Concerns over neighbours lifestyle choices.

[HumbleHun]

So my neighbours teenage son has been smoking doobies in the garden with his parents consent. His father is a policeman and actually a firearms officer. I'm concerned that he may be using Ur at least getting high from the passive smoking. I want to report him to his superiors but DH is adamantly against it and says I'm being dramatic. Really between a rock and a hard place. AIBU if I report him?

Wow, some of the responses on this thread are just plain nasty.
Different circumstances but I once had neighbours who smoked cannabis in their own home and the stench of it stunk out my entire home. There was no escape from it, made me feel sick and opening windows in the didn’t clear it.
Police can’t or won’t do much about it especially when the people smoking cannabis say it’s for medical reasons.
I personally wouldn’t get involved OP. You have no evidence if policeman / firearms officer is using. If he is then he will get caught eventually.

Crimes related to cannabis consumption fall into two main categories: offenses directly committed due to intoxication and crimes committed by violating drug prohibition laws.

Direct Offenses Linked to Consumption
While cannabis typically has a calming effect, heavy, continued, or high-potency use can trigger severe negative effects that lead to criminal behavior.

Driving Under the Influence (DUI/DWD): Operating a motor vehicle while impaired by THC significantly impairs reaction times and cognitive function, making the driver highly susceptible to motor-vehicle accidents.

Psychosis and Violence: In some individuals, particularly youth and those with pre-existing mental health conditions, high-potency cannabis can induce temporary cannabis-induced psychosis. Neurological studies have linked chronic use to impaired decision-making centers in the brain, correlating with impulsive or violent offenses, including intimate partner violence.

Violations of Drug Laws - In many jurisdictions, the act of consuming, possessing, or cultivating cannabis itself remains a crime.

Possession and Use: In the UK, cannabis is a Class B drug. Possession is illegal and can lead to up to 5 years in prison, an unlimited fine, or both. Police may issue warnings or on-the-spot Penalty Notices for Disorder (PND) for minor, first-time offenses.

Supply and Production: Dealing, supplying, or commercially cultivating cannabis without a license is a serious offense carrying a maximum sentence of up to 14 years in prison.

"Gateway" and Acquisitive Crime
The necessity to fund drug habits or interact within illicit supply chains can lead to other crimes. Some studies suggest heavy, early adolescent use is linked to higher rates of acquisitive crime (such as shoplifting and property crime) and progression into harder, illegally sourced narcotics.

Understand the Laws and Guidelines:
For specific details on UK enforcement and legal limits, review the GOV.UK Drugs Penalties overview. To explore how drug policies affect broader crime rates, you can also consult the analysis provided by the NCBI on Cannabis and Violent Crime.

Ah OP this was a funny thread and good for you coming back and apologising.

i actually agree in part with you: I feel uncomfortable about a police officer allowing their DC to smoke weed. Whether you agree with the law or not is moot, it is illegal and the police don’t get to choose what they do/don’t enforce.

it shows a lack of judgment and I suspect that the police would be concerned about the activity.

You sound nice

Why don't you have a word with the father say when he's smoking in garden you cant let your kids out because of the smell.
In a roundabout way(I don't know how) tell his father in his position as a policeman it's a bit of a sham his son smokes weed,not very law abiding!!

So just admit that your concern isnt his father getting second hand high and going to work, it's you thinking your neighbourhood is too highbrow for the devils lettuce, Mrs Bucket.

Look - I wouldn't like the smell either, especially with children in the house or washing on the line. But I'd have a word about the smell neighbour to neighbour. If I was really that pissed off I'd probably raise an eyebrow and say "im surprised a police officer like yourself is happy with this?!"

To report him to his superiors at work, possibly triggering a suspension and ruining his life for several months - is a fucking insane over-reaction, because you dislike the smell of weed.

I wouldn’t be happy about it either, the stuff stinks and I’d expect better from a police officer, however if you report him he will find out it was you and could make your life hell so I’d ignore it.

Probably one of the funniest comment sections I’ve seen on MN 😂😂 the OP keep commenting ‘stop notifications, delete thread’ has made my day 😂😂 and my favourite is the OP saying she waits 48 hours after drinking a couple of glasses of wine before using an iron 😂😂😂😂

Just go round and speak to your neighbour. Is it that hard?

