but there was indeed an all genders sign on the door 😳

InterestedDad37 · 20/05/2026 14:46

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 20/05/2026 12:01

I don't care. This is about Burnham.

We have on tape Burnham saying that effectively women's rights don't matter and anyone who's says they do is a biggot.

He can fuck off.

In the "who's the biggest bigot?" stakes, I think Farage wins, hands down 😂😂😂
(though he can probably spell it correctly 👍)

Bushmillsbabe · 20/05/2026 14:46

Happyjoe · 20/05/2026 14:37

Labour- passed Sex Discrimination act, and Equal Pay act. Statutory maternity pay starting from day one of a job, also made companies expect flexible working. National min wage, benefitted women more because women were the majority of low paid workers.
Online sagely act to protect women and girls, to protect against explicit deepfakes and disgusting male behaviour.
Brought in stronger rules against menopause discrimination and better care for baby loss.
Labour brought down the VAT on sanitary products (lowest it could go through EU laws) before it was scrapped, under pressure, from a Labour MP once we left the EU.
Started breakfast clubs, free in primary schools to help parents, and a lot of mums.
Labour were the first to have female MP's and went on to address the imbalance representing us in parliament.
Are bringing in anti-misogyny education and behavioural courses for teenage boys in schools to tackle the violence against women and girls from an earlier age.

Am sure there are more.

Cheers.

What percentage of schools gave actually got these free breakfast clubs? I don't know of any in our area. This was one of the main reasons I voted for them at the last election, that and the promise to increase school funding. Let down on both counts - our school has had to terminate the contracts of 4 TA's as the end of this year due to reduced funding - all women.

Remind me how many female leaders and pm's Labour have had? None that I know of - they'll have them in to tick a box sure, but let them run the party - not a chance

BIossomtoes · 20/05/2026 14:46

Fadingall · 20/05/2026 14:44

I heard its predicted to be close. This is a brexit voting area and AB is a TWAW Remainer. I don't think anyone can be certain who will win this.

I agree. According to More in Common the latest polling shows a Burnham win in a tight contest. That was before the Reform candidate’s racist social media was uncovered though.

nicepotoftea · 20/05/2026 14:47

Hopefulsalmon · 20/05/2026 14:39

I'm GC but I really don't think this is the massive issue outside of Mumsnet that some seem to think it is. It also wouldn't be the key deciding factor of who I'd choose to vote for.

It's not just about toilets.

It's about honesty and competence.

I'm expecting him to take the Starmer line that he will support the Supreme Court Judgement and women's sports but that he also supports trans rights, and then he will hope that nobody ever asks him about the subject again, which won't be enough for some but would be better than nothing.

However, if he takes the SNP/Green line that women are just an idea in a man's head, then I don't see how anyone could take him seriously on anything.

Northermcharn · 20/05/2026 14:49

BIossomtoes · 20/05/2026 14:40

I don’t need to be to know the results of the last mayoral election. Obviously if I was I’d have voted for him.

No but you stated that 'current polling indicates that he'll [Burnham] win'. Which is woefully misguided. Polling doesn't tell us anything really, we all know this by now (don't we?). If you knew / understood that area, you'd understand more how his chances of winning, aren't great.

MrsLeonFarrell · 20/05/2026 14:49

If he thinks only a minority of women have experienced male violence Jess Philips should have a word with him.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 20/05/2026 14:50

NetZeroZealot · 20/05/2026 14:33

You think this thread is going to change the outcome of the by-election? Or have I misundertood.
😂😂😂

Hmm. I mean - a few votes yes? There is no doubt someone in that constituency who will read tis and change their mind

Bt - I reckon WAY MORE PEOPLE will be reading the DAILY MAIL FRONT PAGE and the Times - right?

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/andy-burnham-trans-rights-makerfield-by-election-jc367d3tx

https://www.dailymail.com/news/article-15830845/Andy-Burnham-men-identify-women-use-female-toilets.html

https://x.com/DuncanBannatyne/status/2057028528776900865

Yes I DO think this will change the numbers....

Andy Burnham: Trans women should be able to use female toilets

The Labour leadership favourite, who is running in the Makerfield by-election, was speaking at a meeting in Manchester in 2022

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/andy-burnham-trans-rights-makerfield-by-election-jc367d3tx

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Happyjoe · 20/05/2026 14:51

Bushmillsbabe · 20/05/2026 14:46

What percentage of schools gave actually got these free breakfast clubs? I don't know of any in our area. This was one of the main reasons I voted for them at the last election, that and the promise to increase school funding. Let down on both counts - our school has had to terminate the contracts of 4 TA's as the end of this year due to reduced funding - all women.

Remind me how many female leaders and pm's Labour have had? None that I know of - they'll have them in to tick a box sure, but let them run the party - not a chance

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When am told Labour do nothing for women, then I will say not true in response. Cheers.

ScrollingLeaves · 20/05/2026 14:51

Fleurdavril · 20/05/2026 14:40

Andy Burnham should not be speaking so cavalierly about or on behalf of women as a group and he should get his facts straight. This bathroom issue is one facet of a highly sensitive, much wider debate, as he should know, and nobody in public office should wade into it so boldly and so uninformed. Possibly he believes his (implied) opinion will carry the majority of women voters with him. I suspect not.

