TBH if you're not a motivated self starter in mine, then don't expect to do well. Them's the breaks.
I was married well under 16, without choice. I dared to divorce. Neither your society or mine treated me well.
IMO when you're 14 or 16 and being pushed towards it, your already operating as an adult but loads of legal restrictions because of your age, so marriage looks like possible freedom, but when you're coming up to 18, and about to be legal for most things, it doesn't look quite the same. Least ways that's what I tell mine, especially the girls.
I'm pro give the chance to grow, and pro education, but we do better doing home education than suffering being at the bottom of the pile with the poor schooling that we're expected to accept, so I'm pro home education.
My point was about the idea that if you don't follow a particular system thjat most think is the right way, you can't get anywhere.
You wont see my culture on trash tv, and we don't want our kids influenced by it or schools laying their ideas of who we are and how we should be.