@HumbleHun Is doobie slang for weed? I hate the smell. You’re not overreacting. You’ve somehow attracted lots of people who use weed to your post. Im in my 20s and I don’t want the weed stench near my child.

OP you've learnt the hard way that MN is often not a caring nurturing community and when Mumsnetters get the bit between their teeth they really go for it! Sorry you were in the firing line during your first foray.
To answer your question, I don't think there's any risk from passive smoking so don't report him. It'll only make horrible trouble between you and your neighbours.
I too would be uncomfortable about a 16 year old smoking weed at home and am surprised his parents aren't discouraging it given the knowledge his dad will have.

There is no decision to be made, other than to butt out (no pun intended) unless you want to start a war with your neighbours. He’s smoking the weed outside in the fresh air so your chances of a passive ‘high’ are zero.

And ………..? The comment was that using cannabis isn’t a gateway to acquiring and using other drugs. The science supports that.

Could I just say that this has been the most fun I have ever had on here. Please don't delete this thread.

yes dramatic! Imagine you could ruin the guys career and could put him in hardship because his son smokes a joint. Even if he smokes when he finishes work no biggie.

Jesus Fuck. MN at its very worst...

Actually it's not a gateway drug.

It can be medicinal, that may be why his dad allows him to smoke it.

I personally hate the smell. If I was in the garden and smelt it I'd be pissed off but I'd have a word with the neighbours - he could smoke it in the shed for example but they may need an air handler to remove the smell.

As for reporting it, it is illegal unless medicinal and his dad could lose his job, so I think you're over reacting.

My son, in his 40s suffers from drug induced paranoia. He has spent several months sectioned in secure mental institutions, a situation I would not wish on anyone. He is now clean, we think, but he struggles to hold down a minimum wage job, struggles with relationships, and his life, which in his teens was promising, is in ruins. He started smoking as a teenager, and really took off when he started uni. I get sick of people laughing at cannabis use, saying it's only cannabis, just a bit of weed. When we found out he was using, we did all we could to dissuade him, but at the time every bit of evidence we found re it's dangers, he produced others saying it was harmless, safer than tobacco, the government are considering legalisation so it must be safe, etc etc. His use has destroyed our family dynamic, We still have a relationship with him, despite him attacking DH in our kitchen, and threatening to stab his flat mate due to paranoia thus lead to his sectioning, and the start of him getting away from it's use. DD will have nothing to do with him, due to the way he treated us, which makes, what should be fun family occasions, such as Chrstmas a strained day, with us just hoping to get through the day, without a major row breaking out. We know of about 7 other families with the same issues. Cannabis is a filthy, life destroying drug, that has infiltrated our society, ignored by most politicians, encouraged by some, and is destroying lives. It should be made prescription only, and illegal users should be heavily punished until it's use is driven out. So to all those who laugh and say 'it's only a bit if weed' I hope you and your loved ones are the lucky ones and get away with it's use. With what I know now, I would report it. If they are minors and their dad is in the police and allowing it then he is stupid and not fit for the responsibility he holds. In the police he would have seen first hand the effects if the drug, and the problems caused by the dealers. By doing nothing he is complicit in an illegal trade.

Noones bitter you just sound like an utter prat. But in case it’s not completely
clear by this point - no you shouldn’t report your neighbour to his work because his teenage son is smoking weed. I’m embarrassed for you.

Medicinal users who are prescribed cannabis do not smoke the drug, it is taken as a tincture or in the form of edibles, because smoking anything is unhealthy.

Quite a lot of people also take it illegally for recreational use, without smoking it, so obviously much more discreet.

This means that people in positions of public trust could take it without their pearl clutching neighbours knowing a thing.

If you click on ‘see all’ at the bottom of the OP, you’ll see the apology from OP, which explains all.

Good of you to apologise OP, but I must admit I did chuckle at the desperate attempts to stop the thread 😂
It was the “settings” and then “settings to stop notifications” that really killed me 😅

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What on earth are you doing? Typing words doesn't make anything happen. 🤣 It's MN, not Alexa.

As for passively getting high, do you have any idea how ridiculous that is? Just learn to mind your own business, you sound like the local curtain twitcher. What's next, checking his recycling?

Or at its best if you find it really funny.