Many women and girls are feeling under attack from groups lobbying to erode their rights. Prisons, refuges, sports, changing rooms, language around pregnancy and motherhood - all accepted norms are being challenged. See the recent verdict on a women-only app in Australia.

Andy Burnham would do well to be quiet. The court made its judgement on the legal definition of a woman and it's not for him to question its validity. There is much to be worked out so that all sectors are considered and feel safe. There is no room for hatred, violence and discrimination. This does not mean one sector should be forced to relinquish its rights to another. Solutions are available which would suit the vast majority of people. But women's rights should not be used as pawns.

Well said.

This bathroom issue is one facet of a highly sensitive, much wider debate, as he should know, and nobody in public office should wade into it so boldly and so uninformed. Possibly he believes his (implied) opinion will carry the majority of women voters with him. I suspect not.

This is so true. It is just one facet of of a much wider set of concerns.

Northermcharn · 20/05/2026 14:51

Gloriia · 20/05/2026 14:43

I remember his performance in covid, standing on the steps of some building making announcements, pretending to have only just received some gov news about tiers for his area. He was up there with Sturgeon for loving the limelight that the whole tragic mess brought.

He really is insufferable. Think I'd rather have Angie making a pigs ear out of the country than him.

Oh God, Burnham, Rayner, and Krankie in one post. I can't bear it 😂

Monty36 · 20/05/2026 14:51

It is the Daily Mail. So whether the quote is entirely accurate I don’t know. They are not going to favour Andy Burnham at all. Whether edited etc…

Zimunya · 20/05/2026 14:51

Happyjoe · 20/05/2026 14:41

Going by Maggie and Lettuce, does that matter and is it a result from discrimination? Best person for the job please, not because of their sex.

Have they really never had a woman who was the best person for the job, in all these years? Seems unlikely.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 20/05/2026 14:51

InterestedDad37 · 20/05/2026 14:46

In the "who's the biggest bigot?" stakes, I think Farage wins, hands down 😂😂😂
(though he can probably spell it correctly 👍)

Feel free to make that argument on another thread, you'll need some good proof.

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AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/05/2026 14:51

Northermcharn · 20/05/2026 14:18

Yes. And not only that. I want a personal space with no men. Because I want a personal space with no men. I don't need to justify it with anything. Just women and girls only. No men. It really shouldn't be difficult. And it hasn't been difficult until very recently.

Exactly this. I don’t need a reason. All my male colleagues are great, I still don’t want to piss next to them, locked cubicle or not.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 20/05/2026 14:51

Monty36 · 20/05/2026 14:51

It is the Daily Mail. So whether the quote is entirely accurate I don’t know. They are not going to favour Andy Burnham at all. Whether edited etc…

LBC just played the unedited audio recording...

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Gloriia · 20/05/2026 14:51

Can he pop back to his mayor job if his fake by election fails or is that it, curtains?

Northermcharn · 20/05/2026 14:52

Happyjoe · 20/05/2026 14:51

When am told Labour do nothing for women, then I will say not true in response. Cheers.

Well Labour tell us men can be women. So in fact they do nothing for women, because women as a unique sex class don't exist to them.

Gloriia · 20/05/2026 14:52

Northermcharn · 20/05/2026 14:51

Oh God, Burnham, Rayner, and Krankie in one post. I can't bear it 😂

Grin
Northermcharn · 20/05/2026 14:53

Gloriia · 20/05/2026 14:51

Can he pop back to his mayor job if his fake by election fails or is that it, curtains?

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He still keeps Mayor, if (when) he fails (again)

Alucard55 · 20/05/2026 14:53

Ewox · 20/05/2026 13:39

Wow! Genuinely interesting to see these responses. Yes AB’s words re experiences of violence are clumsy, but personally (and I know amongst my girlfriends) I don’t have any issue with trans women using the same bathroom / changing room. Trans women have often been through a lot to get to where they feel they want to be, and I feel this focus on them (and a few pretenders) distracts from the real day to day issues of male violence towards women.

also - even worst some of my friends (non-feminine women) have been confronted by people as to why they’re in the toilet. This is hurtful and rude. If we remember that trans women are less that 1% of the Uk population and just let people use the toilet they feel most comfortable with then we can all crack on with our lives.

No they are men they can use the men's loos. Couldn't care less about what they've been through.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 20/05/2026 14:53

Northermcharn · 20/05/2026 14:53

He still keeps Mayor, if (when) he fails (again)

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Insufficient balls to quit...

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Beer3000 · 20/05/2026 14:53

I don't think that Andy Burnham likes women. He is a man's man, and I think when he thinks of how he appeals to "voters" he is not even thinking about women.

He completely talked down to Yvette Cooper during a previous leadership campaign debate, which put me off him for life. Regardless of what you think about Nicola Sturgeon, he was completely disrespectful to her position during covid, also.

I have to admit though - I can't get worked up about public toilets. I would far rather share female toilets with transwomen than unisex toilets with men, which is where the alternative is heading. The two incidents I can think of locally with attacks in public toilets were 1) a woman being raped by a man in female toilets - the sign on the door didn't stop him. 2) a young boy being raped in male toilets. It just doesn't seem safe for women, transwomen, transmen or children to have to share toilets with men. In an ideal world, there would be ample unisex "other" facilities, for families, trans people, accessibility issues not covered by a blue badge, etc in additional to male and female only, but it's just not pragmatic in the short term at least.

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