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to stop extra flexibility after my manager imposed office hours?

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LouuLou · 15/05/2026 13:02

I work in a small office team of five people. I’m the only full-time member of staff, everyone else is part time. We had a new manager start last year and honestly, up until now, things have been really good. We get on well, I like his management style and he has always said he cared more about people getting the work done than clock-watching.

I work very hard. I consistently hit targets, usually go beyond what is expected, and I won an achievement award last month. I also work very flexibly. I regularly start work at 7am, answer emails early, and will often still be available after 6pm. I usually work through lunch too. That flexibility has suited both the organisation and me because it means things get done quickly and I can also fit other parts of life around work. It is one of the things I am regularly complimented on - how quick I get tasks done.

Out of nowhere, he has now announced that I have to be physically in the office 9–5 three days a week. No actual problem has been identified, no concerns raised about my performance, no suggestion that work isn’t getting done. The explanation was basically that he “wants to try something different”.

Fine. He is the manager and he is entitled to set office hours if he wants to. I’m not arguing with that part.

But my feeling is that if he now wants strict contracted hours and presenteeism, then that is exactly what he will get. I no longer see the point in starting at 7am, replying to messages before work, being available into the evening or working through lunch. I’m planning to work my contracted hours, take a proper hour lunch break and log off at the end of the day.

I know this will reduce the amount I actually get done overall. But another part of me thinks flexibility works both ways. If management removes trust and autonomy, they can’t really expect staff to continue giving unpaid goodwill on top.

OP posts:
peppaispoop · Today 07:26

I’d find that odd for my colleague to be reading a book for several hours of the day as they say they’ve finished their work. Surely you have other things you can do? Or is your job just reactive?

LouuLou · Today 08:09

ClayPotaLot · Yesterday 23:05

What are the arrangements for lunch when he isn't in the office?

Sometimes I will stay in the office and have a leisurely lunch there like I did yesterday.

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LouuLou · Today 08:12

SadieB00 · Today 06:04

it is great to see you are enjoying more balance with this new way of working. Can I ask what the company’s expectation is when you are finished your work? The reason I ask is that I would expect when people are super busy that they still only do what is deemed manageable in a working day (however many hours that is), I would not expect people to do ten hours work in 7 hours time for example. Essentially - the company is paying you for a certain time period, they are not and should not expect you to do double the measured work in any given day. No one can do (genuinely) the work of two people in a day and get the same required quality, it’s not realistic or sustainable. I would therefore expect good quality work, at a measured level and a conversation that says - Hi, I’ve finished everything that came in today and I’ve 3 hours left, is there anything else you would like prioritised or considered / planned / started before I finish? I find, from reading this whole thread that the biggest issue to be one of communication, one in the way he has communicated an ask to you that we cannot seem to fathom why and the other your reluctance to face into conversation and only answer the questions he asks - it’s almost like quiet quitting.

The work is project based. Some months are very busy and some are very quiet. It all balances out so it is not expected to fill a quiet day to the max. I have also set up systems so some work can be done very quickly. I do report writing all year round so now the reports are easy to throw together whereas they would take up huge swathes of time.

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LouuLou · Today 08:13

peppaispoop · Today 07:26

I’d find that odd for my colleague to be reading a book for several hours of the day as they say they’ve finished their work. Surely you have other things you can do? Or is your job just reactive?

I am already doing prep for work in November so I am well ahead. Work is project based so there are often gaps. Plenty of time to read a book or two!

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pragmatismuniversalsentimentalist · Today 08:31

LouuLou · 15/05/2026 15:37

I enjoy the job and have enjoyed the flexibility. It has worked well with the DC. He is a parent but his wife is a SAHM so all school runs, illnesses and holidays are covered by her.

I am half thinking maybe it is time to move on.

Are you covering school runs every day?

Meaning you potentially arent available for a 9am call, or a 3pm call?

Personally as a manager id rather you worked 9-5 like the rest of the team.

Out of hours 'issues' and problems dont actually happen nearly as frequently as the 'i work flexibly' brigade like to claim and its actually more of an issue that you cant ever get hold of them for 40 minutes at 9 and 3 every single because they are on the school run.

Then needless to say they are markedly less responsive between 3 and 5 because they are caring for young kids. Its not actually useful to anyone than an email at 7pm might get picked up when you need them at 3.20pm.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · Today 08:34

pragmatismuniversalsentimentalist · Today 08:31

Are you covering school runs every day?

Meaning you potentially arent available for a 9am call, or a 3pm call?

Personally as a manager id rather you worked 9-5 like the rest of the team.

Out of hours 'issues' and problems dont actually happen nearly as frequently as the 'i work flexibly' brigade like to claim and its actually more of an issue that you cant ever get hold of them for 40 minutes at 9 and 3 every single because they are on the school run.

Then needless to say they are markedly less responsive between 3 and 5 because they are caring for young kids. Its not actually useful to anyone than an email at 7pm might get picked up when you need them at 3.20pm.

She does do 9-5. Manager is……..having to suck it up.

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